So emotional

[VaniDavila]

I know it's hormonal, but I guess I just need to vent!!! I have been so emotional. I feel like crying for everything, I get mad for everything and I get frustrated whenever my girls don't listen. I also start crying if my mom doesn't want to help out with my girls, but she helps my brother with his boys. Am I wrong for feeling jealous of my brother?  There are times that she  says she'll help me but when the day comes she backs out on me and that is making me even more emotional because she has never backed out on my brother. I guess it's the rejection from my mom that is making me feel more emotional. Is it normal to feel like this or can it be depression? I really wish I could have her support like my brother does.... Oh, by the way, my sister-n-law always hated my mom and dad and now that she needs there help with my nephews, she is kissing *** and my mom is ok with it. That is really pissing me off!!! Ok, I just released all the tension, but I still need your opinion....

[VaniDavila]

I think there will always be sibling rivalry. My sister and I are 6 years apart and we would always fight and my dad would always back her up. I always had to give up my things for her. I had to work and my parents made me help buy her her school clothes. I think that's what caused me and my sister to hate eachother during my teenage years. When I moved out everything changed. We were always going out together and would call eachother frequently. With my brother, I do talk to him, but it's different. And that's wierd because we grew up closer. He is 3 years older than me, but we never fought. Now it's different, we don't fight, but there are times we argue or I get into arguments with his wife. I think depending on the situation you have the right to get mad.

[akv23]

*oops i meant told and doesnt

[akv23]

Long story to tell but im gonna do it really short. Im daddies little girl bur sometimes i wish i wasnt specially cause he will tell me everything my brother and sister do wrong and im the one that gets mad. He tells me everything but he does tell them anything so in a way i have had a really bad pregnancy because i get mad, worried and sad n i have to keep it all in. I have already to my dad not to tell me things but he does seem to listen. Recently he told me he might have cancer n well i worried so much to come n find out he only told me n that its something that if he doesnt take care it can become cancer but all that night i could sleep next day i had a really bad stomache. N i do mind cause sometimes i just feel horrible n in the end im the one that fights with my sister n brother n he wont back me up. I mean am i wrong im i over reacting?

[VaniDavila]

It is so difficult when parents are like that. It's so hurtful to our feelings. I don't know why they are like that, I just wish they could not take sides, like my mom. My brother and my husband work together and recently my husband got accepted to work overtime and my brother didn't and my mom was upset that my husband got it but not my brother. It's sad that she couldn't be happy that my husband is earning extra income for my family.

[mummys36]

Hi....I get this too of my mum...she always has my sisters kids... night after night....just because she wants to spend it with her boy friend.Or she tells her she's working when she isn't.And her kids are 13 ,9 and 17.
My boys are 4 and 3 and I'm 5 weeks off no.3....
I'm so tired and would love a couple of hours peace.. but it never happens..
Also we live 4 miles from civilization.... yet my sister live 5 minutes from them.... and ten mins from town... yet when her car broke she got use of their car....when our car broke we got no help... if fact they went away for the weekend and my oh had ri walk 6 miles there and back to the closest shop..
In the rain too. It does get a little frustrating at times....it got that bad my brother won't speak to
My mum or my sister cause mum just takes her
side with everything.
The last few weeks they seem to have gotten
A little better... brought my boys shoes... took them
To school /nursery and collected them.

[VaniDavila]

I know, I hope I'm not strict with my kids the way my parents were with me. The worst part, and I have always felt  rejected by my dad, was that he always favored my youngest sister in everything. If I wanted to go out they wouldn't let me and my mom never backed me up, but if my sister (6 yrs. younger) wanted to go out he would let her go. I was 17 and she was 11. That's the reason I moved out and he seemed to not care, but when my sister got married he cried a lot, but yet, when I got married, niether my mom or dad had the time to attend my simple ceremony (we got married at the courthouse). That was very hurtful to me.

