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inlaws from hell!
I'm 12 weeks pregnant! My inlaws are the worst they tell me I'm gonna be a terrible mother and that I'm dead to them! And they feel sorry for my child! Pretty much making my pregnancy miserable they threaten me and tell me to watch my back after the babies born all kinds of stuff! I just need advice! I know it's a ways away but do I invite them to my shower or what. The whole time this is happening my husband just sits there!? What do I do? They've turned everyone in his whole family against me!
My boyfriends parents (really his dad) is the same way... hes very abusive and violent. I did not invite either of his parents to my shower.... i hate his dad. It happens :/
Um no you don't. If they are threatening you and your husband is allowing this to happen you need to keep a very safe distance from the to protect you and your child. Also, leave your husband! What kind of a man let's anyone, family or not, threaten his pregnant wife??? Your main concern is your safety and you child's safety, period. I'm sorry that such s***** people are in your life.
It's just ridiculous there grown women they need to act like it! He let's them say all this stuff but if I say one thing back I'm a *****!
He claims it's between me and them and that's why he doesn't say anything!
i am going thru a similar situation. i am 6 1/2 weeks and my husband's family is stressin me to the point of fear of miscarriage. dont know what to do stuck. :(
What in the world happened to make them hate you? Wow. Thankfully my in-laws aren'tlike that . I feel for you:(
They never liked me from the get go they think I think I'm better just because I'm not trashy. If they think when my baby gets here its going over there without me there dead wrong my child will not go anywhere it's not welcome!
Ugh...I wouldn't even let my child over there at all. If they want to see your baby then it can be on your terms where you're comfortable and your husband is wrong. It is his place to involve himself and protect you no matter what. I believe that is in your wedding vows when you get married. He needs to seriously man up.
Do what's best for your baby and yourself. My boyfriend and his mom DO NOT get along and he does not allow the two of us to speak negative about each other or be around each other. She is not invited to my baby shower
Do what's best for your baby and yourself. Me and my boyfriend's mom DO NOT get along and he does not allow the two of us to speak negative about each other or be around each other. She is not invited to my baby shower
Thanks yall! I just wish he was more protective over me! :(
Honestly he needs to step up and say something. My husband doesn't put up with anyone saying anything to me or about me. He flips out on them. I have never done anything so he doesn't put up with them doing or saying anything. I'm lucky though I got one amazing husband.
But I do agree on not letting the baby go over there.
But I do agree on not letting the baby go over there.
My father in law is a hoarder and dosent seem to give one **** that his son is having a baby, his house is just a mess and full of dust and he does nothing about it! He dosent even want to get rid of his fat really old cat that literally sheds pounds of hairs everyday! Its so disgusting, i feel bad because im moving out w/ my parents since my baby can be living under these conditions, my boyfriend cant even make him take out his mess so we cant live together till this house is cleaned!!
You need to have a long talk with your husband, and if he says this situation is between you and his parents simply tell him that the baby situation, is between you and the baby..that will make him realize whats going on, if you are being threatened you need to take legal action first by documenting the threats, record them, save texts and VMs, call the police if needed also if you see no stop to this a restraining order may be the way to go, im sorry you have to go thru this i really hope it gets resolved
Honestly you need to cut compete ties with those people you don't need to see them be around them nothing and if your husband doesn't like it he can say something to them and make them respect you no man that loves and respects his wife will allow that I'm sorry even my husband that's a bit of a push over with his family the times I've argued with his dad he's backed me all the way and staying quite is ridiculous they aren't showing you respect so then be a b**** you owe them nothing my husband's family loves me but they don't cross the line they know I have no problems speaking my mind or writing anyone off your going to be a mother if you can't stand up for yourself how will you protect your little angel in this world you have to be fierce to protect your children. Good luck honey your going to need it get your husband to step up or you leave and you need to step up too it's necessary for your safety
Omg thats awful,your husband seriously needs to step up here and not allow his family to treat you like that..your having his baby and he should be protecting you and sticking by you not allowing that to happen..i tell ya if it was my hubby i make him sort it or id be backing his bags for him for just sitting back and letting his family talk to me like that
Sorry. But it sounds like your man just doesn't have the balls to stick up to his parents. Him and his parents would be out of my and the baby's life. You don't need the stress. I had a lot of stress with my 2nd pregnancy and ended up having a lot of complications because of it. I would leave and not look back. The best part of your life is right around the corner with this baby anyway.
