god must really hate me

[keirajane]

i dont know wat to do, wat have i done to deserve this after suffering a miscarriage last dec then falling preg straight away again i was thrilled, but today my world crashed and burned i got my results back  from my down syndrome test and im all clear for that but am an increased risk for edwards and patau syndrome and shove seek genetic counselling with my chance being 1:307 it ***** there is no chance of survival for either syndrome so looks like ill have to terminate if thing turn worse, my chances are small out of 307 babies 1 will have the syndrome knowing my luck it will be my baby, sorry girls im just venting and so annoyed at the whole world i just want this baby so much it hurts so much

[kjbutcher]

When is your scan?  It should be coming up, right?  
Everyone else:
I think we need to be supportive of her decision and help her in this time of need instead of telling her what to do...especially in a harsh manner.

if she wanted a dog, she would have gotten a dog.  I dont think she needs perfection, as no one is perfect, but she would like a baby who isnt going to suffer horribly for its whole short little life!!  Maybe you could research these diseases and find out what she is dealing with!!  This is one of the hardest times in her life and rude comments will not be what helps her along in this...YOU SHOULD KNOW!!!!

Good Luck Keirajane and please let us know how it turns out!

[G131313]

Don't terminate!! I lost my baby at 18 weeks just a week ago- I never would have known that something wasn't right if he hadn't died- I know if he was meant to live he would have, imperfections and all- your body and baby know what's right- i would give anything to have my little boy alive- plus i have a friend who had those same test come back likely to be positive and her baby girl was perfect- don't do it- there is something wrong with all of us and we were born, if you need perfection get a dog!

[J_MO]

Whatever you do don' terminate.  God is capable to taking care of this and he will in his own way.  They told my cousin the same things and her baby was born perfectly fine.  You don't know anything until the baby gets here.  Don't take away its chance of living and being born even if the doctor recommends it.

[tivey]

I would advise you to go for the amnio then and get more information etc. (although I heard it not a pleasant experience and a small risk of miscarriage) Also go for genetic counselling too which will bring a great deal of support. good luck and rememember 1 in 300 is not a bad %. There is more chance of everything being fine.

[keirajane]

its was the blood test and u/s put together

[April_Baby]

Whatever you do please believe God does not hate you. I am living testimony. You wouldn't believe all the things I went through to try to get pregnant. One thing I know God does not hate you. I am sure your baby is going to be fine. It's a blessing to be able to get to this point. Rejoice the moments you have with this baby. I am a witness that God can do anything (TUST ME I KNOW). Pray and Let Go and Let God Handle The Rest!

Take Care and Keep us Posted :)

April_ Baby

[JoyRenee]

Most of those tests give false readings. Your baby *COULD* be just fine. Get further tests and don't terminate unless you know for sure. Even if your baby wouldn't survive getting to hold them for as long as they do live would be a blessing. I know so many women whose babies died at birth or shortly after (they knew they were going to die) and they said they will cherish getting to hold them and see them for those few precious moments they got and would've regretted terminating the pregnancy, like was suggested by their doctor.

Anyway, good luck! Please keep us up-to-date.

*HUGS*

[oceanv]

Was that the blood test results or the amnio/cvs results?

Not that its good to be told 1/307 if you do the math that's still less than a 1 percent chance. If that was just the blood results (which I've heard can be a little alarming) I would do an amnio to confirm the diagnosis.
Good Luck

Joanne

[Nini2686]

I'm sorry that you are going through this but I have to comment on your title of your post. God doesn't hate you or hate anyone. He isn't doing this to punish you or get back at you for something you did. God just doesn't do things like that. I recently just went through a really trying time where doctors told me my baby was going to be born with all birth defects and advised me to terminate my baby. I don't want to get all religious on you but I prayed and prayed and placed faith in God. I decided not to terminate and you know what.. the doctors were wrong and my baby is heathly. I know that our situations are very different but I also suffered a m/c in Dec08 and got pregnant right afterwards. I don't know anything about Edwards and Patau Syndromes... What are the affects on the baby?? I know how much this is hurting you and I'm here to talk to.