Partner doesn't want bub

[bluestOcean1]

Ok.. Soo, I've just found out i'm pregnant (after a missed period and 3 positive pregnancy tests) I told my partner and he doesn't want to keep bub because we haven't got jobs or a perminate place to stay.. I'm VERY determined to change that. I've always been against terminating a pregnany. He loves me and wants to have kids but wants to terminate bub so we can get on our feet and try again. This was an unexpected pregnancy. Anything I say or do isn't changing his mind. I'm afraid of losing him because my mind is dead set on keeping our baby. Need some advice or something. Please help!!

[candydiamonds]

you should NEVER get rid of your baby because he doesnt want it , its his fault the baby is very much alive ...

[Mia86]

My daughter also got pregnant When She was 17 and her boyfriend dumped her,  she also found out her daughter was going to be disabled and had her full term and she is the most beautiful and LOVING  little girl,  she is a precious gift from GOD.  My daughter also had another child single at 20 and he is so handsome a hand full to.  She would never trade anything for those kids and loves  them so much,  she is a great mother and u can be to.  Don't do ANYTHING u will regret. Please think before u have an abortion,  a child is the greatest gift from GOD, if your family said they would be there for u then they will,  that is what i told her and I have been there from day one.  

[LaDolcePuni]

i told my bf today that im pregnant and without even thinking for 1 second he said i have to make it away and if i dont he wont be there for us. she always said he wants a baby with me but it wasnt planned for now. so we just broke up.. or HE broke up. but i will make it without him and u will make it without him too if he doesnt change his mind. thats when it shows if he really loves u.. i hope things will be good for u in the end and ur sweety aint the same assholr as mine. all the best for u.

[BreezyH]

You will seriously regret aborting your baby. Please don't do that, you can get put on food stamps and wic, just go to the human services department where you live and get help.

[Nina159]

Im 17 and haveing a baby ik its hard but theirs placeses that can help you for instence i have all my babys things already this early and all i wausted is 40$ on a crib and bascenet im sure you can do it and you have ur familys support but at the end of the day its ur choice good luck

[Clysta]

And you can still do them. Adoption everyone can win, abortion.... At least your child CAN have life. Just think about it. You aren't however a child anymore. When you make the choice for sex, especially if it's unprotected, that changes extremelly fast and you have to grow up far faster than you should have.

[bluestOcean1]

I wouldn't be able to go full term and just give my baby away. You all have been a big help but i'm not even 18 yet.. There are things I still want to go out and do.. I'm a baby myself.

[Clysta]

Ahh, YOU'RE 17. Misread that. Anyways, just consider what you're doing and how that can affect you later. Or why not try adoption? There are many families out there who desperately want children and can't have them. It gives the child a chance at life and you to rebuild and work on yours.

[Clysta]

Wait, 5 years older than you? And he's 17?

[bluestOcean1]

I don't have a problem with second hand things. But you cannot bring a baby into the world where one person is getting 400$ a fortnight. It's not possible to pay rent, eat and have nappies etc for bub. We have struggled for months and months and gone without food, babies can't go without food. We've decided we can't do it.

[mummy2fivekiddies]

Hi...

Good, It's nice to have that family support. As for babies being expensive, they are but there are ways around that. Do you know a site called E-bay, well that's where I got most of my baby clothes, some are used and some are new, there is nothing wrong with them. Baby furniture you can pick from there too, or see if you know of anyone who's had a baby and wants to get rid of the things their baby does not need any more. But believe me, you can do It. x

[bluestOcean1]

Just told my family today and they all want me to keep bub. Soo confused at the moment. My partner only gets a few $$ a fortnight and i get nothing.. I can't see it working out, babies are veryr expensive.

[mummy2fivekiddies]

You have to do what YOU want to do. Not what he decides! I had my first child at the age of 17, and I can tell you It was the BEST thing I ever did!! I too didn't have anywhere decent to live, my partner left me, but I managed and everything worked out! Believe me, you can do It. But listen to what you want to do, not what he wants you to do. Think very carefully before you make any kind of decision, because you don't want to end up regretting the decision you made.
Take care and all the best! x

[bluestOcean1]

I'm only 17 and he wants to be able to support me and bub. I had a drs appointment today so see about an abortion and I really don't think I can do it. We have been kicked out 3 times of where we have been living.. If I keep bub I can't exactly have that happening. He's 5 years older than me and he does want kids but he's also dealing with a lot.

[stacey10]

keep your baby, if he loved you he wouldnt ask you to do this, every now and again things pop up in life that change or paths, this is one of those things, you have already said that you want this baby, so how could you go through with a termination.... also how could you stay with someone who gets you to terminate a pregnancy, then in a few years wants to have a baby, nope, even if you do end up by loosing him, you will still have your precious bundle, people come and go in life but babies/children dont, also this may be the motivator that is needed to get a job etc, imagine if you terminated for his reasons, only to find that he never got a job etc