Stressful situation!

[FirsttimemommyAugust2015]

Okay ladies I'm a FTM at 20 years old. And I have a super messed up situation going on with my babies dad. I just need opinions and advice! Here's my whole situation. I will try to explain as best as I can. I wasn't with the babies dad long at all before I found out we was pregnant. He was beyond happy I mean he said he wanted it before we even found out I was! We was together until I was about 4 months then he got cheated on me and got back with his ex girlfriend which is a girl that I had been best friends with in the past not when I got with him,we hadn't been friends for a long time before I got with him it wasn't in any way to get back at her or to hurt her in anyway. She had cheated on him in the past and she had moved on to other guys. Well as I was saying we broke up when I was almost four months and he was back with her,not even a month later they are married. His family had  continued to be on  my side as they didn't like the ex and knew he was doing wrong. They all constantly told me how much they didn't like her and didn't want her around them. Well,I soon found out that the ex had threatened to burn down my house and also pretended as if a teddy bear was my baby and was pretending to smother and choke it saying"this is her baby" now the both of them say it's not his baby and I haven't spoke to him since the day we broke up. He still continues to say it's not his! His family I have recently found out is very two faced and was lying to me the whole time and had the ex around them and was telling me she wasn't. How would they ever expect me to trust them with my baby if they are already lying? Well I have erased them everyone from social media and pretty much blocked them out of my life completely I just don't know what to do next I know the babies dad probably won't try to see the baby because of his wife not wanting him to and he has it in his head that it's not his and I know if he does decide he wants to be in her life I don't want his wife anywhere near my baby I mean she threatened her life!! I just need to know what I should do.

[african_mama_bear]

Yes you can keep her away from your baby let the courts know what she has said keep any threatening text messages have witness ask for full custody and only supervised visits in a public area w.o her around dnt nobody care if their married if you dnt feel safe or ur child isn't safe they will not ignore that

[cliqueguy1992]

Umm I think it varies of what state your in. Like I said before you can have a supervised visit or just have full custody and not let him see his child. But it's up to you hun. I personally would have just kicked her *** for even thinking about hurting my child maybe a restraining order??

[FirsttimemommyAugust2015]

Can I keep her away from my baby legally? I have heard there's nothing I can do to keep her away considering they are married but,I don't see how it's my baby and she threatened her!!

[african_mama_bear]

Yes you are way nicer than me too oh child the moment someone threatens my child imma just say u way nicer than me lol just really dnt have that baby around that girl or even him and his family alone always be there if u really want him involved if not eff it but still put that a** on child support

[MsRodriguez23]

Tbh u way nicer than me lol it would have been problems im in the samee shoes as u me and my bf have a 2 year old and now im pregnant again by him but we not together i didnt let him off easy he layed down with me and got me pregnant twice if he think hes gonna walk away like that he got another thing coming i had put him on child support for our 2 year old and im pretty sure imma put him on again for our daughter.....guys really think their slick they can just up and leave after getting a girl pregnant no thats not cute at all we just had babies by lil boys that was thinking with their heads down there smh

[xojensen_]

Put a restraining order on her. For you and the baby. She sounds insane and extremely jealous of the baby. You honestly don't need him nor his family in your baby's life.

[cliqueguy1992]

If you don't want her around your baby don't let her. If he wants to see his child make sure it's supervised!!!! I wouldn't let him see my kids if his so called wife acts like that!! Smh now I'm pissed and ready to fight lol

[FirsttimemommyAugust2015]

Thank you guys so much for the advice! It really helps I just really don't want this crazy girl around my baby at all whatsoever and I'm just not sure if there's anyway that I can stop it?

[african_mama_bear]

I would do a DNA put him on child support and have full custody of ur daughter and tell the courts that his wife is a danger to ur child if he has any type of custody because of the things she is doing and saying smh I would not ever have my child around him and her it seems like he goes with w.e she says and I really don't want ur child to be hurt ppl that say things like that are not joking and may really bring harm to ur child pls dnt have ur child alone around any of them not even his family what I read about what she said and did really pissed me off and I have A friend who when we was younger her step mom hated her used to do all types of things to her and the dad did nothing it got so bad to the point her uncle had to step in and take her away from her dad dnt even try to entertain that and forget all of them if that evil miserable girl means so much to them fine let them have her u do what u got to do for ur child and put him on child support u have the last laugh

[Roxxxy915]

Wow what a rollercoaster. Icnt say dnt stress cause ikno its hard & totally unfair for the baby. But yes , you did a good thing by deleting his fam outta yer life... Start brand new & you'll see later you were better off by yourself. Remember if he could be 2face w.yu then maybe his gonna do it w.his wife & cheat on her & whats worse their married now or bck wards karma is a pain in the butt maybe he'll get played . But either way his lost if he doesnt wanna b around the bby life cause its such a blessing. But dnt let him go off easy put child support on him & put the bby last name as yers & not his. & if he wants a DNA test let him pay for it cause u dnt have to prove him nothing. Best of luck

[cliqueguy1992]

Just leave him alone girl!! It's not worth the stress on you or your baby. My babies dad left me because I broke up with him because he's not ready to be a dad. And we we're on and off for a whole year before I got pregnant. You are better than me because I would have been cussing up a storm but you know you can't make someone be a dad and to be responsible. Maybe he will come around but in the mean time do what's best for you and your baby. I'm sorry you have to go through this I just wish guys weren't such pig's. Erase all contact with him and his family because at the end of the day the family is really on his side. Just be the best mommy you can be. Things will get better. If you want child support make him pay even if you have to do a DNA test you guys made a baby don't Just let him off easy. I know your struggle and it will be ok. I'm here if you need anything.