Anxieties and Worries

[krushing]

I go for my BIG ultrasound tomorrow morning.  We are 85% sure we are having a boy and I know for the BIG ultrasound the gender is a bonus, the tech is more interested in the baby's anatomy, etc.  I am excited about seeing my baby again, but I am also scared out of my mind that we will find something wrong with him.  Not that a disability will make us love him any less.  He's our third pregnancy and first baby and we are thankful to have had him this far and hope and pray God lets us continue on with him.  We opted out of the NT scan because regardless of the results we wouldn't have terminated our pregnancy.  We do know that the blood test for spina bifida and downs came back negative.  My husband and I were both tested extensively through the RE and neither have any genetic disorders, but I know the chromosomes, etc. matching up to make our baby can trigger their own problems, regardless of us.  Both mine and DH's parents are coming with us to the ultrasound and I guess that has me a little uneasy too...them there if there is a problem.  I would want DH and I time to take the news in and then share with the family.  But, I know if there is a problem we will need all of the support we can get.  But, I just can't shake this.  I was talking to a friend of mine who is pregnant with twins and due a month before me.  We have both had losses and she told me that we will always worry, just because of the past we have.  It stinks, but I guess that is the hand we were dealt.  Ok, I guess this is more of a vent than a questions.  But, thanks for reading.

[widsmom]

Good luck with the scan and I too agree that when you experience loss you just continue to be a worry freek, I still fear with every little cramp I get that I might lose the baby. I was in denial of actually being pregnant in the begining just not to raise my hopes to high. and now (Thank God) after passing through the first trimester my concern is also what if something is wrong? At the time all we can do is pray. I too passed on all the blood work, It wouldn't change our minds. My big scan is in 2 weeks. hope all is well with all of us.

[hkenny]

i think its only normal for a mother to worry, espeically with all the things we hear about these days. I agree with Kiki if there was a problem they would have noticed something on the other scan. I would just pray about it and try your best to relax tonight, have a bath get a massage from the hubby! Let us know how it goes!

[kikicoates78]

Well I tell you, I think we all (who have experianced loss) feel the same way, I had horrible anxiety, at first I thought well maybe it's cause I deep down, just want to know what it is, but even after that little gender scan the anxiety was still there. After my big Anatomy scan I felt the bigest weight lift off of me, I saw how perfect she was, she measured perfect to date and weighed perfect to date! We also opted to pass on all the blood work and such, as it wouldn't matter. We didn't even do the AFP blood work. I'm sure all is well, I think that if somthing was way out of whack you would have seen somthing strange in one of the smaller scans! I hope you get as much peace as I did after my big scan! It was so reassuring, AND it has got me on a must get ready for baby rampage. LOL I even opted to re-do my whole bathroom decor, paint and all, I just bought the paint and started b4 Jeremy could stop me!! I just feel now in a rush to make everything perfect b4 she gets here, cuz you know she will care about the bathroom, LMAO!