baby heartbeat

[lindsey389]

hi i went for my 3rd us today they didnt say how far gone my pregnancy is but i would say about 5+ weeks every time that i go back to my us something goes wrong well at the 1st scan all that was there was a sac then when i went back there was a little yolc sac and a small fetal pole when i whent back today there is everything there that should be apart from a beat but everything is still growing can anyone out there please please help me i really dont understand what is going on my midwife is not explaning anything to me is this something to be worried about if anyone knows anything can you please help me thanks from lindsey

[LadyM84]

hi Lindsey i am so sorry to hear about your loss , i had a miscarrige last december at 7 weeks i was so devastated i was due on the 3rd of this month but i was lucky i did start trying from the 1st period after my mc but it took 3 months which i spose happend for a reason as i am now due the day i miscarried last year so i believe this little 1 was meant to be here :) i know how bad you must be feeling now but you will go on to have a healthy pregnancy but like Bigsis said you should just have a chat with your dr 1st just to see what they suggest best of luck to you , keep in touch x

[Bigsis828]

Hi Lindsay, I am so sorry for your loss..I can totally understand how painful it is. I think you can start trying after your first period. Since the harmone levels are high ppl say the chances of getting pregant is very hign in first 3 months after loss. One of my friends got pregnant immediate next month and delivered a healthy baby with no complications throughout pregnancy. But ask your dr before trying. My friend's dr asked her to start immediately. I will keep you in my prayers.

[lindsey389]

hi i thought i should keep u up to date i lost the baby it came away from me on the 2nd i was rushed to hospital due to losing to much blood does anyone know when i can start trying for another one or will the same thing happing to me again i dont think i could handle going through all this again thanks for all the help that u have all been giving me love ya all from lindsey xxx

[kedarhaze]

I am a big believer on self advocate. Only god knows whats going on but you still could get your record and find another doctor that would follow the necessary steps to give you all the answers to your question. When they couldn't see a heartbeat, my doc wanted to do a dnc but he said only if he check my blood count again and have two more u/s. My blood count went up but not that much changed, everything stay the same until the third u/s. The heartbeat was there, the reason behind it was they thought I was already 7 weeks when I did the first u/s, but I was actually 4 weeks. You need a doc that will do and check everything first before doing dnc. I'm sorry I don't know much about miscarriage or dnc but I know about having a voice in my health and my child. Hope I was helpful

[MaryAK]

Maybe you should find another doctor.  This one doesn't sound like they are listening to your concerns

[lindsey389]

i asked the docs for blood tests but there not taking me serosly they said no i have another scan on monday and if they say they cant take blood then i am going to complain about it they think cause am 20 am too young to be treated like an adult they done the same when i was having my 7month old baby boy xx

[Bigsis828]

Lindsay, they found my baby's heartbeat when I was 9 weeks along. One thimg you might want to ask your dr is to do blood tests every alternate day. They did it for me till they got the heart beat...if the harmone count increases, then it is a positive sign. Hope it helps.

[MichiganBaby5]

I was 8 weeks before they saw the heartbeat. It just takes time. Stay positive

[lum510]

Lindsey I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. Please know it is not your fault. These things just happen it just mean soming most have be wroung with the baby it was nothing you did. I will keep you in my prayers.

[lindsey389]

hi i have just got back from my scan the have said that nothing has changed that the baby is not deleloping noone has told me whats happing i have to go back next week and see if anything has changed they said if nothing changes then it died i am not going to get a dnc or anything else if its gonna happing am gonna let it go naturly i feel like its all my fault my 7month old son is all thats keeping me going xx

[LadyM84]

hello again sorry about the late reply ,they usually cant see a heartbeat till 6-7 weeks sometimes 8 but if you go for a scan and they say theres still no heartbeat and you have faith just let things happen naturally dont take any tablets or have a d n c unless theres a reason you have to , like if your blees etc and theres a risk of infection , but i know how sad it is to lose a baby i had a mc at 7 weeks on the 15th of dec , i got pg again 3 months later and am now due the day i miscarried , i am a big believer in fate and whats meant to be will be and things always happen for a reason even the things that hurt us the most , good luck hun and i really hope they see that lil heartbeat at your next scan , keep in touch xx

[lindsey389]

yeah i have another scan on monday i would say that am 5+weeks they r saying to me that if i go there next week and there is no heartbeat that its not an on going pregnancy but i have done some research and there has been loads of woman who have not heard or een a heartbeat til they where about 10weeks i dont know what to do cause i dont wanna go there on monday and they tell me cause there is no heartbeat that i have to get rid of it cause i have faith in it i still feel pregnant am being sick and have sore breasts what do u think i should do its killing me the only things keeping me going r my 7month old son and the thought that i might go here on monday and everything will b fine its making me and my boyfriend fight all the time which is making everything worse please help i really need some advice i think that if i have lost it that me and my boyfriend will split up cause he is blaming me for everything someone please help me x

[LadyM84]

hi i'm sorry to hear your going through this and your drs arent being very helpful , i think that there should be a heartbeat from 7 weeks do you have any idea how far along you could be it might still be to early , have they got you in for another scan ?/ , i really hope things work out fine for you , all the best x