Allowing your older kids to be in the delivery room .

[Halmelia]

Ok so I have a question and want other expecting moms opinions .........
  So I'm expecting my 3 rd child unexpectedly I actually had my tubes tide a month before I conceived . My 2 kids are both boys and are 10&14 they will be almost 11&14 when baby comes.. They both insist on being in the delivery room when I'm pushing I'm ok with them being in the room pre pushing but have mixed feelings about them being in there when actually birthing the baby they both want to be apart of the birth and they say they don't want to see it come out but they want to be the first to hold baby and for baby to see them first it's sweet but still awkward to me I told them they'd have to stay by my head and not even look south which they gladly agreed lol my youngest son even insist on staying at the hospital the hole time to help I have mixed feelings since there males but I actually was in the room for 4 of my younger siblings and I was around 10 the first time I witness a birth it's def a special moment but is it weird if I allow them too witness me in pain and a birth

[Halmelia]

Hj

[Halmelia]

They had actually been bugging me for years for another sibling .. I'm 1 out of 11 kids from the same parents so they thought that's so awesome that I had so many siblings to grow up with and now they have so many aunts and uncles.. Well that's just crazy to me lol I ended up getting a tubal ligation may 2015 and they were pretty unhappy with me when I explained to them that the baby factory was closed and they'd have many cousins instead of siblings .. Well i guess they got what they wanted let's see how it goes when baby is getting into there stuff and trashing there room lol I'm def. grateful for there excitement to our addition because I def. wasn't when I found out !

[Scorpio1977]

It is awesome that they want to be so involved! My son is 13 and he is not gungho on new baby at all. Let them be involved! :)

[taitai82 tai tai]

That's sweet my boys(8+12)want no parts of the delivery room! Im not sure I would want them to c me that way.my first labor was sooo easy but my second son was definitely not.if this one is anything like my second there's no way I could deal w them in there and they hate seeing me n pain anyway

[shaz009]

I was wondering  this too my daughter is 14 and will be 15 in april and im due in march and i am planning on a home birth this will be my 4th birth and hopefully my 2nd home birth c

[Halmelia]

Thanks ladies I feel more comfortable allowing my boys be apart of it I was really worried ppl would say its inappropriate but I was really happy they've should so much interest and I know it would of been really  hard to tell them if they couldn't

[Flickan]

I think you are raising some amazing boys. :)

[Bexoakes3]

I think it's great that they want to be there! I think too many men get married and have no idea what labor and delivery is like and tend to think it's not that big of a deal. If anything it'll teach them a respect and reverence for what a beautiful thing birth really is. And how amazing to witness a sibling enter the world! What a great bonding and learning opportunity.