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take after his father or have his own identity.
I just had my baby LastNight and I'm so confused on naming him after his father or giving him his own name. I'm having family opinions but they aren't helping because they are one sided and a bit bias consider they aren't to favorable of the father or his family isn't favorable of me. When I drempt of having a son I always wanted to name him after his father but now I've finally found a name I love and would name my son... but the father is totally not on board with anything else other than him taking his name. What should I do?
Thanks everyone! I decided to name him after his father. He is a great guy and a good father he just gets on my nerves but what man doesn't!
One thing I've learned that his name will not take away from the love they will have for him. Once you make a decision they will get over it and life will go on. The sooner u make a decision the easier it will be on you. Good luck to u
I agree with AnnieBrooke! My BF wouldn't commit after we planned our pregnancy, he wasn't there when he should have been and so I named our son. He has my last name and I told his dad he can pay to have his name changed AFTER he does what he is supposed to for our son. I will be naming our little girl and she will have my last name as well. Children should only have their dad's last name if dad steps up to the plate and does what he is supposed to (more than just financially). That's just my opinion.
I agree with Annie Brooke, this is your child you're solely responsible for right now it it your choice. Even with my first child me and my husband made a joint decision on the babys name, if we were not married then I would have taken his suggestions into consideration but the final saw would be mine.
if you change the kid's name later in life and he finds out about it, he will probably not feel good about it. you should name your son what you want to name him and you shouldn't feel guilty or badly about it at all.
I'm in the same situation but I chose to not have a JR until I'm Married! It's your decision but changing names later on in life comes w/ a lot so just make sure you make the right decision for you and your son! Congratulations!
Good luck with the daddy.
I will be honest. No, I can't. it's hard because I've been so sensitive this whole time I'm building back up my strength to be strong. I don't mind him being named JR and I have the funds to always change it if need be. I will name him JR and if I need to change it I will just change it if my son wants his name changed. lol
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you sound like my mom
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Your mom obvioiusly didn't play hooky when they were teaching Life 101. Question is, can you stand up to Mr. Not-Commiting Boyfriend's emotional blackmail?
Totally different situation, frankly.
My husband would die for our son. He works his behind off, has never once looked at another woman, we've been married a long time, he maintains a good attitude. If he had wanted our son to be a junior, well, who would deserve it more? But he didn't, he was just delighted to have our son. (He's the fourth person in his family with his name, too.)
A boyfriend who is a pain in the rear and gone when you need him, who did not immediately put a ring on it when you got pregnant, is not deserving of the same consideration. If you love love love his name for itself (say he were named the name you have picked for your baby), hey go ahead, because it is your favorite. But you will be the one getting up at 2 am when the baby has croup, you will be changing the diapers, you will be struggling over the money, you will carry all the burden that moms carry when they are not married and when the guy they are with is not really committed. You name that baby whatever you want. First and last name. Tell the bf that the day you get married to him you will consider changing the kid's last name.
My 2 cents worth.
My husband would die for our son. He works his behind off, has never once looked at another woman, we've been married a long time, he maintains a good attitude. If he had wanted our son to be a junior, well, who would deserve it more? But he didn't, he was just delighted to have our son. (He's the fourth person in his family with his name, too.)
A boyfriend who is a pain in the rear and gone when you need him, who did not immediately put a ring on it when you got pregnant, is not deserving of the same consideration. If you love love love his name for itself (say he were named the name you have picked for your baby), hey go ahead, because it is your favorite. But you will be the one getting up at 2 am when the baby has croup, you will be changing the diapers, you will be struggling over the money, you will carry all the burden that moms carry when they are not married and when the guy they are with is not really committed. You name that baby whatever you want. First and last name. Tell the bf that the day you get married to him you will consider changing the kid's last name.
My 2 cents worth.
the only thing is he isn't my husband.
I believe every man deserves to have a Jr. If a man want to name his first born son Jr I say go for it. I did and I don't care for my husband's name but it was out of respect and honor. sometimes we have to give a little to get a little.
wow that's true. It's hard getting to him, AND I don't want to argue
If the dad has married you and you feel he is going to be a lifetime dad, that is one thing. In my book, boyfriends don't get to demand the privilege of having a baby named after them unless they are ready to make a life commitment to you who is probably going to do most of the work with this child, and to the baby.
Yes he is equally his son and I would want him to agree considering u and him both created life. I am in same position my boyfriend wants to name our son Caine but I'm against it. We haven't came to a name we agreed on and I'm due next week. He thinks if I just wait it out I would name him Caine but I told him I'm giving u the option to agree on another name while I am in the hospital if u haven't picked a name than I will name him myself. This has been a 10 month battle
I agree but isn't he equally his son too
Hes your son you name him what you want to name and use his fathers name as a middle name
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