falling apart

[limabeanmommy2015]

So i feel like my relationship is falling apart maybe is just the hormones but it feels like they are .when i got pregnant i wasn't with my baby father but once i was pregnant we got back together im starting to wonder if it the best choice being together when he is always saying hurtful things and we are always fighting seems like its alway over money which such a hassle because i cant work because im high risk so he making all the money he doesnt want to put money back incase we may need it to fall back on it like he doesnt understand that you have to prepare for a baby you cant wait till they are here then get everything done im stressed and not sute what to do

[specialmom]

I would think about how you can earn a living.  If at all possible, try to work part time.  and if you can't, then think about what kinds of classes you can take so that you can have a job that makes a decent wage down the road.  They have grants and aid to help pay for that and it is well worth it to help you get in a better position financially.  good luck

[limabeanmommy2015]

Thanks everyone you all was very helpful. I have been on bed rest since about 6-7weeks along im now 14 i have alot of health problems. I have lots of help just dont want to have to depend on others want to be able to do this on our own but its hard because of me being high risk . I will be try as all that everyone has said the different things to try hopefully it helps us as this is our first child neither one of us grew up with a father and both want what's best for the baby and ourselfs

[specialmom]

What is your high risk that you can't work if you don't mind me asking?  Financial stress is a leading cause of break ups.  It would be so helpful I if you could get even a part time job.  If this isn't possible I would talk to him about plans in the future--  goals as well.  Such as what kind of job you will get once you can work again and child are needs.  How much money you would like in the bank in case if emergencies.  A list if must have items (which isn't thst huge).  Things like that.  
If you two could compromise and get somewhere close to being on the same page that would be awesome and reduce anxiety.  
It's hard but you two have to be a team both compromising and doing you part.  Good luck

[mommaDof3]

Oh good gracious,  let me tell you that I am going through something similar. Except my SO took over a company with a business partner right after I found out I was pregnant. The worst thing he ever did! His business partner...ugh I can't even explain what kind of a d-bag he is without getting kicked off of here and my SO has let things get so bad in the company because of him. We fight over money EVERYTHING SINGLE DAY. It's ruining our relationship.  I love him and he's an amazing guy but I finally told him that if he doesn't start making decisions to protect himself, the company and our family from finacial ruin then I will have to leave him. We are in no way prepared for this baby and I don't even know how we are going to be able afford anything at this point.  It's so frustrating so I know how you feel. You will have to do what is the best interest of you and your baby.  It's a crappy situation to be in.

[Dametrice]

Sorry meant my husband worked away out I'd state and i work as teacher. Excuse  typos from auto correct

[Dametrice]

Finance is a big reason why allot of relationships fail or go through a strain.

My husband weighed away and i with as a teacher and when i got pregnant he moved home and was looking for a job so i was the sole provider for a while. W always said that finance issues tear up most marriages and relationships so we opt to look at things differently.

I did couponing and started by 20 weeks. Within three months we had almost 6 months of diapers suited from size 1 to 5. We live in California so e were able to do it. We bought all necessities like hair shampoo and conditioner, body soaps, tissue, baby items, and i put clothing on layaway which was at kmart. We made it work and I'm due anyday and it looks like we spent tins of money planning when we didn't. We accepted second items like the crib and bassinet from familyand did a baby shower.

Long story short, y'all can work through thisif you realize that finance issues tear up relationships and move to finding a way to resolve it positively. Where are you located? I wish you could coupon like I did. Or use kmart layaway. Are there peope you are close to that can assist with second hand items?

I'm sorry about the name calling but that's not good. It isn't helping you at this time when you are vulnerable. I would talk with him and discuss that as well as ways y'all can shortly begin to get items for the baby.

[nessee20]

Some times guys are hard headed when it comes to money. Especially if this is all New to you guys. It is for me and my husband as well but we haven't had to buy hardly anything because of baby shower and my mom helped out ALOT! But with the fighting tell him it's not good for you two to be fighting if you're at the stage baby can hear than tell him he can hear us arguing. If not fighting when he comes isn't good as well you don't want him to see mommy and daddy fight all the time. Ik from experience me and my husband have arguments and now that I'm 36 weeks and baby can come whenever he doesn't like to argue at all. Doesn't want baby to see us argue or even hear us argue. Idk if this will help but I hope the best for you! :)