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[demplez]

So I told my mom today that I was pregnant.  An there was no moral support from her at all. I was happy when I found out that I was pregnant. An she crushed my spirit an my heart.  What made it worse is she doesn't want me to have this baby. I told my bf an honestly she put so much thoughts in my head an made me second guess on having this baby. I understand that it is going to be expensive an I'm giving up my life. I'm only 23 years old it's my 1st baby. I just don't know now if iam making the right decision. Confused

[lizelibrandon140]

In all due reality it's up to u baby girl I lost my daughter she was 5 months old my mother was happy that I didn't become a mother but I was pregnant with my son when all this happened I didn't know I went into depression and when I found out I told my mom she was devastated and wanted me to abort I said no,  I left. Now I'm on my second pregnancy and I'm happy with my give year old son and the one that's on the way and she is still against it. Your a grown *** woman make a decision in yourself just don't regret it when u do god bless n congrats

[MahMahBeaR]

Congratz on ur blessing !!  :) but yes family can be so harsh i got my dads family back against me saying i was ruiening my life and so much for first graduate from high school and this n that calling me a **** like the rest of my town and it hurts becauwe u think they would be the ones supporting u but in the end its ur baby and its ur life uf they dont like it well too bad u do what u have to do for uand baby and if they ever wanna be in the life of the baby let them but if they dont no need to have fake ppl in ur life im a young mother n im doing so good and im proud of myself dont be sad be happy because god gave u the blessing of being a mom !! Goodluck mama ;)

[dawnmiranda]

Big sigh.  You have been given a miracle. Some one out there thinks you are ready because there is now a baby growing in you. You are blessed.  I was  20 when I had my daughter and she is now  13 and the most amazing young lady.  I know how scary this can be,  but you need to believe in yourself.  Trust yourself. There are so many people in this world who have an opinion about everything that you will do,  but when you have made your choice, at the end of the day you are the one who lives with the consequences,  for better or worse. There is a real live baby growing in you, but to everyone else this baby is just an idea. Hold on to that. As a woman speaking to another woman,  follow your heart,  everything else will fall the way it's meant to.

[Mrs_Becho]

I was 21 with two children...As soon as I turned 18 I head out on my own...my husband and I met in high school and have been together nearly 13 years..you can do anything you believe in ...being a mother isn't for everyone..but for some its everything! Small sacrifice to having the gift of unconditional love! Be strong and I do hope your family comes around! Congrats ;)

[milela]

Girl in 19 n almost due never been so excited in my life its a blessing!!! You dnt want to live with the regret on not having ur baby n getting rid of it. It'a what god wanted for u its the cards you were given just learn how to play them good luck :)

[Taybae88]

I had my first baby when I was 19 yes!! And as much negativity I got from people I was determined to follow my heart and not listen to was people had to say now my love my daughter will 7 yrs old in October & I'm  pregnant with my 3rd I don't give Heck what people say nor think . Follow your heart

[Mrs_Sara_Miller]

Congratulations firs  of all!  I went through the same issue with my parents and I was 18 when I first became pregnant with my son 11 years ago.  My parents wanted me to get an abortion as well. I did what felt right to me and his father. Now my parents adore my son and always apologize for telling me to have an abortion. You have to do what feels right in your heart and mind. It won't be easy but it's worth the ride.

[LibraMum]

Congrats.!! I'm 23 & expecting baby #2, creating new life doesn't end yours it makes it that much better. Don't get discouraged mama, we are not children living to please our parents anymore. My mom doesn't support everything I do with my life & it used to bother me but I had to realize I'm an adult (& someone's mom) so I have to live to make myself happy. As long as I'm happy with my decisions everyone else's opinions (my mom included) doesn't really matter. Think about it like this, she doesn't come to you for approval on the decisions she makes about her life now does she?

[mommytobe22015]

I'm 23 as well. Well now I'm 12 almost 13 weeks but I just told everyone an was disowned by my parents and asked to move out the same day. my baby's father I dont think even wants anything to do with it. as much as I thought of abortion adoption etc. its my baby and maybe having him/her will change my life for the better. So always go with your own gut :)

[jbird144718]

That's hard.  But this is your little one.  Not having your mother's support especially right now hurts alot. I was expecting my mother to be my number one supporter but so far she is my doom and gloom person. I honestly think she is still just thinking about all the scary hard stuff that's ahead. I'm sure in time she will get excited. I'm 30 and my mom still worries about me as if I was still little girl. The neat thing has been seeing people I never would have guessed step up and just shower me with encouragement and love.  This little one is going to be a blessing in your life.  I'll be praying for you. I am sure your mom well come around, but until then rest knowing God will bring others into your life to help and encourage you.  God doesn't make mistakes children are a blessing

[R4ch4el88]

Your not too young to have your first, your mum will come around with the whole idea n when the time comes she probably be more excited than you are, my younger sister was 15 with her first my mum was the same but then later on she got excited, be patient and I'm sure you will get the support you need from her

[mama2bwit2]

My mom did the exact same thing but I told her I was keeping the baby and after a few weeks she did slowly startvto warm up to the idea so I think just give her some space.

