I DONT WANT A BABYSHOWER

[imfinallypregnant]

Im currently 23 weeks 4 days pregnant.  6 years ago i lost my first baby at 23 weeks into the pregnancy we had planned the baby shower and bought some clothing since the beggining of my pregnancy but then when i lost my baby we both said next pregnancy we will not plan anything or buy anything until 28 weeks and no babyshower and we both agreed now that im pregnant again all he talks about is going baby shopping which im super happy and excited about but then yesterday he said we should start making a list of the people i want to come to my babyshower i said no i dont want one and he got mad at me i feel bad for feeling this way my pregnancy is going great so far my baby is healthy but im still scared.. I dont know what to do i really dont want one but i dont want my husband to be mad

[Vnessa7]

Why don't you do one a month before baby and then you can do a welcoming shower after baby! Just because if your a ftm you can use all the stuff you can get! I know it's really hard I have had 2 mc one being on my husbands and mine 7 year ani! It was horrible because both of my sister in laws were healthy pregnant! It was really bad! So I do understand maybe when you get further along 8,9 months you will feel a lot better and get a sense of relief! But congrats hope you all the best!!

[CheyenneDayle1234567890]

My baby shower is after baby comes everything we have now like furniture for the nursery was either hand me down or given to us for christmas we have odds and ends of clothing and books and stuff to that were given to us.. a few of our friends lost babies at 23 weeks so i am terrifified and scared to buy things till after 24 weeks im currently 20 weeks and find out the gender on monday and we willpaint our nursery thats about it

[missy_100]

I've also done one after baby's here then everyone can enjoy holding baby/ meeting em

[MsLove01]

I've heard of a few people having the shower after the baby arrives lately :) may help to bring some healing to your loss as well.  Praying for a healthy full term pregnancy and delivery.

[mhietotski]

if you dont mind, why did you lose your baby at 23 weeks? and how did you find out?

[imfinallypregnant]

I just dont want one maybe im just hormonal but i cant help feeling sad everytime i think about it... But having one when the baby is here sounds like a good idea.

[krampjennie]

Do u not want one at all or just not yet? And you can always have a baby shower after baby is born and just put names in a notebook of who you would like to invite and possible ideas for it...don't go overboard with it until you are much further along.