other people jealous of my pregnancy :/

[zareenawifey]

One of my sisters in law just had a miscarriage and another is having trouble getting pregnant. So both of them sort of hate me for being pregnant with baby #2. I want to tell them all about it but they just hate me more when I share anything with them. It's really sad. Any one else had this?

[rainbowbb]

I really don't care if you can't see why I'd do that. Everyone handles things differently and I lost 2 babies back to back because my Dr's didn't know how to handle my infertility issues, my first i lost on our anniversary the second on my birthday. And that was still after two years of painful procedures and sickening nonstop medicine. I was drained physically and emotionally. It's not like I kicked people out of my life. I just physically could not see or hear about children without having mental break downs and got rid of them on social media. It helped me not to see kids every day and watch these parents complain about their kids when thats all i wanted. After now reading more about your sil I think that the one with children already is being ridiculous to treat you like that. But the one who had a miscarriage despite only trying a month I can sympathize with. You don't know what she's going through without talking to her. Good luck with your situation

[zareenawifey]

Yea I do understand their side of things but one already has 2 kids (she's trying to conceive) and the other was only trying for 1 month before she miscarried. She was thinking getting pregnant would be easy. Idk. It's tricky. Hopefully by the time I give birth they are ok with the idea of me having another baby. My husband's family are all very close so if if ignore them like they ignore me things may fall apart. I just have to keep being positive when they bring me down. Ahhh families... lol

[african_mama_bear]

I can't see why you would do that though I mean I guess I'll never understand idk I wanted a kid for a while to I had a miscarriage but never felt the need to delete people with kids or not wanna hear about my friends kids it's like you not having as much money as someone you know and you don't wanna hear about their job or anything because you feel some type of way even if you don't or can't have what someone else has does not mean to be envious of all you can do is try over again and just pray and know god has a plan and everything will be ok not take it out on others for doing it before you that's just my opinion

[rainbowbb]

Speaking from the side of you SIL I can sympathize. They may not hate you but Haye their bodies for failing them. I went through fertility treatment for 3 years and suffered 2 miscarriages and after the 1st one I deleted all my friends on fb with kids and told the friends I talk to with kids to please be understanding that I don't wanna hear about their kids. I didn't hate anyone or their kids, but it was just so incredibly hard to see everyone with something I longed for so badly that if I could avoid it at all I would. Seeing pregnant strangers made me cry it was so bad. I'm sorry you feel they hate you, but maybe try and see where they're coming from and talk to them and see if you can do anything to help them overcome their pain.

[african_mama_bear]

Wow that is crazy I can never see why anybody would be envious of an innocent creation in the making like how can you be jealous of someone bringing life to this world smh I hope your in laws stop with negativity and just enjoy the idea of you bringing new life to the family same with your sister ^^^

[Tia2015]

My sister has two and is hating me on me, she is older and now im having a baby she isnt getting all the attention so now she barely talks to me and if she visits my family and im there she tries to make it all about her and tris to tell me ill have a c section becaise im small, :( its the worse