[connie1430]

Congrats mamma!! And im sorry that shes is making you second guess. My mother did the exact same thing when I told her I was pregnant with my first. I almost went and got an abortion but then I realised this is my life and my child. I do not regret having my daughter at all. You should just give it a little time. She might come around. My mom finaly did after I had her. She is now a spoiled brat and a grandmas gir. Lol. I am now 20 and pregnant with my second one and my daughter will be a year old next month. I wishyou the best mammas!!

[kwhippy89]

I was so excited when I found out I was pregnant, but none of my family was. My fiance's family on the other hand was ecstatic! But my family was so down about it, as time went on they accepted it and my mom even took off a day of work to go to an ultrasound with me. After that I knew it'd be ok and it was. Once my daughter was here everyone fell in love with her. As soon as your family(mom) sees the baby it will all be good. Babies make everyone happy. Maybe invite her to go to an ultrasound or a checkup when you hear the heartbeat and maybe that will help ease her into it.

[kaygeee]

Im 19 and currently expecting my first child as well. My mom is pretty heartless about my pregnancy and hasnt even felt my tummy. Its been tough, but at the end of the day the decision to keep the baby and move forward from this bump along the road is your own. Its not about your mom, its about you and this blessing God has given you. Stay strong for you and your baby and best wishes!

[yyeslpz]

Congrats on the baby.. I am so sorry about wht ur mom said.. dont feel bad I am 22 and I had my first when I was 16 and my mom told me all kinds of hurtful things she even said she wasn't going to love my baby.. and since he was born he became my mom's favorite grandchild ..before she new that I was currently preggo she still said all kinds of stuff for me not to get preggo from my now husband he is also my 6 yr old dad.. n when I told her she was happy.. she confessed to me that wht she said whwn I told her i was preggo at 16 was because she was scared for me to experience all the pregnancy n labor at such younge age..ay be that's wht ur mom feels even thought ur not a teen ... think about it before doing anything extreme. .

[ForeverAlways]

Hey hun I know the feeling my dad is my bestfriend one of my favorite people in the world but when I told him it was like he seemed like I had done the worst thing ever. I'm 19 years old this is my first and even tho he wanted me to get rid of my little one I simply asked him who am I to say who deserves to live. I left it to God because he gave me my angel. You have to be strong your mom will come around on the situation I am now 20 weeks and my dad is on my tail about doing what I need to do for a healthy little one

[ForeverAlways]

Hey hun I know the feeling my dad is my bestfriend one of my favorite people in the world but when I told him it was like he seemed like I had done the worst thing ever. I'm 19 years old this is my first and even tho he wanted me to get rid of my little one I simply asked him who am I to say who deserves to live. I left it to God because he gave me my angel. You have to be strong your mom will come around on the situation I am now 20 weeks and my dad is on my tail about doing what I need to do for a healthy little one

[Azariab]

I know exactly how you feel . . I was feeling the same exact way . . But a baby is a blessing && innocent they didnt ask to be here . . Trust me at first my mom wasnt happy but now she is my biggest support since my childs father decided he didn't wanna be around anymore . . My brother was extremely unhappy with me && we havent spoke since I found out but hopefully he comes around just like my mom .  Just keep faith && things will work out . .

[Louise270]

My family put me down too at first and used racial slurs to bully me into submission, but what they forget is that this is your baby not theirs, you are an adult and more than capable of choosing your own steps ... your life can still be fruitful as long as you stay positive and strong you will be able to do anything ... use your partner for support because this is up to you and you alone because it is your body ... your friends will support you and you will be ok

[CHXSINGNOV]

First off congrats!
Second I'm sorry your mom felt that way towards you, hopefully she will come around! After all that is her little grandbaby :)
And ultimately it is your choice about this. Do what will make YOU happy.
I'm almost 22 now and I can't wait for my daughter to be here!

[SpazyFlyGirl]

Listen to what your heart says, not what other people (even your mom) say. Don't make a rush decision you will regret, take time and figure it out. Far younger mothers than you keep their babies and they do a great job! I had my first at 24, I would not trade him for all the time or money in the world!