i can not let go

[2timesmommy]

the baby is not alive and i cant let go i still feel like it is.  i am sheduled for surgery a d&c wed.  i feel horruble i sleep nonstop and i have another child i need to tend to i just cry everytime i wake up ,  why ?  why did this happen all i want is another baby.  i dont know what to do where do i start will it b easier after they take out the baby?

[tarrah87]

it never gets any easier but don't give up and keep your head up you will have another one i lost my first pregnancy at 8 wks due to miscarriage.... natural no d&c, then lost twins at 21 wks back on march due to twin to twin transfusion and an incompatent cervix, now pregnant again all is going great. just make sure to let your body heal b4 trying things happen when you least expect them to. you're in my thoughts a prayers, you should recover from the surgery fairly quick but emotionaly it may take time it's diff for everyone but good luck and just don't give up!!!!!

[mandy38]

It's never easy going through something like this, but it will get better and you have another child that is living and needs you to be strong.  It was very early days and you should physically get over this fairly quick and then with time can look to having another but, as I said to another lady who had miscarried, don't rush these things it will happen when it is meant to.  After I lost mine, I couldn't contemplate putting myself through that again, but two years later it happened and with the grace of God, I hope all will be well and you too will have the same.

[krushing]

Time heals all wounds.  You will be an emotional roller coaster.  Sad one minute, then angry at the world the next.  I felt a little better after my D&C just because I knew it was over and had been over and we were just prolonging it.  It helped me start the grieving process.  We never know why this happens to mothers deserving babies.  You have to stay strong and positive.  And when you are ready, take a deep breath and try again.  Take care and good luck!

[kikicoates78]

Did they do all the confirmation stuff? Did they re-test your beta? After all is done then you really will just have to let go, it's very hard I know, I too have experienced loss, we ttc for 4 yrs when we finally got PG and lost, all I can say is things got better it takes time. I am PG again so I tell myself there had to be a reason. Only time will ease the pain, and you will always remember, but hopefully you will have the strength to get through. Good luck dear.