Am I wrong???

[mommyagain2014]

I love my man's name. He is a junior.  He's also the father of an 8 year old son. His ex wife didn't like his name enough to  name their son after him. So, now that I have the opportunity to pass the name down, I'm told by outsiders that it would be wrong and hurtful towards his 8 year old son (who by the way adores his father). I don't think I should base a life long decision (my kid's name) on temporary feelings of an 8 year old. I feel like things can be explained to him and in time, he'll get over it. Am I wrong?

[Katiepeters]

Don't think me rude but a name is just a name. This child is 8 most kids that age think dads name is dad! He won't care what you name the baby. The number thing might just be him counting his grandfather 1st boy daddy 2nd boy him 3rd boy and baby  as 4th boy. He is your son. Give him the name you and your husband likes. Plus ur husband...it might hurt him to never pass on his name

[MicsWifey]

I think you should name your son after his father. I'm sure his 8 year old son would understand.

[mommyagain2014]

Thank you all, ladies:-)

[mommyagain2014]

His dad did ask him what he thought about giving the baby his name. The Son said "yes, he'll be the 4th, because I'M the third. " lol he doesn't quite understand the concept, which leads me to believe that it may be an issue when he finally does...

[PregnantWithTwins2015]

Honestly,  I don't think it is wrong there is no rule to say which child ( being the first or second or third child) should get named after the dad. I would just include the 8 year old and just say we are thinking about names what do you think if we gave the baby daddy's name? And see what he thinks and how he feels. Most of the time at that age they are to young to even understand that it's a big deal.

[kayso]

No! Youre not wrong...you cant base descions like that on what outsiders say. My advice : name your son what you and your husband want...talk to the 8 year old, feel it out see if he would even care! And if he does just explain that his daddy loves him just as much...a name is just a name.

[paintbunny7]

Do what you think is best. There is nothing wrong with the 8 year old having his mother's last name. It is my thought that last names are very patriarchal (a father 'giving away' his daughter, as if she is a possession or a woman changing her identity for a man). If you like his last name for your baby, do that. If you want to hyphen it, go for it. Do what's best for you. I recommend having an open talk to the 8 year old so he understands and can ask questions.

[quala220]

I don't think so because now he has a little brother that will always remember him of they father. If it was me I would I know someone who had two boys as well the first one GH m doesn't have his father name but the second one does ....