left babies dad....

[GiGi_6]

I just left my babies dad, moved back in with mom, it's an hour away and different town.

What do I do about doctor visits ?

Should I keep the name we decided on? Should baby have his last name or mine ?

[sofygrafe]

Shouldnt you discuss it with him? What is this the 80s?

[AnnieBrooke]

Rodriguez02, do you mean, keep the dad's last name "as long as" he is in the picture and helping you out with the baby?  I didn't get the impression from the original poster that he was doing anything of the kind.  If they were in that good of shape, probably she would not be leaving.

[Rodriguez02]

Am glad am not the only one that left my husband after I found out I was pregnant.... I think you should keep the baby's name and he's last name. Is longest he's on the picture and helping you out with the baby. If you like the doctor stay it's far but he knows everything about the pregnancy and starting all over again it's too much.

[specialmom]

I'd keep the name if you like it and what do you mean --  what to do about doctor's visits?  

[number3andme]

My baby is a girl so I want her to have my last name is will change when she is married her dad wants to have input on her name but he was not done anything to help plus the names he suggested were crazy ghetto .... no thanks I got this

[due22jan15]

Its all up to you but if it was me I would keep my last name not his and as for the doctor if you live near him or her then stay buf uf not find another for the name if it has grown on you keep the name if not change it hope you get everything sorted out its going to be all better soon try not to stress xxx

[zo_n_daemommy]

I would give baby your last name. I was with my first 2 kids' dad for 10 years. Split up, we got together in high school and changed completely. We thought kids would bring us closer together. Not so much....anyways. They have his last name. We haven't been together in 2 1/2 years. He hasn't seen them or talked to them in 1 1/2 years.  I wish they had my name and I have no idea how to go about changing their names

[luxah]

In my opinion, if it was bad enough that moving away from him was what needed to be done, then no I would not give baby his last name. Way to many rights fall to him just because of that and if hes on the birth certificate. If you were ever to find someone else and marry them and you had no contact with babies bio then for your husband to adopt could be a trial all in itself. (My brother and sister in law had to fight for three years just to find the guy.) So yeah. Just some foodfor thought there. Lol. As for the name, Iif you like it keep it. If you're comfortable with your previous doc and don't mind the drive then continue there. Good luck.

[love_being_his_mrs]

I'd keep baby's name with your name. If you guys reconcile and you feel you want to change it you can, but if it goes really bad you might regret it later. If you like the name it doesn't mean you have to change it!  It might be a good sign of peace keeping to keep at least 1st name the same. Even if you aren't with him, it's still his baby too ya know? Co parenting is hard, and it might show him that you want to involve him with baby's life even if you two aren't together anymore.  

[AnnieBrooke]

You want you and the baby to have the same last name, don't give the baby the dad's last name over yours.  If baby has a different name it can make people think he is not your child, and that is so frustrating if you are the one doing all the work!

[alicesaidwhat]

My friend was still with her baby daddy when she gave birth but she still kept her name on the birth certificate since he wasn't really involved for much of the pregnancy.

I think for doctor's visits, it's whatever you're comfortable with sweetie. If you are still cool with him and you ended on good terms, it wouldn't hurt. But if you're upset how things ended, I say just explain to him that although you want him to be in the baby's life, you need some time.

Good luck mama! I wish you and your baby all the best!

[isaknhenrysmama]

Well first good for you. Second I would get all records and find a new dr where you are at. If you like the name keep it. If you don't pick one you do like. I have always been a firm believer that if you are Married baby should have daddy's last name. If not married then baby should have your last name. I hope this helps. Good luck mama.