Father claiming it's not his baby

[faith273006]

I been with my bf for a year we recently move in every time we get into an argument he says how do I know if the babies mine or not my question is why would he attend doctor appointments and make an effort if he thinks the baby is not his?

[paulina6612]

Get the test !!! That'll **** his trap forever!!! Been there its just insecurities n trust issues I hope you two get it fixed for the baby sake :)

[DVS11]

Doesn't the baby have to be born for that type of dna test?

[AnnieBrooke]

You used words like "father" and "baby," so I thought you were saying the baby was born.  Get the test and tell him you're ready to test when the baby is born.  Do you have any reason to think the baby is not his?  (Another boyfriend around the time you conceived, or anything?)

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, Faith, maybe he has doubts that have only just surfaced.  You can easily stop him if that line of argument bothers you a lot by buying a DNA test at Walgreen's and next time he pulls the line in a fight go get the test and say, OK, let's do it.

[jbee09]

Yes but don't u have to send the swabs to a lab?

[Jazminnewmommy]

Oh my goodddddd. Literally the same thing I'm going thru!. Like seriously and what makes the men so stupid is that if they felt they were getting cheated on or the baby is not theirs y wait for an argument to throw it in our faces. Men r just stupid and petty. And my sons dad did the same thing and I said listen if u really believed this baby is not yours u wouldn't even had gotten some of the things u did get. And I offered a DNA but he won't take it which makes me angry.  Any female who knows its a possibility the baby not being theirs would not offer that man a DNA test because u would look stupid in the end!

[Claudia5thprego]

Hes just mad.mine said that recently and he said he wasnt going to the appt with me. I got ready and was ready to leave without him. He jumped in the car last minute. I told him if he is gonna act like this to let me know so i can choose a name that goes well with my last name and not his. He didnt like that. Since then thats not what he brings up in arguements

[JessiBear93]

I've been with my fiance for 4 years now, and we have had two miscarriages already. This is our first successful pregnancy and it's almost over. He's said from day one he has his doubts, but exactly as some other women have said, get it ready, or have them do one immediately at the hospital. I feel that most men do it purely out of anger and insecurities.

[KeyDominique]

I'm going through the same thing and I know for a fact that I haven't been with anyone else but him.. Some guys say it out of anger but the next time he brings it up just let him know you will gladly do a DNA test to shut him up

[Bree_29]

I had almost the same problem with my first born. Only it wasn't my boyfriend who didn't think the baby was his it was his mother. I let her day all she wanted because I knew that my son was his son. When our son came out there was no need for a Dna test but if it comes down to it and he really is unsure I agree that you should get a dna test done just to prove that the baby is his so he can't throw it in your face every time you argue

[BabyE713]

I think it's just a man thing. Because my fiance and I have been together for a year an a half and when we argue he says the same thing. Finally one day I asked him why he says it and then makes up right after he said just because he does he didn't know exactly why. So now if he says it and we're arguing I just ignore him yes it's hard because you don't understand it but I guess it's just how they are.

[snowyaj]

Sorry to hear what you're going through. Ummm maybe not what you want to hear, but if he only starts this nonsense now then he's not mature enough to be in a stable relationship and a severe lack of trust. I don't know you or whether or not there's anything for him to be basing accusations like this on, but I'd be racing like the clappers away from him, you dont need doubt in you or your babys life!

[AnnieBrooke]

Sure, what is wrong with that?  But producing the test to do on the spot (and then you would mail the swabs to the lab after you both swab your mouths and seal them up) will show him you're willing to test just to get him to stop hurling accusations.

[jbee09]

Nothing wrong at all . Was just curious about the test is all. :)