how do i handle this

[saramay2014]

My boyfriend has been smokeing fake weed for a long time now and i try to get him to stop and he says he isnt doing it but then i find out from his dad that he is and he just was lieing to me about it! How do i get him to stop what do i do :(

[specialmom]

This is the boyfriend that you say can do NOTHING for you from visiting to paying for anything because his dad keeps such a tight leash on him?  This doesn't jive with that.

Your boyfriend sounds troubled.  I know you are having his baby but his lifestyle, his neglect of you (almost completely), his smoking are all very big red flags that you are most likely not going to have a happy ending with him.

I would start to minimize his existence in your life which probably just means fewer texts because you don't see him all that much.  

I'm very sorry that he turned out this way hon.  You do deserve a guy that is more of a partner.  good luck

[B1128]

That stuff is horrible! It has been known from some of my boyfriends friends back home that they were addicted to spice and couldn't stop. It does make people crazy, and mentally slow, from what I've heard and experienced myself, that's the lucky effects. The effects are TOTALLY different than what you would experience from smoking lot. Totally different. It's almost terrifying depending on what effects you get from what strand and how much you smoke of it. I don't recommend it to anyone for the getting high use of it, and can't believe they would sell that stuff over weed. If even temporarily. My boyfriend and I had lots of friends on spice and it ruined them, a lot of people are lucky to even recover after a month or so of quitting. It took one bad trip for me and we were both done with that garbage!

Best of luck to you, but this would definitely be a deal breaker for me. Lying is never okay, EVER. If it's petty, chances are it will or is already something big. You have a baby on the way, you need to think about you two and put him and his needs last as it seems he is doing that to you two himself. You need to leave, even if it is temporarily, you need to stand your ground and go somewhere else/kick him out. You don't need the b.s on top of what we already feel 24/7. If things are this way now, bringing a baby in won't make them better, and it definitely will not make it better for the baby.

If there is ever a time to stand strong and up for what you believe in, NOW is the time. Whether it's talking and standing up for yourself or your partner and you hadn't before you were pregnant, now is the time. You are a mom, it's your time now, everything is for that baby. I strongly believe and have done so myself sense becoming pregnant. No one walks over me, because that is not how or what I want my daughter to see from anyone, for me or her daddy. Sorry, but this is my family and no one will f.u.c.k this up for me and mine.

Get rid of him. He's doing you and your baby no good. Find your voice, do not be afraid. He should be the one afraid. Protect yourself and your baby!!!

[JamieNVance]

Spice is nothing like weed. There for he isnt a "pothead". That **** makes you insane, and pretty much retarded. Idk why anyone would consume that stuff. Girl you have a lot of issues with your relationship, as you always post on here about it. Ever think its time to be strong and MOVE ON? sorry for the brutal honesty.

[Niinax2]

I hear that spicy can be worse then weed... idk if it is or not truly just from what I herd... a friend of mines said his friend went a little crazy because of smoking that again idk you would have to ask your doctor

[LaurenC86]

I thought they had made that stuff illegal.... Honestly I don't see the big deal, I've been with alcoholics/serious drug addicts and I'd take a pothead over any other type of addiction any day. Its his choice to smoke and you can't make him quit. Pick your battles unless it's a complete deal breaker for you. However keep in mind that spice or pot tends to make people less moody and temperamental so it's more like a medication to keep a person stable. I've seen people quit smoking and in turn they turned into complete jerks that can't control their tempers and moods.

[MommaEnough4_3]

I think people that smoke mumba are 10 different types of crazy! ITS AN INCENSE! its not even supposed to be consumed by humans! As previously stated, unfortunately you can't make him stop. Is he aware that there are more dangers smoking mumba than there is smoking the real deal?! Is he on parole or something? Smh best thing you can do is pray for his insight, strength and willpower to stop.

[Mrsdtaylor]

You might not want to hear this but you can't make him stop. Only God can deal with his heart to stop. So you can pay for him and support him in stopping. But there comes a point where if he won't stop you have to determine if it's a deal breaker for you or not. You eventually will have to stop complaining and either put up with it or let him go...

[saramay2014]

Its spice n other chemicals.... ive clearly expressed how i feel n i try to suport him but he just continuously lies to me about it. He waist his money on this sh*t n wont do anything for me or the baby. Im really stressing and im about to go to the hospital cause the baby hasnt moved but maybe 2 times in the past 2 hours and im freaking out about it. Hes taking me and im really shocked about it.. im quite mad at him though so after i find out everything is ok imma rant at him

[harley303]

What is fake weed?
You cant force him to do anything he doesnt want to do. Id make it clear to him how i feel about it and support him in quitting. Its like smoking normal fags. Its an addiction