wish baby shower was sooner

[wishes2891]

I really wish when people plan you a baby shower they wouldn't wait so long in the pregnancy. I really appreciate that I have a friend wanting to throw me one bc we've had a really hard time this winter. Hubby works construction and there has been so many snow days and days off bc of ice or frigid temps and it's put us so far behind on all our bills. Our tax refund will be coming soon but every dime of it will be used to catch us up. It would just be really nice to have the baby shower over so I cam figure out what is still needed and have time to squeeze it into the budget. I have 10 wks left so I know I should just relax but it's so hard lol.

[wishes2891]

Oh I am definitely glad I'm having one. I didn't orginally want one bc I hate being the center of attention and having everyone watching me but we do need the stuff. After we had our last we gave everything except the cradle and crib away bc we planned on her being our very last. I even said to my hubby before we got pregnant the last time that we've never had an accident or even a scare in our 13yrs of marriage so if we were going to have one last baby we needed to make decision or forget about it. We decided to have one more and them bam a year and a half later i was accidentally pregnant with this one lol. With my other two I kept everything for years just in case but after my last daughter i heard a cousin was pregnant and gave all the infant stuff away thinking it was the perfect time to declutter. Silly silly me lol.

[pregoX3]

I am in the same boat as naru89...be glad you know you are having one! I have no idea so I don't know if I should start looking for anything.

[naru89]

At least you know your haveing one no one has said anything to me and when i bring it up my mom changea the subject

[wishes2891]

She actually just sent me a message about an hour ago asking me my due date again so she can get the baby shower date set. Hopefully she'll set it for sooner rather than later.

[susamor]

I felt worried about how much money we would need for baby expenses even BEFORE I was pregnant! So what I did was go to the baby store and get familiar with how much things cost and which things in particular I would want. I even printed out a list of all the things I'd need and how much it would cost and so I could just cross it off as I bought it or was given it. I have to stop myself from buying more baby things because I might get them in my baby shower which is on 03/01 and I'm due 03/28.  I'm a "make a list" kind of person, idk if you are too, but that helped feel less nervous and more in control, having a plan.

[nik2153]

My shower was suppose to be a surprise and my friend thought that date was wrong. The crazy thing in my case is that he harassed me for a guest list early on which I gave him when I was about 5-6 mths preg. In your case I would just say try to have the basics so if you do deliver you'll be a little prepared. You definitely cannot have too many diapers and wipes. Also I found myself just picking up items that were on sale or a bargain that couldn't be refused so that way the cost can be spread out over time.

[BrittanyStarburst]

You could also do a "Diaper party"

[wishes2891]

Yeah a shower after the baby wouldn't be much help at all lol.

[wishes2891]

That's the problem I don't even know yet! She's chosen the location and made me send her a guest list but hasn't set the date yet. I would offer to help as a way of moving things along but I can't afford to help out and I don't want to just flat out ask her to get the date set bc I feel that would be rude. With my first baby (13yrs ago yikes! ) the friend who planned that shower set the date just one week before my due date.

[nik2153]

You are lucky that you have the opportunity to see what will be purchased so you can work from that. My boyfriend and his mother are giving me a shower but not until 3/22 and I'm due 2/22. So I had to pretty much purchase everything on my own from diapers/ wipes to the stroller/car seat.

[julz25]

When is the shower?