Delivery room

[Erica0815]

So I'm already thinking of who I want in my delivery room. I have mixed feeling in having my baby dad mom there only because she really has not made an effort in being involved with the pregnancy or really bothers to try and bond with me or try to get to know me better and I feel I on my side I can only try so much. I've never really bonded with his family and I want to because I want to get to know them and all he says is "everything will fall into place". In that said I really don't think I'd feel comfortable having her there I do want my mom and my mom will be there. I don't want to push his mom out but I see no interest in her side so in my eyes I don't see should she be there for such a wonderful thing. Am I wrong for not having her there?

[Maison0815]

I feel the exact same way, it's crazy. And he says the same exact thing.

[veronica_12]

Ive always let my mother be in the room but its been 7 yrs since ive had a baby and i dont know if i want anyone else than my bf there with me

[Erica0815]

Thank you all I think keeping an open mind might be the ideal thing or just wait till that day to see what happens

[MelB317]

Does your hospital has a nursery? If it doesn't maybe ask her to come the night after the baby is born...my hospital didn't have a nursery and my husband was so tired he was useless so I let him go home to sleep but of course my baby wanted to be held and I couldn't keep my eyes open...I was so scared I was going to fall asleep and drop her...I would have been grateful to have ANYONE there to hold her so I could just have a few hours of sleep...if you are ok with that it will let you have who you want it the delivery room but yet still let his mom feel useful and wanted plus it will give her time to form a bond with your baby and give you and your baby dad some much needed time to sleep

[koyama83]

I was thinking this morning of who I can have in delivery. My friends all have full time jobs and my mom will be in Japan visiting my sister, so that leaves my 11 year old daughter as the only person who will be available (as long as she is home from her grandma's house in time). I think I'm just going to accept whatever happens....maybe the father's aunt will be in there, or my friends, or my step dad, or maybe just me....with my other deliveries I had my ex husband, my friends, his female friend, my mom...his mom came afterwards to see the baby.

[sb530]

We invited both my mom and hubby's mom for our first. I didn't want to at first, I let her come in too. I set up rules. They both had to be be out of the way, no talking to hubby or me unless it was super important.  I gave birth on memorial day 4 years ago, and the hospital got slammed and was short staffed. Both mom's ended up holding my legs ( after hours of pushing I didn't care any more) I have pictures of my little girl, husband and my self moments after birth I would not have had. I am not it close at all. But we are offering again this time. It is still your choice, but keep an open mind. :) good luck.

[BABYHAMP15]

Mate, mom, sister.

[Erica0815]

Thank you gals yeah I guess I'm going to speak to my nurses and let them know who I want there, I also seemed it off to have her there when we don't have any bond or connection with each other

[xoxoslamb]

personally that seems awkward to me. your mother in law?  in a graphic way of speaking,  how does she have any right to see you half naked & having a baby?  she has no blood relation to you. . I would deff not.

[Valkeyrie]

I am planning on having a homebirth. The only people allowed to be in my room when I'm giving birth is of course my midwives, my husband and my grandma. I love his mom but she is so highstrung and I really don't want to deal with her energy when I'm in labor. We will let everyone else come atbleast an hour later. My brother will be staying with me but he doesnt want to be in there lol

[karialliah]

I've given this a lot of thought and I've decided that it's no one else's moment, the only person I will allow in my room is the daddy, that will be the biggest bonding moment of our lives and I don't want anyone else involved. I'm ok with the visits afterward, both sets of grandparents will be anxiously pacing in the waiting room, I'm sure, I just want the actual birth to be personal for the father and I.

[jessielynn2014]

HUSBAND, MOM, SISTER.

[Whyme1116]

Absolutely not......have your mom only. My daughters father was insistant that his mom be in the room and she made a huge scene at the hospital when she realized I was serious about not letting her in....but I was not comfortable with it.....and trust me, you want to remain as confortable as possible!!!!! Dont do it!!

[19jellybean94]

It's not up to him to invite people or let people stay in the delivery room. It's entirely up to you, so if you don't want her in there then put your foot down and say no. It's understandable you wanting to mum to be there, you have every right to have her there. It's your body, your choice so do what makes you feel comfortable.

[oliejzzz]

For me I've thought about it alot, but don't really have a choice, being all the way across the country from all our family, im having my husband with me, but his mom is supposed to be coming for the birth and I've told him im fine with her coming to the hospital like afterwards if she is here that day but I want it to be just me him and the baby for at least the first few hours afterwards

[Erica0815]

Thanks I know he wants her there and I know she will stay there if he asks her to stay and I just don't have great bond with her to want her there I just don't want to be rude about it

[jens4]

What I did was let everyone be in the room unless I was being checked. When it was time to push my husband and my mom stayed. Everyone else was asked to go to the waiting room. My mother in law didn't take offense and I honestly don't think she wanted to be in there anyway.