intimacy issues

[ToryBaybee]

Hi Ladies... Just wondering if you guys are still having sex. My husband and I haven't really been doing anything, but we tried today and I just lost it. I was crying and just hated how I thought I appeared to him. This is the first time I've had an emotional breakdown/mood swing during my pregnancy. Of course my husband was very supportive of me and we went for a walk. But I feel so disgusting and now embarrassed. I don't want this to be the last attempt before Nugget comes. How are you dealing with these issues?

[ToryBaybee]

I know it's all in my head and my husband thinks I look great. We're going on a little trip this weekend (NJ has teachers convention so I'm off :-)) so hopefully we can take advantage of the time.

[natattack44]

My husband thinks I'm beautiful with my huge belly. I don't but whatever! I lost my sex drive month 2, and then started having contractions at week 20. That basically killed it. Was on pelvic rest for 2 months after that, and now when we do, I get more contractions and it kind takes the fun out of it. Luckily he is very understanding and had never made a fuss or said a negative comment about it.

[ToryBaybee]

We've actually slept like that before I was pregnant and have discussed trying it again. I honestly also prefer a massage at this point lol... Thanks for the tips :-)

[Jacis]

I  completely understand the feeling of not feeling sexy from body changes. I've gained weight ALL OVER my body from being pregnant. But my husband loves it. I wish I felt how he does about my body. I have friends that their husbands refused to have sex because they were afraid of hurting the baby. Even after the doctors have let them know it's safe. If you don't feel comfortable having sex still try turning down the lights and just having him massage you. Then laying naked holding each other is awesome having the skin to skin contact. I sleep naked and so does my husband. I've noticed that holding him with my tummy on his butt is some how relaxing. And I can position myself how close or far I need. I just have to worry about him rolling over after we fall asleep. I hope this helps give you a few new ideas.

[ToryBaybee]

Thanks for all the feedback... It really helps! We honestly haven't had a great sexual relationship for a while... Once a month before pregnancy and now, maybe 4 or 5 attempts during. It's a miracle I'm even pregnant. My husband has a low sex drive, and it's been a major issue in our relationship. I think I'm also afraid that the baby will give him an excuse not to try at all anymore.

[shanaladybug]

Definitely keep an open dialog with your significant other.  I haven't felt beautiful and at times I am uncomfortable when we are intimate so we had to try new positions.  

[Minecraftchick97]

I'm 7 months pregnant and I still have sex with my man. I think you should try to keep the intimatecy between you your man. I'm sure he doesn't feel disgusted by you.

[Minecraftchick97]

I'm 7 months pregnant and I still have sex with my man. I think you should try to keep the intimatecy between you your man. I'm sure he doesn't feel disgusted by you.

[NektoshasMommy]

I lost the most part of my sex drive around 3 months, lol, and now that I haven't had too much sex, my area is actually TONS tighter when I actually have sex.

[MoaniG81]

I totally burst out crying recently when we started getting intimate. It's down to less than weekly, he's scared of hurting the baby and we're both tired and have two twelve year olds already, and I'm always falling asleep as soon as i lay down in bed, so it's hard to get it on. I'm having some serious body issues, feeling so big and totally unattractive. He's supportive and sweet and tells me im pretty and beautiful, but the way he looks at me is different. He's sweet and cuddles me and kisses me, but not in a sexual way. It's like we're friends and parents, not so much lovers right now, and i basically feel like I'm forcing sex on him when we do actually have it, and then because there's no action in between it's over quickly and i feel sad. Just hoping that one day we get that spark back and that we survive in the mean time... Hang in there!

[Teita]

My SO and I use to have sex almost every day. Then it slowed up then finally came to a stop til we talked bout it. I wanted to know why. I really thought it was cause i was gaining weight & didnt look sexy to him. He said he was worried bout hurting our baby but my doctor talked to him & let him know there's no way he can hurt him. Just to spice things up we went out & bought toys. It bought a whole different side out of him. I even walk around naked now. Lol! No we really have no more issue. He thinks my baby bump looks so sexy on me now.

[dianaexoh]

I'm having sex but not with the frequency that I was. I'm so tired chasing around my three year old, working and going to school. If you're feeling insecure about your appearance, try throwing on some lingerie or doing something differently. It can be difficult to have decent self-esteem while pregnant, especially as you start getting big, try to do things to make yourself feel pretty.