push present anyone???

[Alybell]

What exactly is a push present?! Ive "heard" about it within the past day but before that, never heard anything about it, nor have I got anything from my ex (husband at the time of my children's birth), not even a bouquet of flowers.

[KayleeGriffin]

I got a ring :)

[mylittlesummerbaby]

Are you sure he even knows about push presents? I've had about five of my friends have kids in the past two years and three of my cousins, and I've never heard of a push present. Sadly, guys are often more out of the loop. I doubt it's one of those things guys talk about with each other. Maybe if one of your girl friends could mention it to him, it would at least give him the chance. Also if he's not the present giving, sentimental type of the guy he may not realize how important it is to you. Good luck :)

[Alybell]

Isn't that the truth :)

[ameenicholle]

With my first I got a baby.  With this one I'm getting a baby and an apple watch.  But in truth the watch is my birthday/Christmas present... both in december... the watch just isn't on sale yet.  So I have a bunch of gift cards I'm giving DH that he is using to buy my "push present".  But I don't think it is rediculous to want one.  Nor do I think it's tacky to have a gender reveal party nor do I think you ought to feel bad if you want pregnancy photos.  Senior pictures aren't a "right" either, nor are engagement photos.  You do what makes you happy and celebrate this life inside of you any way you wish.

[cbarbaran]

My hubby got me an additional wedding band to go on the other side of my engagement ring. I didn't even push (c-section) but it was still a nice token for carrying my son for almost 10 months. He is already asking what I need this time around. It doesn't have to be expensive...just a sweet gesture to wear on a regular basis. A necklace, earrings...

[Alybell]

Yea, well my ex never truely bought me anything even on my bday or christmas but he was a hige spender on himself, buying cars and boats and motorcycles every year. But whatever. Im happy now :)

[AnnieBrooke]

There are some new ...  not "traditions" because I've only been seeing references to them in social media for maybe at most the past three years, that people are developing around pregnancy.  What then happens is that someone hearing about them thinks it must have been around a long time and they aren't getting the thing, rather than that some people are just acting like has been around a while when it actually hasn't. One is the gender-reveal party (my mother told me she thought they trivialize this very personal news), one is having pregnancy photos taken at a studio (people write in and say "when am I supposed to have 'my' pregnancy photos taken?" as though it's a common rite of passage) and another is the push-present idea.  Very sweet if the husband thinks of giving his wife a gift, in the old traditions of childbirth, he was usually passing out cigars. Anyway, it's a relatively new, certainly income-sensitive, wannabe tradition, certainly not to be used as a symbol of whether or not someone's husband loves her or is happy to have a baby.  In fact, I've only seen them written about on this site twice, once by someone complaining that her husband didn't want to buy her an expensive jewel for a push present (except she said "my push present," as though she was owed it).  Obviously, in her world, they are heard of.  I'd say, though, when a baby comes is a huge time for dad and mom, and both of them are deep in the emotions of the moment, which (usually) they share.  No gift matches that, and if you didn''t get one it doesn't mean your ex was being mean.  This is especially true if the couple are budgeting hard to afford the child, or have had difficulty getting pregnant or staying pregnant and the whole thing is a miracle.  At that juncture, the lack of a present doesn't mean much.  I hope you have found a good new man if your ex is gone, and don't take the push-present idea for more than it is.