I get it and it's hard no matter your age. I felt the same way and requested that my mother in law not be in the delivery room. She stopped by (I was in natural labor for 17 hrs-then an emergency csection) but she ended up being the best thing. My husband..... Oh he did everything wrong and he bothered me even when he touched my hand. That being said... It's up to you, if your very certain you don't want her in the room let the nurses know when you check in. Let them be your voice. Just explain how much help she has been but you want that moment to be just for you and your husband. My girlfriend said that to her own mom. My friend was afraid of her mom taking over (her mom was a delivery nurse for 30 yrs-she does have lots of experience and knows her stuff) so my friend thought her mom would just take over the whole experience. Let your mother in law know that no one else will be in the room (I'm assuming that's what you want). Another thing if it's about her being down there watching the baby come out you can ask her your not comfortable with that and you want her up at your shoulders.
I let her at my dr appts but the other day she was acting like a child at the age of 42 because my husband told her to stop answering for me. Everytime the dr asks me something she automatically answers.
tell her that if she lets you be there on HER next pap smear then you'll let her be there for your birth lol!!!!
She should understand. Just talk to her ahead of time so she knows... I don't see why she would tell you to leave. Good luck
If she gets mad at you for only wanting your husband there then she is being extremely selfish and insensitive. It should be your and your husband's decision. Stand your ground and feel good about it.
Why does everyone wants to be at the birth. All your private posts are exposed...Just tell her your not comfortable with her there while your exposed like that. Once baby comes and you're all cleaned up, she can be the first there. This is more invasive than a pap smear, she's not welcomed to those is she? Lol.
She is a mother and should understand. I went through something similar with my first born. Just explain to her now that you would like an intimate birth to include just you and your husband. Tell her now so she can understand and there be no surprises when the time comes. Intimate births are more relaxing and stress free. You can focus on one coach,your husband. Don't be afraid to speak up.