How do I handle this situation?

[Marianna92]

Before my fiancé I got pregnant we had a great relationship & never fought. Around 3 months things started change. He started doing "little" that I felt he shouldn't be doing. Every time I tell him how I feel & why he's doing that he's response is "it isn't a big deal." I'm about to me 7 months and it's just getting worse. This past week I looked threw his phone and found him eating at this bar/restaurant that I've asked him not to eat there anymore and he agreed. I told him why he ate there and again his response was it's not a big of a deal. I finally snapped! I finally yelled and said what I needed to say. The next morning I get dressed for work he gets dressed and leaves without saying nothing. About 5 hours later he texts me saying "I got an apartment if you like to move in" (I already have an apartment) I was so taken back that he went and got an apartment I just never responded back. Tuesday comes no call or text. Wed morning I woke up with knots in my stomach, still no text or call. By Thursday night I find out he's at a bar so I show up there to see if he's with a girl. I didn't see any, but before I left we made eye contact I shook my head at him and walked out... He didn't even bother chasing me outside. Friday no text or call. I called him in the afternoon and told him he needs to get his clothes from my apartment (just to see if he would fight for me) all he said was ok. That was my last straw so I replied since it's so easy for you just to let everything go, maybe we should just settle this in court about who has the baby after she is born and all he says is okay. My heart was crushed. He didn't care to fix with me all week.  Idk if he's has someone else attention or he's just ignoring me and doing what he wants to do. I'm at confused because he payed for my school bought me a car opened a bank account that he deposits money for me for, have me a promise ring and now out of no where he just ignores me like I'm nothing. What is your opinion on this situation.

[Marianna92]

Okay I'll give him space and see what happens.

[babydoll56]

Maybe he thinks your to demanding and you just need to give him space ? If he wants to be with you he'll look for you simple as that if he doesn't then just do your own thing and worry about your child. When he|she is born then talk about taking him to court but right now just give it time that's the only thing you can do. (Time will tell where you guy's stand)

[Marianna92]

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[Marianna92]

Well I didn't put it on here, but it's actually because a month ago he told me he wasn't going to be into town (he works in the oil field) and I found out he actually was here in town. I didn't tell him I knew, and still never told him I've known he was here. I am the way I am now because I looked threw his phone 3 weeks ago and I saw he texted a friend, told her we were broken up and met her for a lunch date a few hours after they initially texted. Her response was "I had fun, next time let's grab dinner and drinks" I asked him what's that was about and he said it's not a big deal and just grabbed my stuff and he didn't try to stop me. And that's how things are starting to get.

[MrsBehr]

I'm with babynumber6fornow. I'm sorry you're dealing with this at all, but I think you're totally handling this wrong. If that man has done everything you've said he's done for you then he truly loves you and you're basically repaying him with complete distrust and nagging. Not cool to do with a guy. He clearly doesn't want to fight. You need to apologize for your behavior and ask him to bear with you. If he wants to go to a bar and eat and grab a burger then let him. Society wants you to believe guys are cheaters, but in reality most are not, especially a guy whose been sharing his life with you like that. Show him you're worth getting married too. I never give my husband a hard time over anything he does, and in return he actually wants to be with me. Time for a new approach girlie.

[19Lauren87]

I agree with babynumber6fornow. Trying to control your fiancé, setting ulrimatums, ignoring him, and making court threats is only going to make it worse. You need to trust your future husband and openly communicate with him. It sounds like you both lacked communicating about getting a new apartment. It also sounds like you may be expecting your fiance to read your mind instead of actually saying what you mean. Many of us do this, and it only makes problems worse.
I hope things work out between you two.

[DLedgez]

First off, speaking from experience, currently you are being what I like to call (and have been called) a hormonal b****. Not to be mean, but I promise you that there are many things you are flipping out about that really are no big deal. Again, speaking from experience. Really? You are flipping out on him for a particular place he eats? Is it really that serious? Honestly, I would have to say you have been overreacting. You stated all this man has done for you, and you have never fought. Now, you're pregnant, hormones are crazy, and you can't figure out why he's staying away? You're currently going crazy, which is normal for pregnant women. How about you take the initiative, and instead of waiting on him and assuming something is going on because of the distance between you two now, go to him and TALK. It will be difficult, but it can be done. Stop with the idle threats because you're mad. That will make him stay gone.

[babynumber6fornow]

Sorry for all the little typos here and there....nails are long!

[babynumber6fornow]

I'm not getting another option vibe. I think he knows your harmonal and he's just trying to give you some space. I think the prefers not to argue. You do sound harmonal. You can't tell the man what to eat or not to eat where and when. Maybe thts wht he says ok for everything. And why are you pregnant and tracking is every move to see if he has a girl? Wht could you possibly do if there was tht wouldn't put you and your baby at risk? Extra stress for nothing. Don't threaten him with court orders, the baby has not even born yet. Give him a chance to be a father. I'm sorry hon, I need more info. I think you should try and relax more. Stop with the orders, stop searching his phone, stop tracking his whereabouts,  stop telling him about courts and custody so soon. Just stop. Breathe and relax. Everything is fine. If it's not, wait till you hv your little one to deal with all the drama. But for now love, just take it easy. Ox

[dorothy701]

Well the lack of care sounds more like he has another option and I'm sorry for that. But if he is just one who doesn't k ow how to cope with stress he could be trying to act out much like a child does when they feel that life is changing in a big way. Men tend to be like children from time to time. I would tell you to just ask him do you have someone else and if not wtf is going on no more being all yes no maby ******* talk to me  

[Marianna92]

It's hard to decide because I'm not getting any feedback from him. He's just either doesn't say a word or just says ok. I'm very confused at this point. The thing I hate the most is he doesn't comfort me.

[mommynikol3]

Either he is just letting you be pregnant and hormonal cause he is scared of the upcoming events of becoming a father or he has found someone else. I hope for you its the first one ! Good luck ! Hope everything gets better!