Need advice about the father - separated

[SammyPerello]

Hi guys, ugh I need help. I am 5 weeks along and am not with the father. We had a really close relationship which led to us getting carried away one weekend. Things went south shortly after because he refused to open up and I wanted him to talk to me about what was bothering him - he got bothered by that and bailed. Then I found out I was pregnant. I told him and he comes from a broken home and always said he would never let a child of his grow up in a broken home. I had some issues with my hcg levels which caused some confusion in the beginning on if it was a mc or not. He's about 3000 miles away so distance is a factor. After a few weeks things have settled down with my levels and began looking normal. This is my first child..I've grown SUPER protective of him or her already. I've been alone in this so far..he tells me he wants to be involved but hasn't done anything to be involved. I am the one always reaching out to update him on the baby. He's clueless with all that's entailed but honestly so am I. My question is, do I keep reaching out and updating him? Or stop and force him to begin reaching out if he cares and if he doesn't, just proceed by myself? He's gotten upset when he was worried I was dating (I wasn't) but does nothing...it's like he's not taking it seriously. Do I try and include him still? Or just focus on the baby and myself?

[AnnieBrooke]

Did you say you were only 5 weeks pregnant?  That isn't giving him a lot of time to step up the way you are expecting.

[SammyPerello]

I guess I just think if I were in his shoes, I'd be doing a whole lot more.  I refuse to let him be absent in all of this for 9 months and then poof, he's there.  He needs to either be all in or not in at all you know?

[fefe1900]

Sounds pretty close to what is happening with me, i spokes to the dad about my concerns he still isn't all the way there yet but he does try to show support, u can only try and then have to let him decide what he really wants...