My sister... Again!

[emmahackles14]

l had posted a question a while ago about whether I should have my sister with me when I deliver but my husband didn't want her to. Now my husband is going to be in the room no matter what, but my sister keeps persisting because I was with her when she delivered my neice. I've told her plenty of times that my husband doesn't want a third person in the room but she keeps going on about her being there. I told my husband that maybe he should talk to her because maybe then she would finally get the message but he won't. What should I do? Tell the doctor that I only want my husband with me orfind a way to get my husband to confront her? It seems like I can't Make anybody happy anymore. I'm getting induced in 3 days so I need advice fast!

[thspeach_02]

Is your delivery scheduled? If not simply don't tell her you're in labor, if it is then let the nurses know and if needed hospital security can be notified... if you both agree it's a "no" then just don't back down... in the end this is your day... not hers

[stephie325]

If you've told her you don't want her in there just let the nurses know before hand and she won't be allowed in there is she won't take no for a answer. I'm going through the same thing is but with my mother in law. I don't even want her in the hospital while I'm there I only want my mom to be there if my boyfriend he drives trucks can make it there in time other wise I don't want my mom there wither

[sunshine_123__]

I had a huge blowout with my sister over the exact same thing... I was there when my niece was born. I truly dont want anyone in the room with me except my husband. She was furious and I was selfish and blah blah blah. Well.... I stood my ground. This is our time and its not up to anyone else to to tell you what to do. My sister finally is over it. Im sure your sister will to. Just don't stress over it. Your about to meet your little baby thats all that should matter at this time. Dont let anyone ruin that for you.

[emmahackles14]

I have. I've tried so much to get her to stop. She has told me that she's never heard my husband say anything about it. Like all he has to say is he is on my side and I will satisfied. She feels like she has the right. I have told her no and to stop bringing it up but she doesn't stop because to her just my word isn't good enough that's why I want my husband to saying something so that it isn't coming from just one person.

[Amina4ae]

Well it's your choice! Don't let her pressure you into anything. Don't give in and keep your husband OUT OF IT. Its between you and  her. Be matter of fact, direct. Not 'trying to tell her' that's sounding like your being unclear and sparing her feelings for your comfort! Just say, look... I don't mind you coming in and out during labor but nice things get serious I want only my husband in the room with me. I'm sorry if this hurts your feelings but this is what I'm comfortable with. Period. Do not wngage in any further conversations about it. If she brings up again you say we've already talked about it and I'm not changing my mind.

[emmahackles14]

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[emmahackles14]

I have told my sister. Plenty of times. I'm not wussing out of anything.There is no surprise in any of it. Say to be rude -after the advice but I said she keeps pressing in to after being told no by me and that I suggested my husband to say something because maybe the she wowld get the message. I have tried to tell her on multiple occasions that me and my husband came to the agreement that we want it to be just Me and him but she goes on saying that she should be there and that it's my choice only so i figured that if he would talk to her she would have heard from both of us and would finally-book off Knowing that we are both serious. But he won't do it because he honestly doesn't like confronting people about

[AnnieBrooke]

I agree.  

If you don't want her to be in the room (and you should honor your husband's wishes in this matter, since he is your husband and the most primary person in the baby's life after you), you tell your sister, don't wuss out and make your husband do it.  She will hate him for the rest of her life if he is the one to deliver the bad news, and it is very inconvenient to have a sister hate one's husband.  If you can't stand to do it in person, write her a note.

Then also tell the medical personnel.  Don't put them in the position to be the first ones to tell her that she can't come in, that is your job.  But make sure they all know you don't want her in the room.  They will keep her out, or call Security if they have to.  Again, this should not be a surprise to her delivered by the medical staff, you should have told her already.

[meg52115]

You need to decide whether you want her there. If not, then tell her no. But tell her from you not your husband.

Our nurse told us that theyd be the bad guy and say they need the room cleared except for the spouse if we decided thats what we wanted. You could talk to your doctor/nurses about the same thing too

[Secondtimemomma]

I say do what you want. If you want your sister than let her but don't just do it because you were there for her delivery. I saw/helped My sister deliver my second nephew. But i didn't feel comfortable with her in my delivery room.  She felt comfortable with several people watching her deliver but I'm not as comfortable with the idea of everyone seeing me possibly poop on the table. I held my own legs and did everything natural the first time hoping for the same result. But you are the one that needs to be comfortable.

[Blue9312]

It's your choice who's in there and what you're comfortable with, if you want her in there tell your husband to suck it up he's not the one that's going to be going through all the pain.