Annoyed

[BabyFergiesMommy]

Hi ladies, this post is mainly to vent. Back in March i ended it with my (unborn) daughter's father. Long story short, instead of having the stress of finding my own place and adding more stress to my plate, my parents told me I could move in with them until after I have my daughter and return to work from maternity leave. I am very grateful I have this support, but I have one problem...ever since I hit 35 weeks pregnant, my mom has had this idea in her head that my daughter can come any day now be because her bosses daughter had her baby at 35 weeks and didn't have to go into the NICU. I made the mistake of telling her that last Friday i lost my mucus plug and now (even though I am only just coming up on 38 weeks) every day she comes home from work she asks me if I am in labor yet, or when she is going to have "her baby" I don't mean to sound like such a "B" about it, when both her and my dad have been so awesome, but it's gotten to the point where I have started trying to avoid her when she comes home or when she asks "when will I have my baby?" I sarcastically say something along the lines of "oh! I didn't know you were pregnant and having a baby?!" When she comes home and I am just relaxing on the couch and she asks me if I am in labor yet, my blood starts to boil, because I am obviously not in labor. She says things like I am "being selfish and keeping the baby to myself" and I just want to be like "I am not even 38 weeks yet, so just chill the eff out!" I know a lot of it is my own frustration because I am so over being pregnant and to constantly have her saying and asking these stupid things just infuriates me. It would be different if everything she asks me wasn't about the baby or if "I am in labor" but it is. I just want the stupid  same questions to stop along with her constant suggestions to induce labor naturally...NO! MY BABY (not yours) will come when she is ready, so give it a rest and leave me alone! Ugh! >:|

[BabyFergiesMommy]

I know you are all right and she is just excited, which is why I try to just walk away when I start to feel annoyed. I am very thankful I have the support system I have, especially since I know how hard it can be for some women to leave her partner when she is pregnant due to all the uncertainty and that feeling of "how am I going to do this?" I guess I feel most annoyed by her because I see her every day. Being at the end of this pregnancy, I get the same annoying questions from EVERYONE not just her, so I just feel like there is no escaping and tend to channel all my built up frustration into what she is saying. I am not mean to her, so she has no idea I get to this point. Hopefully my little one comes soon so EVERYONE can stop with the same questions.

P.s Rachel, she is a Sagittarius and I am a Taurus. Lol we never really got along while I was growing up. It really wasn't until I moved out and got pregnant a year later that we started getting along.

[Tevesie]

Maybe have a talk with her and let her know those type of questions/comments bother you. She may not think nothing of it but hopefully a little talk will make her more aware. Good luck.

[jahawr89]

My mum calls it her baby as well. Drives me crazy, but I know it's because she's so excited and I don't want to ruin that for her. She also insists I follow her outdated advice. I gave up arguing with her and just smile and nod.

[Rachel__grace_]

Is your mom a Pisces by any chance? Lol my mom and mother in law both are (as am I) and both are notorious for asking questions about the obvious (they ask these things 365 days a year, not specially pregnancy related). It's always tough to move back home and deal with your parents as an adult. Then you add pregnancy hormones on top of it and girl, you got a boiling pot just ready to bubble over lol. I was still living at home when pregnant with my first (although i was only 17/18 at the time) then moved out to go to college and moved back in after i graduated since my son's dad & i had split up. So I've seen both sides of what you're dealing with (living with the 'rents while pregnant  & as an adult).  I hated when i would snap at my mom for little things like you mentioned. They love us unconditionally and they don't realize how annoying their being. So maybe just try putting yourself in her shoes... wouldn't it suck if any time you tried to make innocent convo with your child and they get upset with you? Or maybe try to imagine what it would be like if they unexpectedly passed away - then you would probably  wish more than anything for those stupid questions to be asked and you'd feel terriblev that the last convo you had with them ended in utter frustration. Idk those are just some things i try to think about when my mom/MIL get on my nerves, maybe it will help you too. Good luck, and at least you only have a couple weeks left til you meet your sweet little one!

[MommyDiamond]

Just look at it as she wants to help. Thousands of females would give anything to have a loving and caring mother like yours.  My brother''s third baby momma actually wants nothing to do with her or her soon to be granddaughter which im sure is a sucky feeling so just know that someone somewhere else is wishing for a mother like yours