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Pregnant with number 2... Nervous..
I just found out I'm pregnant with number two and an fairltnervous. My son is almost two now so he will be a bit older but I'm wondering about logistics and potty training and him feeling left out of teaching him.... And my sanity lol. Any experience or tips/tricks on how to make this easier!
You WILL survive this, I promise. My youngest two are Irish twins, meaning my son is only 10mo older than his sister so I kind of know where you're coming from. First, My best advice would be to invest in a good baby carrier, like a Tula, and enjoy the time you have while your second child isn't walking yet. Having two walking..correction, running, toddlers is when things get tricky. Lol As far as potty training and all that, don't stress about it. You'll find that these things will progress naturally as your second child ages along with your son. My son is 2.5 and he just started sitting on the potty for longer than a second , so now my 1.5yo daughter is showing interest. Because girls tend to train earlier than boys, it's likely mine will be potty trained at the same time.
Your son is young enough that he won't remember a time without his sibling and while there will certainly be necessary adjustments to be made with the birth of any new child, it's not as big of a deal as you think. As second time parents it's common to worry about "having enough love and time to go around" so to speak, but there really is no need to worry. Since your children are going to be close in age, your younger one will follow the older one around, learning skills and language from them much more quickly than the first usually does. They'll have a best friend & a partner in crime, they'll talk to each other in their own little language and your son will likely go out of his way to help take care of his younger sibling. It will be an absolute joy for you to watch , I promise. Don't be nervous momma. All your concerns about this will work themselves out. I hope this helps!
Your son is young enough that he won't remember a time without his sibling and while there will certainly be necessary adjustments to be made with the birth of any new child, it's not as big of a deal as you think. As second time parents it's common to worry about "having enough love and time to go around" so to speak, but there really is no need to worry. Since your children are going to be close in age, your younger one will follow the older one around, learning skills and language from them much more quickly than the first usually does. They'll have a best friend & a partner in crime, they'll talk to each other in their own little language and your son will likely go out of his way to help take care of his younger sibling. It will be an absolute joy for you to watch , I promise. Don't be nervous momma. All your concerns about this will work themselves out. I hope this helps!
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Thank you. I appreciate reading that... Makes it feel less rough for my son... Which hopefully means less chaos for me... Thank you
My due date is a day off from my son's 2nd b day, I'm terrified right now my son is still overly attached and just now weaning from breastfeeding....it's gonna be different for him to have to share not only mommy but also his boobie
I just found out I'm pregnant with our second! Y'all advice is really helpful.
In my experience the transition with an older sibling and a newborn is more jarring than that of a toddler and a newborn.
My oldest was 5 when his brother was born, he remembered the time before baby. Whereas my second son was 18mo when his sister was born and he adjusted quickly as if she'd always been there. It depends on the child too and how you involve them or give them love. Make time for him every day, even if it's only a story while daddy has baby - don't even acknowledge baby unless it's a true emergency. It also give dad a chance to bond with baby and beef up his ability too!
When they're older and mobile, help is amazing. If dad can't be there, then use a tandem stroller, baby carrier for one and hold the hand of the other, or those safety packs with straps so they can't run off (I know not everyone is a fan, but they saved my sanity and the kids from peril!)
Invest in good baby gates and safety gear, because you won't be able to supervise as closely. Toddler proof now to the nth degree.
Encourage independent play now, praise your son for solo-play. Start encouraging the bahaviours now that you will need after.
And most importantly: Take a deep breath and realize you got this. You've got way more tools at your disposal than parents in generations past, and they raised awesome kids close in age.
You have the unconditional love, your body will create the energy if you take care of yourself, and you have supports!
<3
My oldest was 5 when his brother was born, he remembered the time before baby. Whereas my second son was 18mo when his sister was born and he adjusted quickly as if she'd always been there. It depends on the child too and how you involve them or give them love. Make time for him every day, even if it's only a story while daddy has baby - don't even acknowledge baby unless it's a true emergency. It also give dad a chance to bond with baby and beef up his ability too!
When they're older and mobile, help is amazing. If dad can't be there, then use a tandem stroller, baby carrier for one and hold the hand of the other, or those safety packs with straps so they can't run off (I know not everyone is a fan, but they saved my sanity and the kids from peril!)
Invest in good baby gates and safety gear, because you won't be able to supervise as closely. Toddler proof now to the nth degree.
Encourage independent play now, praise your son for solo-play. Start encouraging the bahaviours now that you will need after.
And most importantly: Take a deep breath and realize you got this. You've got way more tools at your disposal than parents in generations past, and they raised awesome kids close in age.
You have the unconditional love, your body will create the energy if you take care of yourself, and you have supports!
<3
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