[Babyiish]

It was just that one time in the hospital but that was enough for me....plus she's sick and I rather not tell her how I feel....
It's funny  how our stories are so similar ...the way our parents raised us...I left the house until I was 21...my dad didn't want to let me go out with my boyfriend now my husband...lol

I hope my kids don't feel the same way about me some day ...lol

[VaniDavila]

Wow, 10 years? That is surprising for her to act and treat you like that. Have you told her how you feel about the way she treats you?  

My mom and I can be fine and we talk, but she is always backing out on me at the last minute. When we can, we go out together and do things together, but like I said she can say she's going with me somewhere and at the last minute she will cancel, knowing that we had planned on it for weeks. Like Tuesday when I had my dr. appoint. the day before she told me she wasn't gonna go with me and that same day that she canceled on me my brother asked her to babysit for the next day (day of my appoit.)  I was upset because I had already told her two weeks before. Worse thing is that she takes care of my nephews and then she comes to leave them to me (I don't mind, but I'm tired most of the time).  I don't know if it's b/c I'm always telling how I feel about how she raised me. When I was living at home, they were very strict with me and would never let me go out. They never let me go to my friends house (she lived around the block). Now that my baby brother (14 yrs. old) wants to go out they let him do everything and they are so easy on him and I always tell her how I wish I had my freedom when I was at home (I had to move out at 18yrs old). I don't know if that's the reason why she acts like that with me.... sorry so long!!

[Babyiish]

I was a little upset with her because she was in the hospital.  I told her see you didn't want to listen to me...this could have been avoided.  She was in a really defensive mode my sister was there...I try to change the subject and talk about something that I thought was gonna make her happy...never ask her for anything...I told her how much I wanted to get pregnant again...that I want to have one or two more kids...that I might be pregnant cuz I mist my period.  I knew I was pregnant already but I didn't want to tell her anything untill I was completely sure...when I was growing up I was her little helper ... waited 10 year to have my sister and my brother....so I don't understand how she acts this way.....

-vani.. Wow have you ask her what's bothering her..why is she acting this way?...you think your sitter-in-law has something to do with this....

[VaniDavila]

I'm so sorry you have to go through that with your mom. I know how awful it feels to feel rejected by a person who is suppose to be supportive. How do your other family members feel about this? Do they see how she treats you?

My relationship with my mom was always good until recently and I don't know what has caused this tension between us. I had my doctor's appointment on Tuesday and she was suppose to go with me and at the last minute she said she couldn't b/c she had to babysit for my brother. Luckily, my dad said he would babysit my nephews so she went, but she didn't want to go with me.  I don't know if you remember, she was helping me with my bassinet and thankfully she finished it because the way things are I really doubt she would have finished it. She is always coming up with excuses as to why she can't babysit. She even told me to have my mother-n-law come and babysit. I feel so left out and awful. I'm sad that we went from a good mother-daughter relationshipt to a not so good relationship.  The worst part is that my daughters got so use to being with her and now she won't take them with her and they stay crying, especially when they see my nephews with her. I feel so bad for my girls as they were so attached to her.

[Babyiish]

I understand exactly how you feel....my mom didn't even want me to get pregnant again...little did she know I was already pregnant...unfortunately I had a mc
She told me that she wasn't gonna babysit for that one day i would need her the most...labor and delivery ...you should have heard my mom talk about my sisters pregnancy...she was all excited telling me how the baby moves inside my sisters belly....
I didn't even tell her about my mc...she said more than just I won't babysit for you while I visited her at the hospital... Its a really long story which it makes no sence for her to feel that way...it still hurts because I feel like my baby felt rejected...
I still talk to her but I don't think it's ever gonna be the same...
I could afford a babysitter but I don't want to leave my kids with just anybody....

My moms negativity didn't stop me from getting pregnant again...
I have a responsible and loving husband....

-vani
I don't think your jealous... 
Your just a little disappointed...