Thanks everyone!!!!!
Seriously what everyone else says I wouldn't allow my child around them at all. If they can't respect you they have no business have the honor of bwing around your baby. And threatening you? That's bs. Dont let them be apart of any of your baby festivities. And dont let them ruin your joy.
Your husband needs to do something as well.
Your husband needs to do something as well.
Ive said to my partner that if his parents think they are having anything to do with our child they will start to respect and make effort with me.
If they cant make an effort with me, even if its just to tolerate me for his and the babys sake, then they cant have anything to do with my child. They cant pick and choose what part of my life they want to be a part of and when.
You need to stand up for yourself though love. Your husband should not be allowing his family to treat you that way, he should be standing up for you. Ask him if it was anyone else that wasnt his family would he be allowing them to treat you the same way?
If your partner was loving and supportive and didnt allow his family to treat you that way then id say stay but i think you have some serious thinking to do. If he allows it to continue what will it take for him to step in? Will it take for you or the child to be harmed physically before he does? Is it worth the risk?
Please think of you and the baby. Not just think of your physical safety but the emotional and mental harm that it all can cause to. Sending best wishes for a happy ending x
If they cant make an effort with me, even if its just to tolerate me for his and the babys sake, then they cant have anything to do with my child. They cant pick and choose what part of my life they want to be a part of and when.
You need to stand up for yourself though love. Your husband should not be allowing his family to treat you that way, he should be standing up for you. Ask him if it was anyone else that wasnt his family would he be allowing them to treat you the same way?
If your partner was loving and supportive and didnt allow his family to treat you that way then id say stay but i think you have some serious thinking to do. If he allows it to continue what will it take for him to step in? Will it take for you or the child to be harmed physically before he does? Is it worth the risk?
Please think of you and the baby. Not just think of your physical safety but the emotional and mental harm that it all can cause to. Sending best wishes for a happy ending x
Understand that the in laws will not change and they will continue being nasty until there's an epiphany or when the baby is born. Don't leave your husband because he say nothing to his parents when they are insulting you. Advice is have a conversation with your husband letting him know how you feel about everything and you tell him to stand up for you or else. And you stay as far as you can away from your rude parents literally.
No you don't! That's awful, they sound dreadful how do you spend any time at all in the same room with them?! I couldn't. I wish your husband was more supportive of you. I definitely wouldn't be spending any time at all with them & wouldn't let them near my child. I dread to think what they would say about you around & to your child. Try not to stress about it for both you & your baby but take yourself away from the situation as much as possible. Good luck dealing with it all.
Why are they so nasty to you? What is their big problem?? I only ask because it is so hard to picture someone treating the their son's wife that way, pregnant wife to boot. It always saddens me when families can not get along or be together but sometimes that is just the way it has to be. You certainly can't tolerate that kind of abuse! No one should have to take that.
I'm curious what your husband thinks. Okay, so he doesn't stand up for you (grrrr) but what does he SAY about it after the fact? Certainly you talk about it. I would need him in my corner on this. If he doesn't want a big confrontation, then at least support me as we break ties with them. Will he go for that or is he going to act like he doesn't want to do that to his parents?
but you have every right to protect yourself from abusive people. good luck hon
I'm curious what your husband thinks. Okay, so he doesn't stand up for you (grrrr) but what does he SAY about it after the fact? Certainly you talk about it. I would need him in my corner on this. If he doesn't want a big confrontation, then at least support me as we break ties with them. Will he go for that or is he going to act like he doesn't want to do that to his parents?
but you have every right to protect yourself from abusive people. good luck hon
I think you should talk to your hubby, tell him how you feel and explain how they are threatining you. For all the Ones saying leave your hubby i do not agree, i believe if he isnt hurting you himself it can be worked out, they dont have to be a part of your or your childs life but he does.. marriage isnt something you just walk away from though i do agree he needs to step up and protect you and his baby you are his family now... My inlaws ( mostly mother in law) used to be the worst... Did basically the same thing but skip to 8 yrs later and she has made leaps and bounds of improvements, granted my hubby stuck up for me (after i explained exactly how much it was hurting/bothering me) and we kept our baby away until she apologized and showed improvement... Now Almost 9 yrs later and we actually get along. Would have never dreamed it was posible, but dont Give up on ur hubby talk to him your childs life and well being should mean more to him than his moms opinion.
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