venting

[awildhippy]

I'm 21, married to a man that im not sure who he is anymore.  Our marriage has been love g distance because I'm in the military, so I live I  hawaii and he's in michigan.  It's been hard.  I found out recently I'm 4 weeks pregnant, when I went to visit his last month everything was fine then I came back and found out he's been cheating for the past year, I found out I was pregnant last friday, he's doing drugs.  It's horrible, he has told me he's going to kill me and to go kill myself because I brought it up to his family that he was doing drugs but here's the thing ladies,  his family already had suspicious about the cheating when it first began (year ago)  his family had suspicion about drugs because of his erratic mood swings and sneaking around.  I feel so used and horrible.  I made a fake pof yesterday and he's still on it.  I sent him a message and he treated me like dirt.  To top it all of I showed his mother and she said "I thought you were going to move on with your life so what do you care" his mother was upset with me because I brought up the drug comment but she's in denial just as much as him.  My husband was living with his father and step mother and they knew, they've actually been helpful.  I just feel like crap,  I can't understand how a human being could be as such.  I'm carrying his child, we were married.  He's told me he doesn't love me and hates me.  But everyone knew about all this, I was just too far away and stupid.  I feel horrible.  I'm trying to stay strong and not stress but I'm just in utter confusion.  Can't seem to wrap my head around this at all.  

[tori71717]

I went through almost the exact same thing. We got married and my husband started using different drugs with his friend then started staying out later and later and when he was home he didnt want anything to do with me or our daughter. And then we started to fight about his absence and thats when the abuse started but i sick around to see if things changed a little over a year into our marriage my sister told me he was cheating on me that he told her boyfriend (a friend of his he was using with) and i told her ok well ill ask him the same day another friend told me the same thing and he heard it from his friend who was a friend of my husband (who was also using with him so i confronted him and he called me a stupid b* and walked out a few months later on mother's day 2013 he told me he hated me and started a fight and walked out again i told him never to come back i found out a few weeks later the girl he cheated on me with had a new baby girl on the day he started the last fight we are divorced now and he is court ordered to keep clean or i gain full custody of our daughter. Currently things are better i have a new fiancée and we are pregnant with our first and my daughter is 4

[Happynat]

iam very sorry you are going through this , this is a precious moment in life where you should cherish and most of all be in a very calm environment.if I may offer an advice i suggest you part your self from him atleast for the time left of your pregnancy.nor your or your baby need /deserve this kind of stress.i my self iam 23 weeks pregnant and dealing with a difficult situation my husband has a gambling problem that has led us to bankruptcy expecting our second baby. Iam trying my best to keep positive and most of all stress free though it's very difficult. I hope that in all honesty you are able to put come this and somehow manage to enjoy this beautiful journey.❤️ my name is nathalie and I truely hope for the best for you !

[tamyoung]

Most moms can never see there sons done wrong for starters however I wouldn't waste my time as well. I would just have my baby and get divorced there are plenty of men out there and they will love you and your child. You are too young to waste your time and lifeon ssomeone who can't believe in you as a person and he didn't or he wouldn't have cheated on you while you are in the military