Possible to be pregnant after having a (shorter, much lighter period)?

[DreamingPoet25]

Hello, all!  I'm new to the board.  My (now ex) boyfriend and I made love on 1/26 without protection, and he did pull out, though I know that is not a very effective form of BC.  Anyway, my period prior to that possible DOC was 1/12 or 1/14 (can't remember).  Since about two weeks after possible DOC, I have had faintness/dizziness, nausea (no vomiting) especially when I smoke (have been smoking for 4 years and not once has it made me want to puke), mild cramping, breast tenderness, veins in breast seem to be 'standing out' more than usual, and a strange pulling sensation when I stand up (which I assume could be ligament stretching).  I had a 'period' on 2/14.  My normal periods last for about 7 days and are very heavy.  This was very light (I cramped about the first 12 hours; normally, I cramp strongly throughout entire period), and it stopped on 2/17.  Two days after that, I had a clear discharge with some slight brown coloring in it.  My normal luteul (sp?) discharge has increased significantly, and it's going from clear to milky white, slightly thick.

I took two pregnancy tests, the last of which was on 2/19 or 2/20, both were negative.  I have an appointment in the morning for the beta hcg (blood) test, and I'm hoping that will ease my mind either way.  I was just wondering if you ladies thought that I'm faking my body out, or if there is an actual chance I am pregnant.  Only two of my friends think it sounds possible; the other ones just seem to be in denial. :)'

Thanks so much, ladies!!  
Lindsay

PS  This would be my first child, obviously. :)

[jluhart]

Sounds like you had a period.  Implantation bleeding only lasts a day or so and is very light.  With the period and negative pregnancy test, I would say that you aren't pregnant.  Are you trying to get pregnant or just not using birth control?

[cinnamonheart]

First off if you took two pregnancies test and they are negative I would assume your not!!
Why would you have unprotected sex is my question especially since your not married
Now your BF is your Ex ! why would your friends be in denial? I hope they would have your best interest at heart
Bringing a baby into this world isnt a game

Hope you get the results you want

[DreamingPoet25]

Okay, I guess I'll respond kindly, unlike the way Cinnamon responded. :)  No, I'm not married, and really, morally speaking, it wasn't right.  It's someone that I THOUGHT I was going to marry, and unfortunately, after EIGHT years, things didn't work out.  I don't recall saying that bringing a child into this world was a game, and I certainly don't think that way.  I'll thank you to keep your judgments to yourself; the last time I checked, God was still on His throne, and I've answered to Him about this already.

As far as the symptoms go, they are still very strong, but I have heard that by worrying about it, you can fake your body out, and a woman will experience actual physical changes, based on concerns of being pregnant.  This could, quite possibly, be the case.  Since I do have a not-so-great habit (i.e. smoking), I was more concerned about ectopic and/or harming a baby, if I am by some crazy odds pregnant.  

Thanks for responding, though.  I guess I'll find out in the next 48 hours.

[ham422]

my only answer to you is that i had regular periods my whole life, until my dh and i started to try to have a family, then i missed 2 periods, then got one, then i was late and so on. you can definetly wish your body into pg symptoms. i would also say, that your not pg if you got 2 negs. i also have no room to judge, i did things in my past too, but the pull out method is not very safe.and as for smoking, if you happen to be pg, you have until the baby is 8 weeks along to quit. that is when the baby is offically hooked up to you and getting what you put into your body .

[DreamingPoet25]

Thanks for such a kind and informative response, Ham.  I was wondering about when the smoking would affect the baby. Honestly, I'm not ready to stop smoking, but if pregnancy was confirmed, I would drop it right then and there.  I just don't feel quite right and haven't for several weeks.  I guess I would be nearing seven or eight weeks, wouldn't I, if LMP was around 1/14??

[cinnamonheart]

Hey  I wasnt being unkind!
Just telling it like it is
These posts are for comments and that was mine
If you dont want to get pregnant why have unprotected sex!
If you are trying why would you try to have a baby with a boyfriend that is now your ex  obviously you had problems with him or he wouldnt be your ex now!That was just recently from what you were saying

[cinnamonheart]

About smoking this came up on open Forum today Tues March 8
Blondie sumed it up!!
Any smoking has it affects on the baby
check out the forum

[blondie72]

YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I totally agree.  You were NOT being unkind.  You are like the Simon Cowell of the pregnancy board.  Just Kidding LOL!!!!!!!!!  If you do not know him he is from American Idol.   Sometimes you just have to tell it like it is and hope for the best.  I agree though if you do NOT want to be pregnant protect yourself.

[cinnamonheart]

Hey sure I know who Simon is
and Ill take that as a compliment!  We all know he is a little harsh but he is always right

[Stacie30]

It's possible that you are, but after this long 2 pregnancy tests should have been accurate. You are right to do the beta if for nothing other than your piece of mind. As for faking your body out, I think you can. I'm pretty sure I have a couple of times in my 5 years of trying to get pregnant. (ok more than a couple)

Good luck how ever everything turns out, and let me just apologize for the stone throwing thats happened to you in this thread. We have lots of hormones running rampant on this board some days. my own included sometimes. LOL

the way i figure it, if you can live with yourself who cares what anyone else thinks right?

