I wish i could enjoy this

[Newbie727]

In the beginning of the year i had a miscarriage at 9 weeks with my first pregnancy. For not being on birth control for 10 years and being the first pregnacy it hit me really hard when i lost it. I am currently 16w5d with my second pregnancy and i find myself stopping any excitment or future plans for the fear that i will be let down again. Im hoping after my 20wk appointment i will feel more at ease. Does the fear ever really go away?

[Newbie727]

I found out when i went to my first appt that the heart had stopped at 8w2d. It was a missed miscarriage. I had a d&c a week after and was informed by my dr that they didnt get all of it out. So i had 3 options. Another d&c, a medicinal abortion or natural. I chose to pass it natuarally. I didnt want to take the chance of them scarring my insides up so it would be harder to get pregant. The sound of "medicinal abortion" makes me cringe so that definitely was not an option. Something that was so hard to begin with just seemed to keep dragging on. It actually took me a good 5 months to get over.

[AJsbaby]

A ftm here and im almost 37 weeks and I'm terrified every day still no matter what others tell me.. I dont think it ever goes away, we become so consumed by our babies and love them so much at an early age ( along with the excitement from others) and the thoughts on changing lives and future plans that the thought of losing this tiny human scares the crap out of us ( or at least I know it does me) I even called my dr at 32 weeks telling her how terrified he was ( dr google only made stuff worse) and I straight up asked her what my chances of losing my son were and due to what circumstances. She told me that once you hear a viable heart beat it drops some, then you hit 20 weeks and it drops even more and the later you get in pregnancy the less chance for you to miscarry is. Just know you've made it to your almost 20 week mark and you made it further then your previous pregnancy!

[RockRose]

Newbie,  with your loss at 9 weeks,  had you ever seen a heartbeat?  Or was it a baby that was lost early on,  and you didn't miscarry until 9 weeks?

You're nearly 17 weeks now,  which is a great thing.  If your baby has a good strong heartbeat,  you're good to go,  statistically.  

Best wishes.  Worrying is so hard.  

[blanca_15]

Im so sorry about your baby lost i know exactly how you feel. My husband and i lost our first baby last year at around this time i was 13 weeks and i can say it has been the most painful thing i have ever felt not only physically but emotionally and mentally. I went into a great depression i just couldnt take it. Until slowly i understood that sometimes things happen for a very powerful reason. When we decided to try again im not going to lie i was soo scared to do it because i was so afraid something bad would happen again. I left everything in Gods hand. Thank God i have had a very beautiful pregnancy i am now 34 weeks 4 days and at the beginning i would panic of everything. I gotta be honest tho i would say that fear really never goes away. I guess its already part of being a mom! I wish you good luck with this baby! Dont stress it too much its not good and you will see that when ever you feel your baby move or see him/her in an ultrasound moving inside of you, you will know everything is okay.

[Drixya]

We ttc for 2 years and then I got medication to help. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks last December and now I am 31 weeks. I was starting to feel better and excited when I was told my blood test for trisomy wasn't normal. I had a amniocentese and learn that everything was ok around 20 weeks. It took my husband and I until we bought some stuff for our baby boy to stop worrying and start to be excited. I still worry sometimes but I used relaxation technics and try to stay positive. Also feeling baby move everyday help to feel better.