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Im living with my mother in law now for a while but its just so hard because her and my sister in law always judging everyone and talking bad about everyone they even make fun of people with mental disorders & I try my best to do everything right I clean make my own food clean what I used & they always find something bad with everyone when my bf gets his paycheck there like give me money for this and that I get it I live here now we should help them out but the money last for 1 or 2 days then we dont have anything I just dont get why when you try to do everything right they always find a way to still talk bad about me or someone else they're so selfish & it really makes me sad:(
It really did thank you I have some ideas know on what to do and beside one day there going to be needing from us more than what we need them so they should appreciate what we do also because im gonna get a career soon so they shouldnt treat us that way and I am gonna pay them back everything they did for us but after that I dont wanna know anything about them
You should talk to him tell him why r yuh giving them money. If you guys r paying rent then no way in hell i would give them money. If you guys dont you guys should pay the most is $200 so they cant ask for money because you guys pay your own share now. Tell him you need the money to last more than just 2 days that you guys need to look out for yyr selfs now and not them because wats going to happen when yuh need something for the baby where would the girls be? Or yous need something yull have to pay them bacj i bet if yuh borrow after all that money he would give them. Tell him your worrying and wont stand for it no more getting pushed over and at the end of the day you guys r the ones hurting. If you have some where else to go i suggest to go if you tell him everything and still does it tell him you cant deal with it and hate it and if he continues that he leaves you no choice. I know exactly how you feel i have the same issues until i put my foot down and said no more because who would look out for me and my baby and my babys father? No one at the end you cant depend on no one but your self now and days. My babys father would ALWAYS get steped on until i stepped in that was not going to happen on my watch he better speend that money on him self or our unborn child he pays $200 for a small room with no door i live with my mom now and he will soon be to once i redo a bigger room in my moms house and he gets his car i hope this helped.
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Any time sweetie. We're here to try to help. good luck and let us know how it is going
Thank you I dont really like to talk about my problems to anyone but I just needed some advice btw im 21weeks preg. & really you boths advice make me feel better thank you
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Hi there. I'm really sorry to hear about this-- I'm sure it is very stressful and doesn't make for a happy living arrangement.
Sometimes people are like this. I think the best thing is to just not get involved. Let them talk about people-- even you. Who cares? They talk about everyone which means that their comments have very little meaning or weight.
Now, I think the ultimate answer is for you and your guy to get to a point in which you can get your own place. That is hard--- life is expensive, I KNOW! So, you have to come up with plans between the two of you to get on track to make this happen as soon as possible.
If you aren't working, you can think about what you want to do in the future. If it requires schooling, start looking into it. Lots of grants will pay for education/training entirely. Trade school is fantastic! There are great jobs out there that pay a good wage and some are flexible for mama's. Things like nurses aid, CNA's, phlebotomists, x ray tech, ultrasound tech, etc. I have a friend going through a paralegal program and she goes to school VERY part time (two evenings a week for three hours) and it is taking her 18 months to complete the program with that type of part time schedule and cost is under 6000 dollars (which again, can be paid for by grants if income is low). Once she is done, she can earn 40,000 or more a year. She actually has a job lined up that is three days a week so you can do part time after too. Hair design and cosmetology is another good field where women make good money. But whatever it is you want to do, now is the time to explore it and prepare.
And same for your partner. What can he do to improve his wages? I tell ya, if I were a man, I'd look into plumbing, electrician, HVAC, welding. These fields are seeking people and they make such awesome money. anyway, just a thought.
So, talk to him about how to get ahead so you and he can eventually get your own place.
And then it will be easier to ignore him because living with them has an end in sight. :>) Hang in there hon
Sometimes people are like this. I think the best thing is to just not get involved. Let them talk about people-- even you. Who cares? They talk about everyone which means that their comments have very little meaning or weight.
Now, I think the ultimate answer is for you and your guy to get to a point in which you can get your own place. That is hard--- life is expensive, I KNOW! So, you have to come up with plans between the two of you to get on track to make this happen as soon as possible.
If you aren't working, you can think about what you want to do in the future. If it requires schooling, start looking into it. Lots of grants will pay for education/training entirely. Trade school is fantastic! There are great jobs out there that pay a good wage and some are flexible for mama's. Things like nurses aid, CNA's, phlebotomists, x ray tech, ultrasound tech, etc. I have a friend going through a paralegal program and she goes to school VERY part time (two evenings a week for three hours) and it is taking her 18 months to complete the program with that type of part time schedule and cost is under 6000 dollars (which again, can be paid for by grants if income is low). Once she is done, she can earn 40,000 or more a year. She actually has a job lined up that is three days a week so you can do part time after too. Hair design and cosmetology is another good field where women make good money. But whatever it is you want to do, now is the time to explore it and prepare.
And same for your partner. What can he do to improve his wages? I tell ya, if I were a man, I'd look into plumbing, electrician, HVAC, welding. These fields are seeking people and they make such awesome money. anyway, just a thought.
So, talk to him about how to get ahead so you and he can eventually get your own place.
And then it will be easier to ignore him because living with them has an end in sight. :>) Hang in there hon
I went through the exact aame with my ex bf.How far alonq are you in pregnancy? Have you and your partner thought about room accommodation?
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