Should the father be in the delivery room?

[Aprilmomma]

I'm due april 25th so I have some time to decide but me and the father aren't together. He plans to be involved in my sons life but honestly he has made it difficult for me every step of the way. I'm afraid he would make giving birth difficult and not be supportive like I need him to be. But he does want to be there.

I'm not even sure how comfortable I am with him anymore. So should I let him be there? Or is it wrong to not let him even though it's his child too ?

[Mocha89]

I can agree with the ladies above because I went through something similar to what you are talking about. When i got pregnant with my son almost 7 years ago me and his father split 2 months into my pregnancy. He wanted to be there for the birth and the only reason i let him cause he expressed that he still was going to take care of the baby no matter our situation and of course i still wanted to be with him. It was the worst thing because by us not being together the delivery was depressing cause all you can think of is taking the baby home and raising the baby together (being a cute little family) and you know its not going to happen because of the whatever happened to you all relationship. From there the arguments begin cause you got so many questions and you want to feel loved during the whole process but he was on the phone, not much conversation going on, NOTHING! Trust me don't do it cause when you bring a baby in the world you should be HAPPY not depressed and sad. I hope the best for you. It's your choice and only thing that matters is your happiness. Congrats on your pregnancy!

[angustia]

I don't think he should be there. He will just make you uncomfortable and not enjoy the wonderful experience. Have him wait out and when you are ready for visitors then he can come in. You are not taking anything away from him, he will still meet his baby but you will get the respect to your body and your moment.

[Jaynie_3rd_baby]

I agree with above poster. Have your mom, sister, or friend with you. He can wait in the waiting room and come in after you are done and all cleaned up. It would be awkward for me to have an ex in the room during such a private and intimate time. He's welcome to come in and hold and kiss baby after you have bonded with your newborn and gotten freshened up!

[WifieAndHubster]

I am having my husband with me during delivery because I always feel stronger when he is around. He is great support. Not sure he really wants to be there but he knows how I feel about it and will do it for me.
But if I was in your situation I would not have him there during delivery.  That will just stress me more and the last thing I need is to be stressed while in pain trying to push a baby out.
Have someone who you feel will be on your side supporting you all the way; your mother, sister, a friend.
He may be the father but you are doing all the work and even though it may sound harsh he shouldn't be there if it makes it more complicated for you.