NEED to vent!!!!!

[tutewidobaby]

I'm super stressed out. My little guy is due in a few days and I should be focused on that excitement, but I can't. My hubby is getting out of the military in October and does not have a job lined up yet. We also have no idea where we will move to (his fam is on the east coast and mine is on the west coast)... So along with that, I'm worried about getting medical coverage for all three of us after we leave the military... Then there's the fact that the person I thought was my best friend is saying really nasty things about me (it started last month when she refused to drive ten miles to my baby shower because she wanted me to go to her house afterwards... keep in mind that I had driven 1100 miles to my parents for the baby shower and she wouldn't drive ten miles to visit while I was in town...) Also, living over a thousand miles away from my family is hard, especially because out of my eight siblings, only one keeps in touch with me :-[ grrrrr, I'm done ranting...

[reilymom]

My hubby and I have been going through a similar situation, baby due sept 29, lease up sept 9, husband looking for a job starting in Nov, and worry about insurance. Just remember that it all works out and there are always options.
I may need to remember that ice pack thing, my girl is already aiming high with her kicks :)

[tamirataylor]

Believe it or not your situation is not totally hopeless :-) I am assuming u guys are utilixing the va onestop which says it all its for soldiers transitionong to civiallian life I was in the army for 10 yrs and had a similiar situation occur I got all the info I needed plus some I didn't lol u can also go online usajobs has a lot of usrfull tips and also Iam from east tx I currently reside there the va system is pretty decent I had people who helped right away as far ad your friend I can't tell u what to do but as for myself I would let go for now bc you have so much more to focus on and I also wanted to tell u if u guys decide where to live as soon as possible let that specific va know so they can get started on helping u guys.....I hope this helps and congratulations

[shastas84]

Ice pack???? OK Mrs. Sensible Lol...j/k I am so going to have to try that! A) I'm hot any way B) when this one gets up in my ribs she is still small enough her feet go between them and take an organ along for the ride. C) it is definitely a lot smarter & easier than what I have come up with. Thanks bunches for the idea! :D

[PhysicsMommy]

I'm not much help with everything else except to echo what shastas but for the ribs have you tried an ice pack just under your breast?  It moved my little guy down and gave me a ton of relief.

[tutewidobaby]

:-) the only thing that works is having my hubby talk to him then he relaxes... trampoline you say?????  :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) :-) jk, I can barely walk so I think jumping would be a disaster.

[shastas84]

I feel you. My current youngest liked to sit high and in my ribs. I at one point seriously considered a head stand, he wanted to be high so my desperate thought pattern said if I am upside down then what is high to him would change. Not sure if it would have worked. I couldn't manage to do it alone and couldn't convince anyone to help. Lol I also thought about jumping on a trampoline and shaking his little butt down. Again I got over ruled. :( lol

[tutewidobaby]

Thank you for beimg so positive and a huge help! It helps having an ear listening to my problems :-) Now, if I could only get my little man to stop gettimg wedged up by my ribs... (seriously, it hurts so bad I can barely breathe lol) So little and he's already giving me a run for my money :-P

[shastas84]

See? Progress. You've narrowed down the choice to west but not north. :) take the small victories. When we moved my hubby and I sat down and listed all 50 states. Then we crossed off any that we didn't like what we knew of. Is: to hot / cold. Then pulled up each states data online and compared housing, cost of living, job market, etc..for the states that were left. When we picked out a state we looked regionally and then city by city. It took us only about a week or so. Something you can maybe try. I know sometimes it helps just to have something to be working on. Hope this helps.

[tutewidobaby]

I wish I did know where I wanted to go after. Cali is too expensive and it's only home because that's where my fam is. I wouldn't want to move back there at all. BUT I don't want to move somewhere that has really harsh winters either. We are hoping for east tx. I heard that tricare is only valid for six months after we're officially out. Gahhhhh... Im just overwhelmed

[shastas84]

Sounds like you have made up your mind where you want to live after service. You sound really close to your family. Does he not get to keep his tricare? Must be dependant on time in and branch but look into it. Also there is a website called life after the service (or something similar) that may help you find resources and ideas. Put the ex-bestie out of your mind. She doesn't sound worth your time. (Easy to say I know) Hope you can find a way to be able to feel more settled.