Let us know what happens.

Stacie

[DreamingPoet25]

Thanks for your kindness! :)  I understand the hormones running rampant. I just don't need the judgment, ya' know?  Do I want to be pregnant at this point in my life?  Not particularly?  Would I rid myself of it if I was pregnant?  Not in a million years.  I loved the (potential) father very much, but unfortunately, like the song says, sometimes love's not enough.  You think you know someone after EIGHT years, and wham--huge surprise--you never did, and you find it out the hard way.  Things were not always fabulous between us, but if I had known how things were going to end up, I wouldn't have made the decision I did.  You live, you learn, you receive God's forgiveness, and you go on.  And, hopefully, within the next 48 hours, I'll know one way or the other how my life will be from this point on, with regards to motherhood.

Thank you again for your kindness. :)  I hope that things work out well for you.

[DreamingPoet25]

To you two ladies, I have just a few concerns/comments.  First of all, I, too, have been very hormonal lately, so pardon me for MY outburst; I'll excuse yours, if you'll excuse mine. ;-) Secondly, with regards to why I wasn't using protection, see post to Stacie30.  While I understand your points of view, please understand mine.  This board, from what I gathered, is about sharing medical news, opinions, etc, and helping each other; it's not about lecturing or coming off as a bunch of "Simons" from American Idol.  I don't respect him, and I don't respect anyone who pretends to know everything and downs others who have questions.  Perhaps you are more knowledgable in the area of conception, pregnancy stages, etc.  That, however, doesn't give you the right to judge those of us who came here looking for some sort of support and perhaps some sort of personal insight from others who may have also gone through this sort of thing.  Just please keep in mind, the next time you make a statement or 'tell it like it is' (or like you THINK it is), you might be the only source a person has.

I wish you both lots of luck on conceiving.

[cinnamonheart]

Like YOU said its our opinions!! so relax!
I wasnt being rude I just dont believe in having unprotected sex if your intention is not to have a baby  why put a baby in the middle of something that is not already stable, Yes suprises can happen!that is a different story. When you post a question sometimes people will not always agree with what you say  and sometimes support  isnt always what you want to hear (its reality)Like the smoking comments - some smoke -some dont - its everyones opinion!
My hormones are just fine, And thanks for your wishes for concieving but IM DONE. If you find your pregnant Im glad for you (if this is what u want)

[blondie72]

DIDDO on the last comment made by Cinnamonheart.  I was NOT judging you.  I will not do that.  I am not put on this earth to judge ANYONE.  What you do with your life is your business and noone elses.  I just agree with Cinnamon and if you play with fire you are bound to get burned.  I agree when she says why put an innocent little baby in the middle of anything.  I am sorry you are having to go through this.  Yes this board is for support but like Cinnamon said you are going to get a few who are not going to agree with everything and they will give their 2 cents.  We are all entitled to our own opinions and it does not mean we do not like you or we are judging you.  I wish you the best of luck and I hope all works out for you in the end.   Good Luck to you and Take Care

[jluhart]

I think what it comes down to is this, if you don't want to be pregnant, don't have unprotected sex.  It's that simple.  This isn't an opinion or a judgment, but a scientific fact.  I think that is where the suprise comes from when we get posts about being scared or worried about being pregnant if you had unprotected sex and did not want to become so.  Not putting on a condom, not taking a birth control pill, or not abstaining is a choice not an accident.  Again, not an opinion or judgment, but a fact.  I feel the same way about not wearing a seat belt.

[DreamingPoet25]

Take a step back and read Cinnamon's first comment, it seems to be judgmental--sorry if that offends.  Sure, I understand that everyone has opinions and you are certainly entitled to yours.  It was completely irresponsible for me NOT to use protection, because quite frankly and as stated before, now is not the optimal time for me to bring a baby into the picture.  I certainly don't want my child to grow up with a part-time dad, either.  However, everyone makes mistakes in judgment and in decisions.  I thought, also as stated before, that this man and I would be together forever, and he wasn't just a casual fling.  This has been a close friend for eight years, and for six years, a lover.  The splitting up part was a rude awakening and was not something I wanted or saw coming; he got caught, basically.  And, now that everything has happened, I'm hearing 'reports' from all over about who he really has been all these years, which is not the person I've known.  So, add to that confusion the possibility of having his child, you get me...a very concerned, somewhat worried, me.  I told you all yesterday that if I am pregnant (and, I should know something by tomorrow morning, as I had my beta hcg test performed this morning), I will embrace that baby as a blessing and start life as a mom.  If I'm not, I've learned a lesson and will not be so quick to make the same mistakes in the future.

Thanks for listening.

PS  There are worse things out there for those who don't use protection than getting pregnant.  With him, I have been fortunate in that area.  And, I agree; it's like not wearing a seatbelt driving 95 mph.

[qw]

Good luck to you. I hope you get the result you want. Btw why won't they have the results back until tomorrow? I know each place is different, but the lab told me it only takes an hour. I know waiting can be stressful so if you want to chat let me know and I'll give you my E mail address.

