So much for family

[425tips]

Everyone so negative by that i mean uncles and aunties and his fam 2 . I feel like everyone looking down at me like me and bf wont be handle a baby . Im 23 and his 26 i turn 5 years on these May with him. I never felt so happy in my life knowing were having baby . I love him to death and his my best friend always there for me . I found out yesterday from my sis im not having a baby shower because she said when my parents and her went to family party which i didnt go , i just stop going to family events everyone be so negative . Well my sis said i was getting criticise and made fun off and my mom got mad . I mean thats f#ck up !!!! My mom says she will rader waste money on baby products then have criticising people just come over and make me feel bad. Im feel awful , my baby dousnt deserve that. Is not like there kids are any better.

[425tips]

Thank you ladies , i havent even told my bf about it knowing  him his going to be pissed and feel all left out from my family . Last time we went to one of his family parties and some of his family pulled him  to the side without me asking him if he was happy and sure if he wanted to be my baby daddy. He got mad and said why wouldnt  i been with her for 5 years and we planned the baby.His mom Hasnt made the effort to meet my parents im 29 weeks pregnant sometimes i feel like she dousnt want 2 and she knows how long we been together. and to top it off she was drunk crying at the party because my bf didnt want to dance like OMG i just wanted to leave.Im glad his bros are happy but i feel like they think of me as antisocial since we hardly come around.I admit we storm out that day we were pissed i was just feeling bad like why did even come they made it seem like i was just a one night stand.  I just feel like our friends seem more happy .

[KristiGG]

Wow i am so sorry! But it is good your mom doesn't want people like that around and is will to just help buy what you need.  It means she is on your side.  But yes still have a shower.  It doesnt have to be extravagant.  Have your sister and mom and anyone supportive in his family and friends.  You could even do a couples shower if you want your boyfriend there.  You should get to celebrate baby.  You have been with this guy 5 years, why would anyone give you a hard time for being pregnant with his child.  I was 23 and had been with my husband 5 years when we got pregnant with our first.  We were married at 21 but a lot of ppl were mad about that saying we were too young.  No one is ever happy to just let ppl be happy so like everyone said...cut them out, you dont need them!

[Daniellewardwell]

I feel you girl I'm 25 I have a5 year old in 3 year old and I am 28 weeks pregnant and my mom absolutely hate my boyfriend she had said at one point that she hopes that I can't carry the baby full term because she wants nothing to do with it because its a Part of him. things are getting better with her but you cannot let the negativity get to you it is so stressful luckily his mother supportive of me and my other 2 kids that are not his me and him have been together for almost 2 years so my kids know him as Dad. be happy and don't stress out you have a beautiful baby in u.

[likklehev]

Just cut the negative people out of your life as long as you know youll be good parents and are happy that you will be great parents then you will be dont ley anyone fetch you down ignore all the negatives and concentrate on you new little family

[canadiana]

My parents are really supportive, but my partner's mother hates me. She sent me a harassing email and called her son, telling him not to start a family with me. He's upset now and feels like we made a mistake (even though this baby was planned) and I'm going to say it's her fault. Some people just can't be happy unless things go the way they want, and they don't think of other people's feelings when they share their opinion. I'm trying not to let her upset me, and the support from my own family (and some friends that I told because I needed someone to talk to) has been really helpful. If your family isn't being supportive, don't exhaust yourself for their sake. If you have friends, or if your partner is on your side, focus on them. The fact is, this baby is happening, and you can make all those negative people eat their own words when it's born and you show them now good of a mom you can be.

[loveontop2014]

And this is your moment and your time! My husband and I got married at the court house while he was home for R&R due to him being deployed. A week later he had to go back overseas to finish his tour. While he was away I was planning our wedding, and realized just because people are family doesn't mean they are for you and supportive. I invited the ones who mattered and even some of those showed their true colors. Don't stress yourself because the ones who care, truly care, will show you.

[425tips]

Yeah got me to tears . Why does someone need to hate if im happy . Im old enough and so what if im not married , i live with him and plan to get married  one day when  is the right time and money . I dont recalled  them being married . I honestly just feel like my kid dousnt need to be around negative people.

[loveontop2014]

That is so sad you are going through this. I say have a baby shower and only invite the ones who are truly happy for you. If that's none of your family, then only have your mom, sister, and friends. Surround yourself with ones who love, care, and are excited for you. Don't miss out because of them. Good luck and best wishes!