update :'(

[Bre_baby2]

Welp ladies our relationship is officially over. I posted a few days ago that my bf and I broke up from me letting my hormones get the best of me. Today he did come to the ultrasound and I tried to explain to him everything but he doesn't believe me, he thinks it's an excuse since I wasn't this emotional with our first child. He says I can have the house and he'll help but he doesn't want to do the cycle of argument over minor things. I'm speechless and don't understand how someone who says they love you can just leave like that.

[specialmom]

Nice advice remar.  I'm sorry he finally got to his breaking point.  I agree that he probably still loves you but couldn't take it anymore and worried about the stress of constant bickering/arguing on the kids as you can not have a peaceful home with that going on.  I've always believed that people will live with that for 'so' long and that is why I try to give advice on how to stop ourselves from giving into the hormones and reacting and using more self control.  It may not be too late.  Work on that stuff now!  Hormones shift at various times in our lives and we'll have that same ability to fly off the handle and learning to control it is essential for our kids, our significant other and our selves.  

And I'm sure he is not perfect either.  

But I would assure him you are working on it----  and then really DO.  And hopefully this is just a blip on the radar and he'll come back and you two can start over communicating more often in positive ways.

Agree totally with remar that the suggestion of marriage counseling would be a great thing to begin for the two of you.

good luck hon and sorry this happened.  

[remar]

He can still love you but not be able to live with you. Especially if you nag him a lot. Please don't take that the wrong way. I understand what pregnancy is like and how uncomfortable and irritated you can feel. Arguing gets you no where but good communication does. Maybe it will be a good idea to have some time away from each other. He sounds like a good father if he's still going to appointments with you and will continue to help you with your home. Give him a little time and then talk to him about couples therapy. It can really help with your relationship. You already have one child and another on the way. They are the most important thing right now. They deserve to have both of their parents in their lives who know how to communicate, not just argue over any little thing. I really hope everything works out for all of you.