Dont want to make ppl upset

[baby_aden15]

So I'm due in 3 weeks maybe sooner but the point is everyone wants to bring there kids to the hospital and I don't want a bunch of kids there its bad enough my little brother and sister will have to be up there and I don't want everyone mad at me BC I don't want little kids up there after I have my son what should I do ?

[Rachel__grace_]

I feel ya girl. Thats why I'm not telling anyone when I have the baby except for family. I dont want any visitors except the grandparents and aunts (my bf & I only have 1 sister each). With my last baby some of my friends just showed up at the hospital after I had my daughter without asking me if i wanted visitors (they just assumed since we posted pics on fb saying our baby girl was here that it was an invitation to come visit). I loved that they are thoughtful and were excited and wanted to come see us, but i was exhausted, my baby was in the nursery for a good part of the hospital stay due to jaundice so she had to be under the lights, and i was in pain from a post-delivery procedure they had to do because i was hemmohraging pretty bad. So yeah, this time around- I dont have facebook anymore & I'm asking my bf not to post anything on his account until the day we leave the hospital lol. Plus I already told my friends I was just going to have a "meet the baby" barbecue after he/she is born instead of hospital visitors anyways.

[erin_loren]

I told my family other than my parents and In-Laws to wait until I got home to visit. There's just too much going on at the hospital to try and visit anyway. If they get mad, then that's on them. People should be understanding of others.
It was award having visitors at the hospital anyway, I felt so exposed in my hospital gown. I had so many personal things I was dealing with after giving birth. I was trying to nurse a baby for the first time in mine and my newborn's life. Nurses were in and out of the room. It was much nicer when everyone came visit after I was settled at home.

[baby_aden15]

Thank you so much everyone makes me feel a little easier on telling them

[MissouriMommaofthree]

Make a birth plan and include on there whom you want to allow in to see you.  Also, it's okay to stand up for yourself and your newborn and tell everyone that visitors can come to your home to see baby when you are ready. It can be a week later. I told my hubby that I need him to have my back about this and tell his family no visitors at the hospital. My side of the family completely understand and waited until I was ready.   I know it's harder when you are younger and you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.  But you need rest and bonding time with baby and Daddy. And never stress at all in that room when you are trying to breastfeed.

[alexis444]

Most hospitals don't allow children under 12 into the maternity ward.

[baby_aden15]

Ok well this is my first baby and it really don't bother me with my brother and sister its just other kids but thank you all for your advice

[jessafig]

The hospital I delivered my son at only allowed my his little brother to visit and that was limited to a certain amount of hours a day and not past a certain time.

[Moluko]

Hospitals are pretty strict. The siblings that people are refering to are the brothers and sisters of your baby. Meaning, your other children are allowed. Other children (like cousins or friend's kids) are probably not.

[mw89]

You better just tell them. They will eventually get over it. Best wishes

[baby_aden15]

I'm not sure I just know when I was younger and my mom had my siblings I was the only child there other than my sister when my brother was born but its not that I don't want them to see the baby its just the kids don't listen what so ever and I don't think I can handle it and I feel its to many kids at once there will be my 2 siblings which are still young then my 4 cousins that never listen to what they r told they are out of control other than one of them :/

[lleesslliiee93]

The hospital here doesnt allow kids in the room once baby is born only siblings just because since the baby is a new born in can get sick easily specialy when its flu season they are really strict

[Moluko]

Are you sure your hospital allows children under a certain age to visit? Mine doesn't. Generally it is to protect pregnant, post partum moms, and newborn infants from disease. You might want to check with your hospital.

Keep in mind that you won't get what you want unless you say it. People want to come see you because they want to show you that they are happy for you. Most probably do it because they think that is what you want. If you don't want a lot of visitors at the hospital, just say so. Tell them that you need some time to rest and would rather see them later at home. Any considerate person would not think to be angry or upset.

If you don't think that will work, just don't tell anyone when you go into labor. No on will know you're in the hospital and you can have your peace and quiet. I only allowed my parents and my husband's parents to visit. Everyone else we didn't see until we were at home and I was more settled. I had an unexpected complication during delivery and lost a bit of blood. I was week, sore, bruised, and had tons of stitches. I can't even imagine if I let a bunch of people crowd into my little room.

Keep in mind that some people are really strict when it comes to visiting their newborns. They want anyone that comes to their house to have had their TDAP and Flu shots first. And that is OK. I wasn't that extreme but I definitely had all my extended family who were helping me take care of baby get shots. I definitely did not allow school age children for the first couple of months until  my baby got her first round of shots.

So my advice to you is...You got to do what you got to do! This is your journey. Don't worry about what others think. If they really love you, they will be respectful of your wishes.

[barcookie]

Tell them not to bring their kids. Simple. People that will take offense are not your people. I told my whole family to stay away (except my husband and other kids of course) as I wanted to bond with my newborn... you need to decide what's more important for YOU! :)

[kklove2630]

I the UK only the.baby brother and sister are aloud at the hospital. No other child.