Am feeling SICK!!!

[radhika28]

My mil is here to take care of my baby while i go to work.My hubby is behaving funny now! He expects me to keep shut no matter whatever nonsense his mum speaks. She has a problem with my maid's cooking and my hubby has a problem with the dinner menu! So wen i ask them to decide n cook themselves, im being RUDE! Im not gng to cook as iv kept the maid so that i can spend time with my baby. For nothing at all my husband taunts me & is rude to me:( If i cry he says im creating a show so that he cannot chat with his family! After work wen im home,im single handedly taking care of the baby,if she is crying or yelling..the son n mom put deaf ears to it and are busy dug up in the TV.I tried to tell him, but each time i call him for some help, he is super irritated and behaves badly with me.im hating this and it is impacting our relation as well as the time i spend with my baby as im in a bad mood.Iv begun to feel the baby time as a burden instead of cherishing it.
I love babies and always wanted to be a mum at home for atleast 1 yr once my baby has taken birth.But i need to support my husband to run the house, so im working.Its so tuft to express milk at work, sometimes it seems like a nuisance.But my husband thinks its a simple job to express or feed.
His mum keeps on comparing me with her daughter saying she is perfect etc,I told my hubby that i dun like this all the time & if he can tell her to stop this. Instead he said she is only giving you a 2nd opinion and i am probelmatic and have too many complains and he will send his mum back n call my mum but then things will get worse...etc etc..he wrote a horrible mail to me.
IM STRESSEd and have started tranquilty medicines from last night.

pl reply ladies.
~radhika

[radhika28]

Hey girl, your post,especially the last line puts a broad 180degree smile to my face:-)
Thanks so much for the motivation and also being around.

Regards,
Radhika

[Latrice414]

Oh radhika, im so sorry your MIL is being a buttt and DH is not being helpful, i am no expert in what to say being i am the one caring for my baby all the time and when i get tired i have no one to turn to(well i mean the father) being me and the father are not together anymore.  Only thing i can say is try talking to DH and let him no you need help with the baby, and just tell MIL it hurts your feelings when she compares her daughter to you.  As far as cooking, they should be lucky someone is cooking for them, h e l l, i wish i could afford a maid or a nanny.  Send me a plate i will eat it with no problem, if they dont like her cooking then they may need to start cooking the meals.

Try taking some deep breaths, this is suppose to be a time for enjoying our bundles although it can be stressful at times and make us resent our choices.

I hope things get better with your situation, we are here if you need to vent, keep us posted on how things go.  and by the way, if no one has told you, You are doing a great job as a MOM:)

xoxo Latrice and Trinity