worried mother

[kym2911]

Hi, im 28 weeks pregnant with my second child. Ive been to the midwifes and they are scaring me saying I need to have a c-section as my bmi is 42. Yes ive put a little weight on since being pregnant for the second time but tbh im not that big. But the midwifes are making a huge deal out of it and gettng me so scared to the point im terrified of labour. My first labour was as easy as it comes. I just want to ask if people are in my situation and what to do about it. Thanks for reading :) xx

[lala_mommy]

Completely agree with KristiGG.
Your health and baby's health is priority, and I'm also not familiar with BMI but in my first pregnancy I weighed 150 lbs pre-pregnancy with 5'3 - gained 50-55 lbs in the process and had a successful vaginal delivery with my oldest weighing 9 lbs 2 oz. Of course it may not be healthy because health risks can occur but they should be more supportive of your decisions and personally I'd ask for a second opinion you still have time. Best wishes!

[KristiGG]

I literally know nothing about bmi.  I completely ignore it to be honest.  I think it is a horrible and inaccurate way of deciding peoples health.  I am 5'11" and even when I was wearing a size 4 pants that only stayed up with a belt my bmi said I was over weight.  It ended up causing me to have an eating disorder in high school (I am no longer a size 4 and I blame my eating disorder and bmi on my current problems with losing weight).  Just a month ago my daughters doctor looked at her weight and height and said how she was just right and healthy but then she looked at the bmi the nurse wrote down and said "oh actually according to her bmi she is overweight"...my daughter just turned 4!!! Her favorite foods are salmon just baked with olive oil, hummus with carrots and broccoli.   She actually chooses all her meals for preschool bc she only eats healthy.  And her preschool is at a health club and the teachers say how good she is at the nutrition part.  As you can see bmi gets me steaming pretty bad!  I agree work with a doctor to give you your best chances, but I also think you should work with a doctor that wants you to succeed.  I dont know where you are but I find university hospitals great.  The doctors also research so you can find someone that specializes in your area and knows all the facts.  Good luck and feel free to message me anytime.

[wishes2891]

I agree with turtle414 your midwives are looking out for the safety of your baby. You may not feel that big but you're still not at a healthy weight. A Csection is scary but very safe now a days. I have a friend who has had five. If you really want to try natural talk to your midwives and see about changing your diet safely. You're only 28 weeks that still gives you 12 wks to work on bringing your BMI down just make sure you do it in safe way with the help of your midwives.

[turtle414]

Bmi over 40 is considered morbidly obese and there are significant studies showing that babies born vaginally to women that heavy are at 3-4x the risk for decreased blood flow, decreased oxygen, even stillborn. They're recommending a csection for your health and the health of your baby.

[KristiGG]

I am not fully in the situation but was told I couldnt gain above a certain amount if I want a successful vbac.  I honestly dont know my bmi but my doctor wasnt happy eith it hence my weight gain rules.  However I am apart of a vbac group on FB and a lot of women much larger than me gain much more than my restrictions and have had a very successful vbac (and this is after 2 or more csections).  I would not listen to them.  Instead look for a different office if you dont feel they support you giving birth the way you want to.  The only reason you couldnt do it is if you think you couldnt do it.  And they are putting that idea in your head.  You got this, now just get proper support.  You could google midwives/doctors that specialize in your concerns.  

[ohnoitzmeme]

That doesn't sound right... you shouldn't have to have a c section due to your BMI being 42. I would maybe get a second opinion especially if they push it too much. Quite a few c sections are done when they aren't necessary. I would have an in depth discussion with your midwife about the situation.