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[Nehemiah_Mommmy]

I swear I have a over protected dad, I'M glad but he ***** about everything.  I can't do him no more I live with him and it's to the point Where my blood pressure is high and I'm stressing. MY BD got his own place and he told me if I'm ready to leave that I have a place there. I want to move in with him but I'm only 17 and I'll be 18 in 4 months. I'm just ready to leave from him bitching about lil things.

[specialmom]

Ya know, you are very young.  It's hard to see a situation like this through your parents eyes.  As Miss Courtney says, he's worried about you and he's trying to control the situation and you out of that worry and fear.  Becoming a mother before one is really fully an adult out on their own is hard and he is probably aware of that.  And trying to protect you.  But he can't.  You are going to soon be a mother and working harder than you ever have before.  Being a mama is a 24/7 job and yet you are at an age in which you still have so many other things that you also need to do.  You MUST finish school and hopefully go on to either trade school or college to get trained in something that can provide you with a good, stable income.  Every woman needs that for security.  And you'll need some help.  It is hard to imagine . . .   couldn't believe it myself . ..   how scary it is when you first bring our baby home.  You worry a lot.  And there is a lot to do.  There were so many things I simply didn't know.  My own mom is passed away so I was calling my sister every hour . . .  "is this normal?"  "now the baby is doing this, is that okay?", etc.  And I'd been around a lot of babies before.  I surprised at myself that I was stressing more than I thought I would having my own child to care for.  

so, you want to be somewhere that you can get support and help when the baby arrives and someplace that is very stable and calm.  If that is your parents house, stay put.  You have time to establish yourself with your boyfriend in his apartment.  Don't go now just because your dad is worried.  Is your mom in the picture?  Maybe she can ask your dad to tone it down a bit.  

Hang in there.  You got good advice from Miss Courtney.  It's hard to appreciate the love your dad is showing because it looks like meddling and is overwhelming you.  But, he's your greatest cheerleader too.  

peace

[Miss_Courtney]

He's just being a dad & worried about you.
I'm going through the same thing.
Trust me, I get it.
I don't mind that he always checks on me, etc.
Some parents don't care at all.