husband doesnt want to cut umbilical cord

[1stimemami]

My husband says he's not a doctor and doesn't want to cut the umbilical cord. I don't ask much but I thought this would build a stronger bond between the baby and him ... Guess not. he's just weird about things sometimes. he's not a big family guy and I'm. I try to teach him along the way is just hard sometimes. And like today I had a labor and delivery tour and I went alone. Kinda makes me sad when I see the others with their partner. I don't mind going alone most of the time because it doesn't even take long but when I do ask every once in a while is like he can't and doesn't want to. Anyway I just want to see what everyone thinks about this. I don't want to over react but I dont talk to anyone about it

[afurtado15]

My husband said he would do it ,but he wont know until your hes in that position .

[1stimemami]

Thank you all so much. I do feel a little better. Sometimes is nice to let it out and not hold it in. I've wanted to talk to him about it but dont want to argue or end up even more disappointed. I really do hope that he changes his mind and cuts the cord. It's something worth experiencing I think. yes for some is not a big deal but to me it means something. I let him have his time but sometimes I like having him with me. He does surprise me sometimes so lets hope he does this. Fingers crossed !

[Lacii15]

He's just scared is all. He probably doesn't know how else to handle the changes and he might not want you to know that. Maybe he's afraid of getting emotional or something and we all know men like to pretend they don't feel. He's probably an emotional rollar coaster inside, and that's how he's handling it. I knoww its hard. Men can be pains in the butts.

[mw89]

I bet he gets all excited and in the moment and just grasps those scissors and cuts that cord with enthusiasm. Lol
my bf us all about cutting the cord he actually gets to catch our baby as he is coming out too. We are excited about that.

[MrsMorgan6]

My husband said the same thing don't worry it's ok as long as he's present it's normal for them to be nervous and Have some reservations when it comes to cutting the card but you'll be ok let the doctor do it it was so funny when my husband declined but he did it right I'm from of the doctor am at least you husband told you up front so there's no miss understanding lol good luck

[lidilou]

My hubby doesn't make it to all our appts (ultrasound only), he is adamant about not cutting the cord and asked if he had to be there for the birth. In my head I did the whole "What a POS" but the one that means the most is his birth. I know he'll be there even if blood=hello floor but cutting the cord doesn't matter to me. In a way, they are on the outside looking in. All these miraculous things are happening to us. Some miraculous lol, they don't understand.

[schenner2]

He doesnt come to appointments unless i know there will be an ultrasound so 4 total throughout 2 pregnancies.  Honestly he doesnt need to sit and wait while i pee in a cup and have my blood pressure taken.  He always asks how things go.  Doesnt mean he isnt interested.  

[schenner2]

My hubby changed his mind too!  He originally said it was gross and he didnt want to do it.  Once she was born and they asked him he was all for it.  To this day he says he is resposible tor her adorable belly button!  

[dani0314]

I really don't think it's that big of a deal. My husband said he didn't want to cut the cord with our daughter and i just let it go. He wouldn't have been able to anyway because i had an emergency c-section. And he has literally only been to 4 appts throughout both my pregnancies. Just because he doesn't go doesn't mean he doesn't care. My husband is in the navy and isn't one of those privileged men that can just take off every single appt. He is also going to be deployed soon and not there at all. What I'm saying is yea some women always have their partner with them through appts, tours, everything. And they are luvky to be honest. But like i said, He will be there when he needs to be.

[sabbylopez]

Give him some time :) my husband said the same thing and he didn't even wanted to be at the birth either!! Of course I was frustrated but I didn't talk about it because it was his decision. My mother in law told me he was terrified of blood. He would see blood and start shaking. But when the birth came around he was there and he saw the whole thing and didn't pass out (surprisingly) and he even cut the cord when he said he wouldn't!!!

[cef1990]

He may change his mind when in there. My boyfriend told me he didn't wanna look down there or see her come out and he said he prob wouldn't be able to cut the cord, but when the time come as soon as the midwife said she could see her head, he was down there watching everything and he loved cutting her cord. He's now really excited to be doing it all again. Men don't really know what to expect about delivery and he's prob thinking he's gonna be worse than he will be. He may surprise you on the day.

[mommysoon2b]

About the umbilical cord I could understand that bothering him but he should be there for you in everything else.my boyfriend is at every Appointment I have that he can make it to. and most of the time he just got off of a 12 hour shift at work and then has to drive 30 minutes home then drive straight to my appointment which is another 30 minutes just for a 15 min appointment. You shouldn't have to do this by yourself. Me and my bf have tons of problems but he is always there for things about the baby!

[faithanduriah]

That's sort of ridiculous because literally the doctor holds it for you and shows you exactly where to cut. There's not really room for error there, and the doctor almost always asks. It's a special moment that only the father should get! My fiance is pretty involved in the baby stuff, every appointment he is there with me - he even sat through those awfully boring childbirth/breastfeeding classes with me. Not every dad has the time or patience, but sounds to me like your man needs to be more involved - this is special time that you can't go back and redo. You have the right to feel saddened or upset by this. You're growing a little person inside you that came from inside him! He should care more about showing that he's really wanting to be apart of it with you!

[traciv]

Awe honey sometimes it takes guys longer to get excited or to feel like they are a dad. From the moment you found out you were pregnant you felt like a mom. When I asked my husband when he felt like a dad he told me it was when he gave our daughter her first bath. Not when he found out we were having a baby or had a baby shower or set up the room or when he cut the cord.  
I am due this week with our son and he hasn't gone to any doctors appointments except the ultrasound and I had to beg him to set the crib up last weekend.  When I asked him about it he said it's not that he isn't excited about having another it's that he isn't as excited as he was with our first because he's already done all that before.
Once your baby is here I am sure he will be more excited and involved. I bet he is just super nervous about cutting the cord right now and he may change his mind. If he doesn't you can cut it if you don't want the doctor to do it.
Good luck mama

[canadian_momma]

My sons father wouldn't cut the umbilibal cord either, he wawas scares of cutting the wrong thing or doing something wrong, he tokd me from the beginning, it was pretty cool though because once he said no, they asked me if I wanted to and of course I did so I got to experience cutting the cord!! I woukd recommend it if hes adament on not cutting it, then you can :)

[qbkc]

I don't think it's that big of a deal that he don't want to cut it plenty of dad's don't. Doesn't mean he doesn't care.. and I don't see how it would really build a bond between them..