monster in law.... anyone...

[ryanswife62312]

hi so my story is i married my husband three years ago. we have been together five years. first i was preg three months after we got engaged so there was a huge issue about getting married before he was born etc and i didnt we waitted till our set date. i lost one of the twins in the beginning bec they stressed me out so bad about it being in a chruch and lalala i didnt want married in a chruch etc my husband and i fought alottt the whole time also bec he refused to stand up to his mom and said i was taking it all wrong. oh and atttt the hospital she had the nerve to say i hope he looks like rya
n ( my husband)last year i was preg with our daughter ( had her jan 6 2015) this time wasnt so bad but it was sooo obnoxious bec i was preg for his sisters wedding god forbid that... anyway we are surprised but happy regardless of timeing, we are preg again lol baby three! abyway his sister is preg due dec. im due end of feb time. they have not given two flyn poos about this baby. i am having a few things going wrong and ob high risk of misscarry. and all she wanted to do was try saying to get our priorities in.order, we have our stuff together but shes ethr a a bitty about it or b ignoring it completely.  i just wanna scream at her and i just might.

[RockRose]

I'm not sure you can blame his family for the death of your precious twin baby - miscarriages happen.  

The fact that you and your now husband were fighting so intensely over the specifics of the wedding ceremony isn't really his family's fault,  and I also don't think you can blame yourself and your now husband for the death because of all the fighting.

Sometimes,  even in the best of circumstances,  babies don't make it to birth.  

And I think it's probably harming your health to keep hating his family so much.

[10Angels]

I've been with my husband 19 years married for last 9...his mum still hates on me and doesn't even acknowledge our 3 girls...there was a big blow up last year at their marae and he told them if they were going to continue that way he will turn his back and walk with no regrets....they had pretty much disregarded him for 15 years till his Nana was dying and then all of a sudden  they wanted him around coz we were visiting her daily and singing church songs to her for 3 months before she passed at home. We knew it was all fake though so when the blowup happened it was the first time he had ever stood up and spoken to his parents like that and I was so proud of him....they were so shocked and claimed they would change but to this day nothing has changed and they still don't make any kind of effort with our kids at all. We are now 3 days away from due with our 4th and we both don't give a flying fk what they think or do. They do this to him out of hatred towards me even though I've done nothing but love and look after him and our kids. He was also an adopted child to them so I guess it makes it easier for them to treat him that way coz they don't agree with the life he chose...even though he is very successful....but will devote everything to his other adopted sisters including the only blood child who rips them off left right and centre.

My point is...the in laws are really nobody's in your marriage...you and your husband chose each other and want to have a family out of love so don't let them dictate or make you feel worthless in how things go for you guys in your marriage because then your life isn't happy and it does make cracks in your union. Just continue to love each other and your babies and get on with your own stuff...leave those people to be bitter and you guys just continue to be happy in your little family...they are the ones who miss out massively in the end cause you and your hubby will still have each other and your kids....and that's all that matters.

Sorry I raved on....I feel so strongly about this subject and the effects it can and sometimes does have on one's like you and me with being married to a monster family lolz.

GOOD LUCK!! I will be happy for you and hubby's 3rd blessing.

[melstrom2013]

I know how you feel my mother in law told my husband to get a blood test done and that it's not him I'm prego with our sec one and she worse this time then before but my husband won't say anything to her about it so I know what your going threw

[Kos2Kos]

You need to forget about his family. I would have held off on marrying him until he could stand up to his family. But its already done. You need to do whats best for your unborn child and your kids and worry about YOUR family.  Forget about his. They dont care about you and the stress they are giving you. You have had the power to change this thr whole time.