Heart broken

[nandee89]

I'm a ftm that's going to b having twins...my bf doesn't want me to keep them..after 7 years things have gotten really bad...he's currently with someone else..The same female we would fight about and he would tell me he wasn't with. ..I'm really emotional and trying to find ways to deal with this but I am in alot of pain..I'm going to b a 25 yr old single mother of 2 something I never imagined. ..don't really have friends and no one to talk to..I spend alot of time alone which leaves me to just sit and think about things. .just need a hug

[klipscomb]

Those babies are all you'll ever need.  Focus on them you will be a wonderful mom! Just cut that loser loose and stay positive if he chooses not to be involved it's ok because you don't need him! This too shall pass! I don't know if you're religious but if you are find a church and get involved I know you will find support and your family can help a lot to! Don't give up and stay strong!

[nandee89]

Thanks everyone i think I am gonna tell her she may b the person to really help me. . My mom passed away so she will b their only living grandmother and may it'll help her with her grieving to kno she lost one Angel but will be gaining 2 more

[cricket87]

He left you for someone else who knew you were in a relationship. They both betrayed you. He no longer deserves to have an opinion, to see those beautiful babies or anything of the sort. The fact that you have satated that you will be a single mother means you want to keep those angels, which is exactly what they need. Being a single mother means you will have the joy of playing mom and dad, which only means they will look up to you even more. That right there is a huge blessing. Don't focus on the negative, you are only giving them power over you. Plus being upset and depressed is bad for the babies. Cheer up hun, you can do this.

[Nayy_]

Hun you should definitely let his mom know your expecting. She might be the savior you need and stay involved in the babies life . I wish you luck

[life_in_reno]

Im going thru the exact same thing. Minus the twin thing. I'm 17+1 with a little girl. My ex is marrying the girl.

[dianar7]

Congrats on your 2 little angels! Being a single mom has its challenges, but nothing you can't overcome. I'm also a single mom and expecting. No man is worth giving up your children for. The love you will have for them is unconditional. Best feeling in the world. There's mom support groups you can join for support. Helps me out when I have no one to talk to. Best wishes and stay strong!

[Tosha5847]

girl dont stress it.everything will be fine.I'm in the same situation but instead I left him because he was constantly cheating & lying about talking too numerous other girls.any mother can be the father role too!I'm doing it.he wants nothing too do wit our child

[mommaic]

Pregnant or not you need to keep living your life. If she was your friend go because it matters to you. What you can do is go just a lil late and did in the back. If you don't go are you going to regret it later?  You need to start thinking about what's truly best for you and your kids. Forget what everyone else wants, do what you and them babies NEED!

[wayfunmommy]

God has given you a gift, baby girl. You don't need him. I have a friend who went through the exact same thing. Her partner found out they were having twins and he bolted. Those babies are the light of her life. It's been are struggle, but they've all made it with out that jerk.  You and your babies will be fine. Be strong, Mama.

[nandee89]

Thanks everyone i appreciate the support. .This has really been hard on me..His sister passed away Monday who was also my friend. .I want to go to the funeral but I'm afraid I won't have it in me to keep it together esp if he's there with her and his mom doesn't know I'm pregnant. .I really want to tell her but I don't want to cause trouble

[mahamama]

Its going to be fine. do not worry.. You have just got a jerk out of yourlife which is a good thing.. you and your children do not need a person likd that in your life.. once the two arrive you will have no mord space for him and he will be history.. being a mom is very beautiful and is worth it.. stay strong

[jdance33]

I'm a single mother and as women we simply do what we need to for our children. You will be fine, and so happy and in love with your two precious angels. Its truly a blessing. Congratulations and maybe you can find some kind of support group! There are so many other women going through similar things that need a friend just as much.

[Shannir]

Keep strong! If you need help reach out to community agencies. They can help you feel not so alone.

[DjamilaSemedo]

i was kind of in the same situation , my boyfriend left me for someone else after he found i was expecting he was excited and then he just left i was devastated but you havr to keep strong got your little ones you being stressed is going yo affect them, try and get out more and make new friends , keep yourself busy a big hug xxx it gets better with time

[Geniej24]

There are so many single mothers out there. You won't be the first. His opinion shouldn't even be important to you since you two aren't even together. That's not his decision and you should never have to choose between your children and some guy. You have two blessings and an opportunity to be an awesome mother.

[emmasmommy122314]

I'm sorry to hear about that.. But doing it alone isn't always a bad thing. I have to do it alone too. Yeah its gonna be some work but make the best of it. You'll be a great mom to your twins. Keep your head held high and don't listen to anyone else except yourself.

[Mommy_to_be23]

it's guna be okay he obviously doesnt deserve you an God has blessed you with two babies thats just beautiful don't give up just pray for you an your babies an I'm sure God has a special someone for you