pls advice me

[qilal]

Ok i need to get this out of my chest my partner has son from previous relationship n normally i love that kid but the last few months i feel that my partner is making me hate the kid because when ever the child come to visit he forget about me n i mean they spend the hole day n he sleeps with his child at night, the kids his father is over doing it some of things the child do i will not allow it for my own to behavior that way n i don't wish treat any child bad or my partner but feel sick n just want to leave them not be part of they life

just wanna know if i am wrong to feel this way

[qilal]

Thanks girls some of you are correct i was jealous n am not n was never like that before my pregnancy n thank to God i don't feel that way today i feel so wrong for posting that now my husband is a kind n attentive to his child n  that  why i felt in love with him but this hormones are too much sometimes i am not myself

oh again thanks for the advice n the judgemental one its sad how you all rush to judging people still thankyou

[lpnmom41]

I kind of understand what your saying but I think maybe he is just being overly attentive to the child now because he feels bad he is getting ready to have another child that he will get to be with fulltime and he wants his son to know that he loves him just as much as the new baby. I would try to involve yourself in the step child's life as much as possible and let him know you care about him too. Then talk with his dad about some of the behaviors your concerned with and set up house rules you can both agree on. If you and him split up over this your baby is eventually going to have a step mom and how would you want them to treat your child while they have him. Pregnancy is hard and little things that normally wouldn't bother us do. Just be patient :)

[GigiBella]

I really dont understand being jealous and resentful of his relationship with his child.seems more about attention your not getting vs anything the childs doing.Hopefully your just hormonal :/

[BeautyDefined]

Um obviously if this partner is spending time with his current child he'll be just as attentive to the new one. This coming from a man's perspective.

[202Tia]

You sound hormonal and everyone is being a tad bit judgemental. Talk with your partner. I have a step son and I didn't have any children with my husband for a long time. He would let his son get away with things because he wasn't with him all the time. Wait till he leaves to go back with his mom and then talk to him and tell your partner how you feel. New actions bring up new feelings. Its understandable.

[mrs_farris]

Maybe the boy has a recent fear of the dark and he is sleeping in there to comfort him.

[ftm502]

Sounds like your jealous of a his kid. Hes seems like a good affectionate father. Don't you want him to be this way with your child together?

[amarie0082]

He should be spending time with his child.  I would be upset with my partner if he didn't.  However sleeping with the kid seems a bit excessive if he didn't do that before.  Maybe the child is feeling insecure because of the new baby on the way and he is worried that his dad will live the new baby more.  (I am assuming you're pregnant since you're n this forum).  Maybe instead of resenting the child, get involved as well and spend time with him and your partner as a family.  

[mrs_farris]

Would you like it if he were ignoring his child. From what you wrote, you are in the wrong.  You hate the child, how cruel. You sound jealous of a child.

[dandi2014]

Speak with your partner.
But remember, this is his child, he is supposed to be a supportive attentive father and you cannot feel angry with the child ("making you hate the kid")
-as it sounds like you are?
Any issues you need to address to the father, it is never the childs fault.
I don't understand the problem in full, but I think if you speak with him you might be able to learn more about the situation/relationship and have a greater understanding.
Good luck!