Getting stronger.

[97Josielynn14]

My boyfriend has completely ignored me throughout this whole pregnancy. doesn't hold me (without me asking him too) doesn't fall asleep with me anymore, doesn't have sex with me anymore. (But has time to masterbate to other girls pictures and hasn't truly said why he doesn't want sex with me anymore.. it's always an excuse.)
Tonight he got upset and usually I care to find out what's bothering him. But I truly don't care at all. What's the point in making up when he doesn't treat me like I'm here. No point in making up if he's only going to treat me like I'm his friend and not his girlfriend.
This use to bother me that he hasn't treated me like I am the woman growing his child. Now I could care less. I suppose I'm getting stronger and moving on from him. The love just isn't there anymore. Nothing worth fighting for. I've cried and fought with him and tried everything to get his attention but nothing works at all.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Sorry you are going through this.  I will say that there are men that have a difficult time when it comes to sex during pregnancy.  My husband, for whatever reason, was like that.  He was just weirded out.  I didn't grill him about why or get all upset about it.  We were committed through marriage and made a vow to always work on things.  And once I had the baby, it went back to normal.  Blip on the radar.  Same thing happened with our next child.  

So, in a way, I'm wondering if you put pressure on him.  

Also, was he ever an affectionate person?  I always find it odd that a couple is together and then get pregnant and THEN they decide the aren't right for each other.  how could they be so right before the pregnancy?  

anyway, it's really hard to be a single mom for both the mom and it is hard on the child who really craves time and a relationship with their dad.  Babies are one thing but by about second grade, kids see other kids in in tact homes and will begin to really long for that.  It's hard to see that our kids don't have something that others do and want.  You'll have to really work hard to facilitate a relationship between your child and their father even if you two aren't together.

Anyway, if it were me, once I were pregnant, I would not give up easily.  I would throw myself into trying to make things better.  Maybe you can and maybe you can't.  time will tell.  good luck

[fancynicole123]

What you ladies may not know is that guys go through a hormonal and physical change during your pregnancy as well. Im not saying this is an excuse for them doing what they have to you, but where you change, they change as well. Maybe read up on them a bit and it might help you understand how they might be thinking about everything these days. And maybe itll help him notice you and help you where you need it. Just a thought. But if it doesnt work. Leave. You guys deserve better. And you dont need this stress right not. Its not healthy for you or the baby

[babytese]

That's really crossing the line where he tell other girls they are beautiful ugh

[mama2bwit2]

Girl you sound like your talking about me and my fiance he dont even kiss me anymore we dont have sex anymore he is so distant and I feel like I mide as well be doing this on my own because I feel like were not even together we just reside in the same house

[97Josielynn14]

No use in talking. He said he's tired of it. He's ignoring me completely. He treats me like I'm his friend. I've asked him a few times to come lay down with me because I missed laying in his arms. And then he later brought it up in an argument that he hates that I treat him like a little kid with a bedtime. He doesn't even fall asleep with me. He just lays there and gets to the point where he looks like he is annoyed holding me. So I tell him he can go back to watching tv. And he gets up and leaves. I don't argue with him on that at all. Doesn't like having sex anymore. Doesn't touch me sexually but has time to masterbate in private. This isn't a relationship anymore. It's not an equal thing we have. It's always his way. And if I bring something up that hurts my feelings it's my fault never his. I have pulled myself further away from him and stopped (his words) nagging and complaining. He doesn't kiss me like he wants to. It's like everything is forced. Doesn't recognize me and tell me I'm beautiful. But has time to mention to his girl friends on Facebook that they're beautiful.

[LoveCake98]

There's a really good book called the 5 Languages of Love by Gary Chapman.  There's a website too & u can take a quiz to learn your own language and your BF language if u decide to stay with him.  It was a good relationship book for me. Just thought it could help u too and your BF if he's interested in growing your relationship. Best of luck.  Try not to stress yourself out too much momma.

[blessedmommytobe]

The same here...since i got pregnant our relationship has changed its lk he dsnt want to be near me and i cry for everything but my aunts nd friends say its jst the pregnancy changes especially if im having a boy bc guys can feel it and start detach frm us even jealous: /yall should talk whenever yall are ok or go out to dinner or to the park and talk abt how u feel nd how he feels

[RockRose]

Josielynn,  some men aren't interested in having sex with their pregnant partners.  Don't make him "truly say" why he doesn't want to have sex with you right now - that will just cause a world of hurt.  

Is he actually ignoring you and being cruel to you,  or is he just not interested in sex or sexual type contact?