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tired ,making things seem like its my fault (venting)
This might be long ,so my on & off boyfriend has started to become a *** hole after we found out the sex of the baby which was my 5-6month mark ,like he started pushing me away as if i was doing him wrong when i was only talking to him about what he does ,but at that point he stopped talking to me for like two-three weeks but come to find out he was w/ his female bestfriend & she is around whenever we are at our lows & arguing ,she just pops up which makes me suspicious ,but anyways after that happened he was still pushing away & then he stopped buying food for me ,showing attention to me ,or doing anything that was caring ,but we still talked here & there ,he tries to blame me ,saying im a liar & im not loyal & that after i have the baby imma do me & start ******* w/ a bunch of guys ,so now that i think about it i believe its his excuse to cheat & do him ,but then after a while he started talking to me again b/c he wanted to see me i guess but then he would see me but once a week & we'd have sex & then we wont see each other for another week or he would hang out w/ me for a few days until we do it & then not see him for another week ,like why is he just seeing me up to the sex & then thats it ,he shows he cares when he is w/ me & tell his friends & family we together but my instincts is telling me he is cheating ,this didnt occur before i got pregnant & in the beginning ,& since we found out the sex he hasnt been to my doctors appointment w/ me ,its like im chasing him b/c its rare that he texts me first ,alot has changed at the end of my pregnancy ,like wouldnt he be w/ me everyday or every other day if he wasnt cheating ? Why is he making me feel this way ? He complains about being around me b/c i annoy him sometimes but he says he always wants to be around me ,we just got good last week & its like he made up a story about his family or friend going to him saying we dont talk & he doesnt do what he is supposed to & he texting other females ,im just hurt i love him but im tired of this b/c ive never had to deal w/ this w/ him before ,im about to stop showing imma always be around b/c he is doing this b/c he thinks that but its so much more i can take
I would want someone to reply please
I know its hard but you should not put up with that. Do not be there as a safety net for sex or anything else. Make him prove that you should keep him around.
I'd stop talking to him all around. I'd 100% break it off and if he wants to talk its about baby, not about you two. If he wants to see you, oh well he can wait till baby is born to be around baby. He's playin you like a fiddle and he's enjoying it, whether hes cheating or not, hes still using you. Thats my two cents.
I think ive been his safety & person to f--k & the person chasining him ,do you think maybe i should stop chasing after him & see if he tries to change or show he cares enough to chase me again ? I want him to change back b/c i really want to be w/ him but i dont wanna be his dummy
Ive been w/ him for 4+ yrs ,he even bought me an engagement ring ,its not alot but its the principle & meaning behind it & he told me to give it back when he was being an a-hole in the middle of the summer & said he hates me & other hurtful things ,but then just last week when we werent even good but around each other he tried to show it off to his cousins but i took it off b/c my fingers got fat ,im about to be 9months ive been dealing w/ his on & off b.s for 3-3 1/2 months
Our instincts are always right and for those "friends" who only show up here and there, especially when u 2 aren't doing good that's just a big big red flag! Hes cheating on you. As hurtful as it may sound, but wake up!!! One, if she was such good of a friend u probably would know of her a lot more and she would hang out with you guys without having to keep her on the low. He needs to grow up, ur obviously prego and need support from a man and not a dumb kid u need to chase to get attention from. If he thinks of you and uses u as his securiry blanket and bootie call then guess what? Ur dealing with a baby and not only that, ur having one too!! Pull urself together and use the time e doesn't talk to you because you annoy him to work and get rid of the punk! Really? Like who doesn't get annoyed with their significant others? But that's not a reason to walk away for days or weeks at a time. My bf does that to me and he knows better not to come back ever again!! Ughhhh hearing those comments are annoying and even more that girls put up with all this crap. C you have kids? Really... as if they give a damn. They wouldn't be acting like kids in the first place, they would put their pride a side and get a decent job and make thi bf s work with you and provide for your family as a team!! Not a screw u ur annoying and I'm out until I feel like ducking yiu again bc the other girl I'm seeing annoyed me too so mean time I'll come and hang out with you... move on!! Do it on your own however you can, you'll probably be more happy n relieved :) you'll find someone else who will make you happy and will treat ur kids as if they were his. But settle for retarded dumb fks bc u have kids. Think of you first bc no one else will!!
Why is saying you are leaving easier than actually doing it ? Its so hard especially after all these yrs w/ him smh
An engagement ring is a symbol that your ready to get married. If he took it back then obviously hes not ready. Of course I'd stop chasing him, you're only fueling his ego
And it makes you look desperate. I've not understood why some people do this to themselves, but hun you are so much more than his personal sex doll. I understand 4 years is a long time, but do you wanna spend another 4 years with someone who is willing to hurt you like this?
And it makes you look desperate. I've not understood why some people do this to themselves, but hun you are so much more than his personal sex doll. I understand 4 years is a long time, but do you wanna spend another 4 years with someone who is willing to hurt you like this?
He treats you this way because you let him...put your foot down and tell him if he wants in he better be all in and fix his issues or you'll just have to walk away. Don't let him use you or make you feel worthless. You also should be concerned because if he is cheating Lord only knows if he's being safe. Can you imagine how horrible you would feel should you catch something and pass it to your innocent little one? Be safe and stand up for yourself no matter how annoying he says your being and if he can't treat you better then ditch him, you don't want to show your child that's how anyone should treat a women or have your child see you be treated like that and have it think it's okay for someone to treat him/her that way. You won't be the first or last single mommy, never let that scare you. Good luck and hopefully you make the right decision for yourself and your baby.
Thank you ,& i hope im not just his sex doll but he even brought up moving away to another state for us to have a better life ,im gonna demand my respect & find out what he is doing b/c i cant take much more of this ,i keep trynna avoid it so my baby girl wont feel the stress i do ,i care & love her more than him & she isnt even here yet
I think you know the answer yourself but you don't want to realize the truth don't be blind right now it's hard because you're pregnant you feel lonely don't be scared it takes time but there's plenty of fish in the sea and there's good guys out there just got to look for someone more mature and responsible also you can make nobody change they have to change themselves also don't let him just use you for sex respect yourself so he can respect you too and make it hard for him don't give it to him to easy he knows what to say to you and he knows he would have it easy for him he knows you'll forgive him fast be strong
Now he trynna use me so called being like my family which are full of snakes & weirdos & still think im gon f--k around w/ guys after i have the baby & that he detaching himself from people who doesnt treat him the same but im not f-ing doing nothing ,but he using that so he can hang out w/ some girls & do what he want b/c i saw on his twitter that he was tweeting a song by drake & in that same hr a girl he supposedly was getting for his brothers was tweeting about him then said he was drunk & fell asleep ,like i know him so wow im so fed up of making it seem like its me when he ******* around ,even though we aint together i still wouldnt do the things he does
Putting heart eyes & crying emojis by the things she tweeted ,like it obvious whats going on ,man im trying but its so much more i can take
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