HELP PLEASE, 45 and pregnant

[Rita1_p1]

Hello! Well I'm 14 and I'm very worried about my mom.

About a year ago, I was living in New York with my family. My mom went to go see a gynecologist to know if she could still get pregnant( not that she wanted to). The Gino said that I'd take a miracle to still have a baby. So my parents never thought about it again. Now, this year we came back to Morocco. Our situation is a little bit difficult at this time. Problems with this different environment, jobs, financial problems... And about 2 weeks or so, my mom ( who is 45 ) was pretty sick and had symptoms of pregnancy. She then went to her gyno to check if she was pregnant and well surprise,surprise, she was. Everyone was shocked by this. My brother and I were happy ( he is 16) but my mom has a very difficult time accepting. She's to old for a baby and she wakes up with anxiety and sleeps with anxiety. If it wasn't for our religion and for her strong belief of God, she said she would have had an abortion. Everyone in my family is truly happy but she really isn't. Her mental is so bad and she really does not want this baby. My dad is also very uncomfortable with this whole pregnancy since his job situation and all is very special. I have no idea what to do, and I'm very worried. I thought I'd ask for professional help. Thank you for your time.    

[AnnieBrooke]

Even if she feels she is too old for a baby, she is actually not.  Maybe it will help her to hear that ladies her age have babies all the time.  If the job situation is difficult for your father, perhaps family can help out for a while when the baby comes?

[ihaveafuzzymutt]

Folks on here aren't really professionals, just moms chatting. It sounds like it's really stressful for your mom. Probably the best thing you can do is let her kniw how excited you are, and see if she's willing to discuss practical ways you cam help after the baby is born. It's harder on a woman's body to have a baby when she's older, so if yiu can talk about ways to help her with getting the cooking done; or changing some of the diapers; or playing with thebaby after school so she gets a bit of a break.

In the end, you can't do this *for* your mom, and you can't change her feelings. Thats not your responsibility, and you shouldn't feel bad that you can't. Just be as supportive as you can.

I was 13 and my mom was 45 when my youngest sister was born,tho there were a few other kids in between. I loved having a baby to take care of. I was kind of a second mom to her, and we're still very close and talk all the time. So you're right to be excited about this baby. :) Best wishes.