sperm? would you?

[Mrs_MP3]

So this is the last bundle of joy my husband and I are having. He will soon undergo a vasectomy. Yesterday my sister, who is in a same sex marriage, asked if we would give her some of my husband's sperm before he gets his surgery in hopes to have her own child...what would you do? I'm not totally against it, but just interested in some outside opinions.

[Jaynie_3rd_baby]

Ummm...no. It's just too icky. The kids would be half-brothers and cousins. Sounds a little back-woods to me! Besides, the only children my husband will be fathering belong to me. I snagged him, his spermies are mine!

[lurooney]

Personally i would never do it,its a lovely thought but not for my sister,it would be very confusing for the child i think,i mean that child will be your kids half brother/sister totally weird..she should get a donor from someone thats not related and make it less complicated

[Sara_Lee87]

I wouldn't do it, what I'd your husband doesn't like the way the lesbian are raising his child? It's just alot to think about. Couldn't she get a neutral sperm donor? What if she gets vindictive  or pissed about something and then collects  child support from him. That happens u know

[schenner2]

I think it would be an absolutely amazing thing to do for your sister.  I bet that it took alot of courage for her to even ask you guys.  I can only assume that you sister must think highly of your hubby and yourself as parents and people to want to be able to use hubby's dna.  I think you would have to sit down with the 4 of you and hash out details about the type of relationship you would want the baby to have with hubby etc.   Props to you both for even considering it what ever your final decision is.

[elen83]

I definitely wouldn't do it. Nothing wrong with her asking but I would tell her that she should look into donors.  
Your husbands sperm should only be used to create kids with you

[Mrs_MP3]

I'm sure she could find another donor, but choose us. Maybe it's just knowing and trusting the donor. Maybe it's because she already know how freaking cute his off-spring are. :-)

[BABYHAMP15]

Sorry but I couldn't do that. Is there a reason she can't find another donor?

[smallbby]

I dont think its weird and at least her kids will truly know where they come from instead of some test tube. The cousins will have an amazing bond.

Same sex things are always so complicated tho -_-...

[SavyB]

No way!! I wouldn't want my man's sperm anywhere near my sister, regardless of her sexual preference... Sorry, Too weird for me!!

[Aylasmommy]

How does your husband feel?
I see NOTHING wrong with it at all. My dad may or may not be the actual father of my cousins. We all know that my uncle couldn't concieve, and my mom says it was brought up that my dad could be thier donor. And thats it. She said she was fine with it, and it was never brought up again. She has no idea if he had gone through with it and he died in o5. And guess what- my cousin's dad is my uncle, no matter what, doesnt matter if the donor were my dad or another family member or a stranger. We could ask my aunt or my uncle but we choose not to. Me and my cousin have said that one day we might get tested to see if we are sisters. But as far as the parent....my dad was her favorite uncle and was her godfather, her dad is the man who raised her- end of story.
Now the only thing I say yall need to consider
Is just how strong is your sister's relationship? Is it a forever thing bc custody would be an issue if they split and would be harsh on the child.

[mummy_times_2]

I don't think  i could do that, just knowing that my husband has a kid to my sister would just be weird to me and that it would be niece/nephew but really it's like a step child... I don't know for me that's just to close for comfort lol but ultimately it's you guys decision and I think it's lovely if you follow through but for me personally I couldn't.

[omg35andpregnant]

I think it's really cool. Hopefully everything works out and your kids will have an unbreakable bond. Good luck

[shaymich2015]

I think it's beautiful! Absolutely inspiring. ♡

[Mrs_MP3]

Thank you all for your advice. Greatly appreciated.

[LoveCake98]

I'd be ok with it.  It's your sister!  I'd also be ok with being an egg donor and I wish I had known about egg donation in my 20s.  I totally would have done it. DNA/cells are nothing to be jealous of. If the insemination is successful it will really be a tight knit family.  I assume you'd be willing to raise your sister's child if anything happened to her or her wife.  I say go for it if your hubby is on board.

[jennymeaney]

I think its a lovely thing to do but personally I wud get too jealous knowing that my husband wud be around his own child that's not mine. I think its absolutely wonderful if thats something u can dwal with.

[Mrs_MP3]

Good advice ladies and for those that wouldn't do it, I don't think it's selfish at all. For the most part I'm not uncomfortable with the fact that my niece/newfew will have other ties to me because all in all we'll be family regardless. I think I'm a little okay with it because I'm a egg donor, so I may have a couple unknown kids out in the world too...I don't see the parent as who DNA is associated with the baby, but who took the time and energy into nourishing the baby and raising them. Also another thing that makes it better for me is knowing that when the child turns of age and wants to know who his/her father is, they'll be happy to know they've been a part of their life the entire time in uncle MP3, so no need in looking around trying to find the missing part of who you are. I'll keep thinking on it tho.

[Mommabanielle]

I think it's really cool that your sister would ask. Sounds like something your husband might have to decide (with your input of course). Maybe he would find it difficult if he felt any attachment to the child. But there are lots of people who raise children of family members for lots of reasons. If he did give them his sperm, it may turn out that your two families have a special bond that you didn't know was possible. If you have the time before the procedure, you might consider seeing a counselor/therapist or social worker who might have experience with open adoption. They might know the right questions to ask to determine whether it is something both parties could successfully handle. I think you should really consider your options before answering your sister. Its definitely not a small choice.

[AprilMomma2]

Nope. I wouldn't do it. I don't want my husband being the father of my sister's baby!

[Miszydd]

I agree with some ladies... I'd find it quit uncomfortable just knowing that the love of my life is the father of my sister's child too... B ut a child is a blessing... In all honesty I couldn't do it. Do with what your feel comfortable with doing.

[babybrown2]

Yeah I don't think I could do it call me selfish

[Farah_Remo]

This is all up to you and your husband. Think about the future, will you be comfortable with the fact of your sister having a child that is your husbands as well? I personally could never go through with it but we all have a different way of thinking.

[mellynn717]

Yes it would be a wonderful gift but for me that would be to werid. I'm my opinion my husband will only have babies with me and it would make me extremely uncomfortable with him having a baby with someone else even if he's not the father figure. But if u do decide to go that route u need to have legal documentation in place so nothing can come back on ur husband for child support even if u trust ur sister and her partner.

[Stef920]

I think it's a beautiful gift to give your sister. She obviously wants sperm from someone she loves and trust and not go to a sperm bank.  I think it is definitely something to talk to your husband about and consider. This is your sister. Not some random ex or girl off the street. I think it is a gift.