[DreamingPoet25]

Thanks for your offer to chat.  I'm okay; just a little edgy, in case no one has noticed. ;)  It is an independent lab.  My doc has moved offices, so rather than having the in-house thing, he has to route orders out.  Evidently, the send this off to a place about two hours from here, run the test, and then it will be faxed to him in the morning.  And, knowing how concerned I am, I imagine I'll know before noon. :)  Honestly, I'll probably be upset either way.  That sounds strange, but after feeling pregnant for several weeks now and wanting children some day, I'll be 50% heartbroken and 50% relieved.  I'm sure that makes no sense.  It's hard to explain.

Thanks again for your offer.  I might take you up on it, though, if things are bad tomorrow. :)

[cinnamonheart]

Im sorry for the position you are in
If the rotten bugger got caught cheating (thats what I take it as) I hope you kicked him to the curb!
Sometimes people are not what they seem, Now I have a question He was a friend for 8 years and a lover for 6, Did he at any point indicate that you two were an "couple" talk marriage  etc... How come every one else knew a different side of him?
I hope the results are for what ever you wish, but (this is only my opinion) having a baby wont bring him back to  you, Im sure you will be a good mom, But if he is not ready to commit to you how will he commit to being a dad

[gonza]

A few years ago there was a talk show that came on every afternoon called Jenny Jones.  I dont know if anyone else watched it, but while I was in college, I was addicted.  They had a saying, "Drop that zero and get you a hero"  You should take this advice.  If you are pregnant or not, you need and deserve a hero.  I consider my husband a hero.  Good luck with yourself.

[DreamingPoet25]

Thanks for your kind response, Cin.  Marriage was discussed, but evidently, he wasn't all that serious about it.  He has, for what it's worth, allowed his failed marriages (2) to make him bitter, untrusting (strangely enough), and more closed off than he was originally.  When I met him, he had just gotten divorced, and we became friends.  There was always a very strong bond between us.  The six year lover pattern was off and on, initially, because due to some childhood trauma that I had refused to deal with for a long time, I would not let myself get any closer to him emotionally than I already was.  At some point, he met and married someone.  That didn't work out for a number of reasons, but now I'm seeing that perhaps she wasn't as nuts as everyone thought; I'm sure he didn't help matters, though she says it was her fault it didn't work.  Anyway, like a great friend and former lover, I was there to pick him up and dust him off.  Things developed once again, and I, having dealt with my childhood thing, allowed my heart to fully open to him.  Evidently, he didn't completely do the same.  I found out from my sister who had seen him out with this other woman, on a night he knew I would be home.  It's really way too much drama to fit on here, and way too much drama for my life. :)  I don't want that, and I don't need that.

So, yes, I realize having a baby will not bring him back, and honestly, despite how much I love and miss him, I wouldn't want him back unless I witnessed a great deal of change (heartfelt) and effort on his part.  He actually called twice yesterday, I'm sure fishing around for info as to what I felt and whether or not we're having a child.  The thing is, I told him when we ended that if I wasn't pregnant, he wouldn't hear from me.  It's almost like he needed a familiar, loving voice.  Sorry to say he didn't hear the voice he was used to.  :)  I wasn't hateful; I just wasn't overjoyed....

Sorry to ramble....just need to heal and vent, I guess.

[DreamingPoet25]

ROFLMBO--that is hilarious!  I actually do remember that, because I believe I was equally addicted. :)  And, you're right.  We all deserve heroes.  He USED to be mine....then, Mr. Zero showed up. ;)

Thanks again for listening.

[cinnamonheart]

I can come and kick his ass for you!
Once a cheater always a cheater and those other 2 marriages He is an ex for a REASON
Im sure it will be hard but for GOD sake dont go back to being a door mat for him , He would only break your heart again
As for the baby (my opinion only) Unfortunately he has the right to know.
As does your baby someday who his/her father is
I hope you get the results you want and let us all know cause were dying to know (yes Im nosey)  If your not pregnant I hope this relieves some stress and you find your HERO get married and have 100 babies  See Im not always a ***** just opinionated!
Good Luck
Have some laughs

[DreamingPoet25]

I'll take you up on that offer; I don't presently have the energy to kick his @$$. :)  Though, I am not sure he's even worth the energy it would take to do it. :)  I refuse to be his doormat any longer, so don't worry about that.  I have to focus on the most recent events between us...not how they used to be or how I wish they were.  Like I said, he knows there's a possibility that I'm pregnant, and he also knows that I feel he should know if I am.  And, as I told him, I will raise this child, with or without his help.  I will say one thing for him.  He's a good father.  He might not be the best mate in the world, but I've witnessed his fathering skills (he has a 14 yr old), and he's wonderful.  I wish he was just well-rounded in every area.

I didn't think you were a *****...just thought you were judging me.  I, too, am very opinionated, so I understand. :)  And, I will definitely let you ladies know how it turns out.  Trust me, if I'm not pregnant, and when I do find that hero and make '100 babies', I'm coming back to this board. :)