12 +3 & my husband wants to separate

[JaeMama]

I've been trying so hard to keep our marriage together even though things haven't been right for a long time. Now he's like "I know I don't make you happy I think we should try a trial separation while I'm gone for the year" (he's going to an army school in February.) I'm not saying that he's wrong in fact I think he's right I just feel like I've been trying so hard to make things work and he just have up. Plus, I'm f****** pregnant with his second child! Oh! And to top that it off as if him deciding to separate from me while I'm pregnant weren't enough, he admits to being attracted to and wanting to date someone else. Apparently this.... person knows about our issues and has had the nerve to ask MY husband out on a f****** date!!!! I'm too emotional to deal with this right now. I am just in shock that he would think doing this NOW, while my hormones are making me extra emotional, is a good idea. I don't know what to do and I find myself having trouble thinking about much else. I'm at the point where I'd almost prefer he tell me that he "accidentally" slept with someone else because at least then it's just his body involved not his emotions. For a woman who values honesty, I'm sure hating it right now.

[bnl0725]

You can go through the attorney general as well for free. Not sure what state you live in. They will make him support his children. Especially if he's going in the army. It's mandatory.

[AnnieBrooke]

See a lawyer, sweetheart.  When he hears the child-support numbers he is going to owe, he might have a Come to Jesus meeting with himself and decide to give the marriage another try.  But if not, at least you will have the child support.  You can't make a marriage work all by yourself, if the partner is mentally out the door.  But you can get child support.  See how attractive he is to someone else when he is broke.

[JaeMama]

Thanks. I just don't know what to do about him. So frustrated. Can't afford to live on my own and he just wants a be life with no real planning about how I'm to care for our children.

[bnl0725]

Sounds like he's making a way out for himself to date other women. He's obviously not committed to the relationship. I'm really sorry. I have been in your shoes more than once. You deserve far better than that.