scary dream leads to more fear

[Missummer]

I had a dream I was raped. It was so scary and I wasnt able to do anything or else I would die. Then, I wake up disgusted and scared. I go to the restroom and I wipe and find out theres's dark brown discharge along with light cramping. Im scared and willing to get an abortion because I am superstitious.
Im emotional because Im single and stressed. I was really stressed the night before and all day yesterday, I felt like a ghost. I barely ate because I felt so sick. Yesterday, towards the end of the day I managed to pick up my spirit.
Not a question. Just scared.

[Missummer]

Thanks ladies! This is the happiest day of my life! I thought I was 8weeks and it turns out Im 12weeks. Im praying for a healthy baby. I dont care about anything else. Might be a girl (even though I wanted the gender kept a secret :/ lol)
My baby was moving around! I cant believe it!! :)) My once excited bf (now ex) is missing out!!!

[Mama_AyBee]

Just relax sweet.  I think most women have nightmares about their fears when they're preggers. I'm always dreaming my boyfriend is cheating on me then I wake up mad at him. He's even gotten used to the idea of me being angry with him coz of the stupid decisions he makes in my dreams...lol:-). You'll be fine.

[ThirdTimeACharm]

Sorry dear I just saw the past about him hitting you before and all... You need to be careful with out coming across as in telling you what to do and make sure he has really changed before he gets involved with you and your baby since that will become more of a priority and one of the most important person in your life. It's rare that they do change and this is from seeing my mother getting beat to my stepmothers and so on... Good luck in whatever you decide

[AngePants]

You can totally do it. My mom raised 4 children on her own without any child support from my father (I have no idea how he got away with it but he did). Its totally possible. Women are very very strong.

[Missummer]

I just had my first ultrasound and my baby is BEAUTIFUL :)
my worries are gone and Im just full of joy! :)

[ThirdTimeACharm]

Hey hun, I understand exactly what you are going through because I went through the same at the early stage, the father of the child never ask for termination of the pregnancy but instead ask for a DNA test... But he is ok now and we are getting on for now... My parents as grown as I am in my 30's tried to insinuate me getting an abortion done! But do you and stay strong, in time they will all get over it and your baby will bring a source of happiness....

[Missummer]

Thanks MsSmith2012
This dream was so disturbing because what raped me wasnt human. I pray my ex comes around. I wrote him a stupid stupid letter. I know it hurt his feelings and thus made him cold. I apologize because Im over what he did to me and I just want to move forward, only if he promises to slow to anger. He has a bad habit of blowing up and yelling. And before he would hit me and all the hitting has stopped.

[Missummer]

Peaches0329:Ive spoken to my mother figure and she told me respectfully and politely that she is against abortion in her own opinion. Her kind words touched my heart. But in the end its my body, but I will regret it and be tormented for years. Your words are from either high levels of hormones or natural itchiness.
Thanks to the other ladies understanding my irrational behavior due to hormones:) I feel calm now.

[MSmith2012]

I had a dream the other night I was I pirate teying to take over the ship the other pirates csme to take over the ship and tried to kill me..... I'm sure it's hormones.  Men can at first be excited the scared Becaus the realization of what is going to happen starts.

[jazmin0000]

I'm berly on week 4 and I get a lot of discharge its freaking me out and since I had a miscarriage about 4 years ago I am scared to death I really want to have this baby and also I get a lot of like period cramps if anybody has a comment or suggests anything I'll really appreciate it . thanks.

[Missummer]

I dont want to do either. Everyone is telling me to abort. All my life Ive been pro life. Ive been in prayer walks for women aborting their child. Your comment isnt any help. Its just YOUR personal opinion. Like the other ladies said, its just hormones freaking me out and making me think negative. I know what Im going to do in the end. Keep the baby.

[peaches0329]

U say adoption is out of the question!  Abortion should b out of the question bcuz that's death at least w adoption the baby can live. Sounds like you need to put your grown women panties on and focus on making the best life for you n ur baby. I'm not being rude I'm just being real.

[Missummer]

Adoption is not a choice. I know with determination and hard work I can manage. We are women and women can handle alot, thats why we have the babies. No offense to men. Because my Dad is a perfect example of an AWEsome single parent.

[Missummer]

Youre right. Thanks. Its that Ive been speaking to the father and hes been so negative when initially he was so excited and happy. Makes me sad.. now when we talk he wants me to have an abortion or set up to be adopted. I want neither. I tell my Dad about my pregnancy later that same day and he hints I should get an abortion. I feel like everyone I love is against me. My friends and mother figure are supportive, my only hope.

[AngePants]

It really could be hormones. I had the craziest dreams too when I was pregnant with my first and also with this one. I had dreams my husband was cheating, I had dreams I was cheating, I had dreams my baby was gone, crazy zombie dreams, just some crazy dreams. The dark brown discharge is normal, I had it with my first who is a healthy 2 year old now.  You can have this baby and if you are afraid of having to care for it on your own there are adoption agencies that can help you find a family. There are other options. You're not alone.

[dorothy701]

Sweetie this could just be hormones you should go talk to your doc for sure! Your baby is a blessing not a curse and our minds play nasty tricks on us I had dreams my bf was cheating the entire time I was preg with my second son to an unhealthy point turns out he was faithful as ever!  Try to stay calm sweetie your baby's will be worth anything your body can dish out!